What I am Missing Most....

What I miss most is taking my kids to their activities and events. My 18 year old's choir concert would have been in a couple weeks. My 16 year old should be completing their behind the wheel training. My 13 year old would have been performing in The Lion King at the end of this month. I don't want to hurry back into the germy world though.
 
Oh, and I miss the friendliness we used to experience in public places. Like, people aren't even looking at each other now. ?

I have noticed this too at stores -- on the other hand, there are more people out walking in our neighborhood and people are now much more likely to say hello. They still move away 6ft but say hi while doing it.

At least the awkward dog greetings have stopped. Our pup dog is old, small, and scared of most dogs. People no longer expect her to come say hi.
 
*Waking up each morning and automatically and unthinkingly knowing what day of the week it actually is. Turns out I prefer 7 days a week to this never-ending Blursday!...
*Visits to the library
*Sunday brunch at my favourite local pub
*My nephews, who only live about 4.5 miles away, but who seem so far away
 
Eating out, family get togethers and going away for the weekend. But most of all, like Vivi, I miss feeling safe!
 
my 11 year old hugs me and puts his head on my shoulder....

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I miss my kids going to school. They HATE online schooling and so do I for them.

And I miss hanging out with friends. We all live for the 3-4 months of good weather so we can get together on a whim and grill together and just hang out and have a fire outside. I'm hoping it safe to do that again REALLY soon!
 
I miss the hustle and bustle and just going out when needed. No planning. NJ has always been a Go, Go, Go place... and it's so quiet compared to pre-pandemic.

I'm looking forward to getting my hair cut and colored back to my roots, lol! I'm looking forward to eating at a restaurant or hanging out at a bar with friends. Eventually, we will get out and about. I'm ready!
 
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I miss getting in my car for those just on a whim stores just as @Cherylndesigns mentioned. Just to browse around and when you finally get to the checkout you see something in a person's cart that you hadn't seen and like and there's a checkout conversation about nothing really, but just connection. Hair salons open tomorrow but now have gone through a lot of the god awful growing out stage I'm not sure I want to go short again, only to have all these closures repeat later this year. :banghead

I also miss the fact that my dh went out to lunch or dinner quite a bit and now he's always home and I mostly have to get him fed. He still has post cancer issues and specific tastes... Even carry out takes planning.
 
I miss not having a specific news item(in this case CV) shoved in my face EVERYWHERE- especially online. Facebook has obsessed with it. I am tired of clicking off of update offers. These are people's lives, not numbers- whether affected or ended- it is nefarious to me to see that so anonymously and coldly shoved in the face unsolicited. Tell me how that makes matters better? It is a proven scientific fact that negativity has a drastic impact upon health. So the CDC's response is to shove a problem into our faces countless times a day? Why not allow the public to seek out the info if desired? Does anyone else think that is just plain nuts? It's like they don't want us to move on...
 

YES!!!!! I just scrapped a page that I did when I told Bianca that our library is going to start doing curbside pick up really soon!!!!!!

the opportunity for a daytime nap when I've had a night of too many hourly (or more frequent) medical procedures. Naps were possible with the children at school, bit not with them at home.

My energy tank was on EMPTY yesterday, I just couldn't do anything. I was literally falling asleep while working from home, so I stopped and told B I was going to take a nap. I think she saw how EXHAUSTED I was, next thing I felt was her sneaking into my bed and asking if she could have some snuggle time. We had like a 2hr nap! She woke up energized and me NOT so much, I think I needed more time. LOL!!!

Feeling safe everywhere.

Yes, I get heart palpitations every SINGLE time I need to go out.

Everything outside the house.....long story but as I don’t drive I have to use buses mainly but due to COVD-19 there have been restrictions on how we are to get on or off the buses - at the back door which I can’t do without help so I’ve been at home the entire time of lockdown

That seems wrong, have you called the bussing system and ask what you can do?

I'm missing face to face adult interaction with friends and co-workers, my mom, the hair salon, the nail salon, and basically just being able to plan to go somewhere like weekend trips or vacations.
my quarantine mistake - I bought these touch up face razor things on Amazon that did a great job until I accidentally sliced a chunk out of one of my eyebrows :giggle

OMG, my daughter's unibrow is driving me INSANE!!!!!

Oh, and I miss the friendliness we used to experience in public places. Like, people aren't even looking at each other now. ?

Everyone is letting their nasty side out, and minding in everyone's business! I was talking (more like almost screaming) to my neighbor that I saw when I went walking. We were about 25ft away possibly more. I was asking her about her mom which is really sick with cancer. This guy is driving stops insults us and tells us to wear masks. I couldn't even believe it! First of all, he isn't wearing one to address to us, so what the heck! We were more than 25ft away and I was doing my best not to go hug my neighbor who is watching her mom died! So, yeah... I miss having people mind their own beeswax!

What I miss most is taking my kids to their activities and events. My 18 year old's choir concert would have been in a couple weeks. My 16 year old should be completing their behind the wheel training. My 13 year old would have been performing in The Lion King at the end of this month. I don't want to hurry back into the germy world though.

We have seen Bianca's viola's performance, viola's art concert, Young choir concert, Charity choir concert all come and gone. So I 100% understand!

This was the first year that Bianca could try out for the school soccer team and she was looking forward to that.

*Waking up each morning and automatically and unthinkingly knowing what day of the week it actually is. Turns out I prefer 7 days a week to this never-ending Blursday!...
*Visits to the library
*Sunday brunch at my favourite local pub
*My nephews, who only live about 4.5 miles away, but who seem so far away

LIBRARY!!!!!!!! Our library is doing arrangements to do curbside, thank goodness because I was about to start black trading of books somehow!

I miss my kids going to school. They HATE online schooling and so do I for them.

And I miss hanging out with friends. We all live for the 3-4 months of good weather so we can get together on a whim and grill together and just hang out and have a fire outside. I'm hoping it safe to do that again REALLY soon!

I think it's especially hard for only-child. Bianca has no interactions with her friends other than a bit on the phone. She hates the phone, so this has been extremely hard.

I miss getting in my car for those just on a whim stores just as @Cherylndesigns mentioned. Just to browse around and when you finally get to the checkout you see something in a person's cart that you hadn't seen and like and there's a checkout conversation about nothing really, but just connection. Hair salons open tomorrow but now have gone through a lot of the god awful growing out stage I'm not sure I want to go short again, only to have all these closures repeat later this year. :banghead

I also miss the fact that my dh went out to lunch or dinner quite a bit and now he's always home and I mostly have to get him fed. He still has post cancer issues and specific tastes... Even carry out takes planning.

Hubby started working 3 weeks ago and the first time eating out he got SUPER sick, he barely made it home. So from that day I have been making him lunch to take to work. The other day Bianca wanted to have a second plate from dinner and I had to tell her that she couldn't because it was dad's lunch. I felt terrible, but that is what's going on.
 
@Dalis its one of those things that because I don’t have a really obvious visual disability or use a wheelchair for example the chance of the bus drivers coming to the party are slim to nil and it’s not worth the fight to get it sorted when I have alternative means of transport if I chose to go out (I also get half price taxis but til the end of June they are free) - my friend who does have some eyesight but uses a white cane as well has been told to get on the back door of buses so if she’s having issues it’s not even been worth my while to try. If I need anything urgent my mum picks bits up as she’s been doing the grocery shopping during the first five weeks of lockdown or she picks things up before/after work over the past two weeks. The main reason it hasn’t bothered me too much is I was considered to be of higher risk for COVID-19 due to existing health conditions so I was under self isolation orders anyway and there’s no way I’m going to a shopping mall or big box store for awhile now that we can after 7 weeks due to crowds.
 
So the CDC's response is to shove a problem into our faces countless times a day? Why not allow the public to seek out the info if desired? Does anyone else think that is just plain nuts? It's like they don't want us to move on...
I deactivated my personal FB page a few years ago. One can't see unwanted anything if one isn't on FB, and right now I can't imagine having to see posts of my friends/family/acquaintances breaking SIP orders or reposting conspiracy theories. As for the CDC, however, I'd love to read what they, a supposed-to-be-nonpartisan, medical organization based on rigorous science has to say. It seems like they are using FB to reach people because people aren't listening. We can't move on when we're still going through.
 
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It seems like they are using FB to reach people because people aren't listening. We can't move on when we're still going through

I'm really glad each state is determining what a governor decides is best for that state. I trust scientists to give me science facts just as I am most likely to trust an experienced cookbook writer on recipes not vice versa. I'm glad our state is taking it slow. I'm positive and have hope for the future but this is not a flip the switch back to 'normal' imho.
 
I'm really glad each state is determining what a governor decides is best for that state. I trust scientists to give me science facts just as I am most likely to trust an experienced cookbook writer on recipes not vice versa. I'm glad our state is taking it slow. I'm positive and have hope for the future but this is not a flip the switch back to 'normal' imho.
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Agreed! I'm also glad our states are working with each other and with other nearby/neighboring states to figure out what to do and when to do it. This isn't (and never will be) easy or quick. Hopefully by respectfully working together and understanding that a virus doesn't care about borders, states can slow this as much as possible.
 
I miss getting dressed up for church. I miss seeing my friends there & getting all my hugs for the week. I miss getting to sing in a big group.

I miss family dinners on Thursday night at my parents' house. I miss hugging my mom.

I miss being able to run down to Walgreen's for this or that. I miss making multiple shorter trips to buy groceries. I miss being able to buy chicken tenderloins vs. br*asts that I have to cut down and touch (yick!) and can never get a uniform size. I miss being able to select between different brands or types at the store.

I miss going to Table Group and getting to have interesting face-to-face conversations with other adults.

I miss being able to go fun places with my kids.

I miss not having to worry about my parents being exposed and being more likely to become very sick due to their chronic health conditions.

I miss being able to celebrate holidays & birthdays with my family.

I miss looking forward to our usual summer activities: the beach, live outdoor concerts, strawberry picking, Fourth of July fireworks shows, the school fun fair, Vacation Bible School, camp, etc.
 
You know what I don't miss, though: waking up at 7:30 am to get everyone where they need to be on time or the long 2 hour round-trip commute every day.
 
@Dalis its one of those things that because I don’t have a really obvious visual disability or use a wheelchair for example the chance of the bus drivers coming to the party are slim to nil and it’s not worth the fight to get it sorted when I have alternative means of transport if I chose to go out (I also get half price taxis but til the end of June they are free) - my friend who does have some eyesight but uses a white cane as well has been told to get on the back door of buses so if she’s having issues it’s not even been worth my while to try. If I need anything urgent my mum picks bits up as she’s been doing the grocery shopping during the first five weeks of lockdown or she picks things up before/after work over the past two weeks. The main reason it hasn’t bothered me too much is I was considered to be of higher risk for COVID-19 due to existing health conditions so I was under self isolation orders anyway and there’s no way I’m going to a shopping mall or big box store for awhile now that we can after 7 weeks due to crowds.

I just want to give you a big hug!
 
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