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I LOVE reading this Kimberlee!! I think age is a relative thing. I've always struggled with having friends in my life. I really think most of that issue has been me. I was married young, at 19 and had my first child by 21 and my last by 32. We have 6 children. Then the raising part came. I just did not have time. I was part of a church (another long long story) that I never really felt welcome in but I did have a couple ladies that I could call and go over for a visit during the day if I felt the need for company and for my children to play with other kids. Years ago my sister invited me to come to her book club and I really enjoyed those ladies, but I never got calls to hang outside of the group.

We have been going to a new church for the last 6 years and I am part of a Woman's Bible study group that meet every Wednesday morning and we are of all different ages. I have never been so close to a group of ladies before! They understand me. They are loyal. What is spoken in the group. Stays. In. The. Group.

I would love to say I have a close friend whom I've had since childhood, even one. My sister who is only 2 years younger than me. Has a large group of friends. A few from childhood. Sometimes I get so jealous! WE used to get together at least once a week for lunch. I was always the one who called. I got so tired of feeling like I was the only one to make the effort so, a couple years ago I just quit calling to see if she would be the one to call me. She didn't. Then I got hurt feelings that she was not calling that I then refused to call her................. long story short we just are not close anymore. I've talked to her but it has never made a difference.
 
I can very much relate to the not having a lot of friends bit. I used to have loads of friends when I was younger and in high school. But then college came around and I had a great time at school with my classmates. But not much after school. It was all connected to college. And when I graduated, it all watered down (although thanks to Facebook, there still is some contact). I did make a really important friend when I lived in Canada but I haven't seen her in two or three years. We don't talk a lot but I feel certain that she would be here if anything happened.

At the first schools I worked at I easily connected with the older women (and men!) I was calm, respectful and full of energy for my work. They appreciated that greatly and one of them once said I had the 'like-ability factor' when she arrange for me to get extra hours, that I really wanted, over someone else. Those women really helped me build up myself both as a teacher and as a person. It gave me so much confidence.

But I am also very glad that at my current school there are a lot of young colleagues I really connect with. I really want more friends and I feel like some of these girls might really become friends when I give it a change. It's a little difficult to admit it, I feel like I might jinx it by doing so.
 
[QUOTE=" Am I the only one who is totally an older-woman groupie?[/QUOTE]

this made me snort!

No - I have always sought one out. I helped start a Heart to Heart ministry at my church which is based on Titus 2 where older women are matched up w younger ones. My match and I are still friends - almost 20yrs later. So now, I'm the older woman and mentor younger women :)

Such a joy - that is full circle.
 
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