Nosey Nancy | Pad Patter 11/9

[Kiana]

nosy (or) nosey: of prying or inquisitive disposition ...Meriam Webster

So yesterday at work my co-workers were talking about if they won the lottery how hard it would be to keep it from their extended families and that got me thinking about nosey family & friends.

So tell me, do you have one or more nosey family members that are always in your business? How do you handle that?

 

[scribler]

We don't really have a problem with that. Thank goodness.

 

[jk703]

Oddly, I don't think we have a problem with that in my family. My mother says otherwise, lol! (she married into the family, and it didn't always gel... it was easier for me). I wish we were all up in each others business a little more. Not annoyingly like, but a little more. I wish my family got together more often and was a little closer.

 

[HavaDrPepper]

Thankfully, no.

 

[umyesh]

My side is more nosy than my husband’s side. We only share what is necessary in order to avoid drama.

 

[Memaw2Wm]

Nope, although occasionally one or more of my sisters will call me when my grandson or his mother post cryptic messages on Facebook to find out what the heck is going on with said grandson.

 

[bestcee]

So tell me, do you have one or more nosey family members that are always in your business? How do you handle that?

Yep! My dad is the nosiest middle school girl you know! That one that knows everybody's business, and tells everyone? In high school, my friends used to tell people that my dad was the biggest gossip they knew.

So, how do I deal? We treat him like social media. If it's not something I would post on Facebook - I don't tell him. I'm also cautious in what I tell my mom for the same reason. She's pretty good at not telling dad things when we ask her not too, but I still withhold some things.

My mother in law has no filter currently (dementia), so we also do the same. If it's not something we are okay with everyone knowing, we don't discuss it in front of her. We never know what she will share randomly to friends or strangers or other family members.

 

[mcurtt]

We may have the other extreme. On DH's side of the family, we generally aren't told anything about family members. People know, but they don't say a thing. It can be upsetting. We have found out about relatives who passed away weeks or even months after the event. And while we weren't exceptionally close, we probably would have gone to pay our respects. Not a lot of gossips anywhere here.

 

[mary kate]

So tell me, do you have one or more nosey family members that are always in your business? How do you handle that?

Oh yes. I have a large extended family of aunts, uncles, cousins, and etc. And almost every other female family member is a bit of a Nosey Parker (or a Rose the Nose)! It honestly doesn't bother me too much: they're family, and I love them, and anyway, I've learned how to edit the flow of information over the years!

 

[IntenseMagic]

Fortunately, no one on either side of our family is like that at all...at least that I know about lol

 

[Pachimac]

Unfortunately, since my Mom and Dad's deaths, my family is all spread out and we don't talk much anymore so there's no time for it.

 

[Scrapping with Liz]

Nope. Although sometimes I wish my family was a bit more nosey. Admittedly my side of the family is a don't ask, don't tell sort of family. Which can be a nice thing...but also, sometimes you want them to ask.

 

[Kiana]

We don't really have a problem with that. Thank goodness.

Good for you all!!!

Oddly, I don't think we have a problem with that in my family. My mother says otherwise, lol! (she married into the family, and it didn't always gel... it was easier for me). I wish we were all up in each others business a little more. Not annoyingly like, but a little more. I wish my family got together more often and was a little closer.

I can understand that

Thankfully, no.

Good!!!!

My side is more nosy than my husband’s side. We only share what is necessary in order to avoid drama.

I can totally relate to this we have a similar situation with DH's family

Nope, although occasionally one or more of my sisters will call me when my grandson or his mother post cryptic messages on Facebook to find out what the heck is going on with said grandson.

Ooof those cryptic messages will get you everytime. rofl

Yep! My dad is the nosiest middle school girl you know! That one that knows everybody's business, and tells everyone? In high school, my friends used to tell people that my dad was the biggest gossip they knew.

So, how do I deal? We treat him like social media. If it's not something I would post on Facebook - I don't tell him. I'm also cautious in what I tell my mom for the same reason. She's pretty good at not telling dad things when we ask her not too, but I still withhold some things.

My mother in law has no filter currently (dementia), so we also do the same. If it's not something we are okay with everyone knowing, we don't discuss it in front of her. We never know what she will share randomly to friends or strangers or other family members.

Oh wow, your dad....that's too funny!!!!!

We may have the other extreme. On DH's side of the family, we generally aren't told anything about family members. People know, but they don't say a thing. It can be upsetting. We have found out about relatives who passed away weeks or even months after the event. And while we weren't exceptionally close, we probably would have gone to pay our respects. Not a lot of gossips anywhere here.

This is similar to my side of the family.

Oh yes. I have a large extended family of aunts, uncles, cousins, and etc. And almost every other female family member is a bit of a Nosey Parker (or a Rose the Nose)! It honestly doesn't bother me too much: they're family, and I love them, and anyway, I've learned how to edit the flow of information over the years!

Editing is everything!!!!

Fortunately, no one on either side of our family is like that at all...at least that I know about lol

that's good lol

Unfortunately, since my Mom and Dad's deaths, my family is all spread out and we don't talk much anymore so there's no time for it.

awww

 

[Karen]

We really don't have any nosey family members at all on either my side or my hubby's side. It's rather nice. I definitely tend to the more private type of person, so it's nice not to have anyone that is too nosey. I have some coworkers though that have NO limit to their nosey-ness!

 

[Kiana]

We really don't have any nosey family members at all on either my side or my hubby's side. It's rather nice. I definitely tend to the more private type of person, so it's nice not to have anyone that is too nosey. I have some coworkers though that have NO limit to their nosey-ness!

That's a good thing! lol

 

[littlekiwi]

Yes, I’ve got a nosey family member - I’ve ended up not sharing stuff that I know they’ll have a dissenting opinion. For a certain time I blocked FB posts from her to save stress/drama.

 

[Kiana]

Yes, I’ve got a nosey family member - I’ve ended up not sharing stuff that I know they’ll have a dissenting opinion. For a certain time I blocked FB posts from her to save stress/drama.

sometimes those steps are necessary!

 

[bcgal00]

That's not an issue with my family, thankfully.

 

[amien1]

If I say no does that me it's ME!?!?!?!?

Honestly- I am the one that seems to keep everyone informed of the big things, babies/funerals/holiday gatherings. I'm not sure that makes me nosey- it's just I'm a planny plannerson & most my family besides my mom is happy to let me take those reins!

 

[StefanieS]

Interesting question.
My Mom was always nosy, but since she passed away 6 years ago, no one in the family chats anymore. My family are still hiding out from covid. So haven't seen them, even though they're local, for 3 years. Hubby's side of the family seems to have grown more distant since the children are all adults. The parents don't speak out of the house. I think that can be wrong too sometimes, when someone is ill and in hospital - I think the family should know.