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Sending positive vibes, thoughts, and prayers to you. Lies hurt, lies from loved ones are even worse. But you are definitely a strong, caring, beautiful woman who obviously have so many who truly care for and love you! Remember who you are when things around you are out of your control, focus on the joy no matter how small it may be, and know it will be just fine. I often think of the Rodney Atkins song that goes "If you're going through hell, keep on going......you might get out before the devil even knows you're there". And this part "But the good news is there's angels everywhere out on the street, Holdin' out a hand to pull you back up on your feet". And they are right up there ^^^ :)
 
IntenseMagic said:
Sending positive vibes, thoughts, and prayers to you. Lies hurt, lies from loved ones are even worse. But you are definitely a strong, caring, beautiful woman who obviously have so many who truly care for and love you! Remember who you are when things around you are out of your control, focus on the joy no matter how small it may be, and know it will be just fine. I often think of the Rodney Atkins song that goes "If you're going through hell, keep on going......you might get out before the devil even knows you're there". And this part "But the good news is there's angels everywhere out on the street, Holdin' out a hand to pull you back up on your feet". And they are right up there ^^^ :)
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Thank you. I did a page on Anne's song. This one I'll have to think about but why not. The message gets in really well when you scrap it. Thank you for the compliments.
 
I'm feeling better. Depression is gone, just a aching heart. You have all helped so much. As I told IntenseMagic, I had to scrap Anne's song as there was so much fun in it. Now I have another one. I love srapping songs and quotes because it keeps going through your head while you're working on the layout. Thank you so much.
 
People, even family, say hurtful things because of their own pain and needs, not yours. Striking out against others is again a defence mechanism to protect themselves against hurt which may be real or imagined. You have to keep this in perspective. This isn't about something you may or may not have done or said in the past. You do not own the blame if someone could not ask for what they really need honestly, and face their own deficiencies. Guilt is a manipulation game. Don't play.
Always help if you can, let it go if it's outside your control and try to stay positive.
 
Lindzee said:
People, even family, say hurtful things because of their own pain and needs, not yours. Striking out against others is again a defence mechanism to protect themselves against hurt which may be real or imagined. You have to keep this in perspective. This isn't about something you may or may not have done or said in the past. You do not own the blame if someone could not ask for what they really need honestly, and face their own deficiencies. Guilt is a manipulation game. Don't play.
Always help if you can, let it go if it's outside your control and try to stay positive.
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I needed that so much. You hit the nail on the head. He said one thing but needed the opposite and so resents me for not doing what he needed. Thank you for helping me put it into words .
 
Oh my goodness Carilyne, I am so sorry to read this and hear about the sadness and pain you have been going through in the last 24 hours. My heart breaks for you. Like others have said ... you are loved here. Always know that! Sending more love and hugs your way!
 
carilyne said:
I needed that so much. You hit the nail on the head. He said one thing but needed the opposite and so resents me for not doing what he needed. Thank you for helping me put it into words .
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My pleasure to have helped in any way, @carilyne. As always my positive thoughts are with you. Stay strong.
 
Sending hugs and prayers from me too! Stay strong!
 
I'm thinking of you Carilyne! Sending lots of positivity your way!
I don't have advice so I'll just :happyhug
Also I'm glad to read you're doing better then yesterday. Stay strong!
 
Aw, Sweetie! Hugs to you! Families can be the best and worst of life. I'm glad you are feeling a little better. You are strong, and I've loved seeing you grow stronger this year. I'm glad the art journaling is helping!
 
Oh my dear! so sorry to hear this - I have had a similar experience, not the same, but learning that years past were all a lie - and it is horrid to live through - but I can tell you are strong, and this will make you stronger in the end. Big hugs! and don't worry about posting if you don't want to - the important part is to work through the grief - because when we learn that what we thought was real or true was a lie - we grieve the loss of what we thought our life was. grieve, vent, allow yourself to feel the depth of it. And if you need someone to vent to I am willing to listen - from my experience it often helps just to get it all out.

big hugs to you @carilyne
 
I'm glad you are feeling better. And what @Lindzee said. It is on them when they lie... and they shouldn't make you feel guilty for challenging it. You aren't responsible for their behavior, even when they want you to own it or they blame you for it. I've dealt with toxic family issues for years, so I totally know where you are coming from and how it does hurt and break you. Hang in there!!!

Hugs to you, sweets!
 
I'm so sorry you are going through this! It sounds like you are trying to do the right things & you are definitely not alone.
 
Horrible thing to be going through Carilyne, hang in there and take each day as it comes....... you are stronger than you know! thinking of you and sending you lots of positive thoughts! hugs as well! xx
 
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