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bestcee

bestcee

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I'm so sad to hear the news about Dawn. After I told my husband, I sent him another text.

"Do you know who to contact if something happened to me?"

He responded with two names, and I was glad he knew. He asked if I knew what online groups I should contact for him. And, I didn't. There's the obvious Facebook and Twitter. But he also has some friends on Xbox Live. When we run our emergency drill next week, we are going to make sure we have those online communities done as well to contact.

But it made me think. Do you have a "Make sure you tell these online groups" in your will, or somewhere? Because I think of friends that have gone, and I hope life just got busy.

I want you to know I appreciate your friendships, even if you only live in my computer. And I hope you have a Just in case plan so we can celebrate knowing you.

And I'm sorry for being macabre today.
 
we haven't had that conversation, TLP is my online world so i'd hope he would think to but i dont really know
 
Courtney, I've been thinking about the same thing lately and even more so today. Let's not think of it as macabre, but as practical.

DH has some info about my online life, but I feel like we need to have all of it written down and kept in our little safe. He's not really online, but I just asked "is there anywhere...?" and he looked at me like I'd grown a second head and scoffed, "No." But then he said "I know you have your TLP," which earned him a lot of points.

And I thank the TLP community for being what it is. The whole digiscrap online community is great, but TLP is my home and I appreciate every single person who makes it what it is.
 
I've had the "please go to Shutterfly and print all my books and digiscrap pages I might not have printed yet" with my husband, but not the online communities. I keep meaning to make some notes about my blog and such too. It's easy to think that we have lots of time. :( I was so sad when I saw the announcement of Dawn's passing on The Lilypad FB page earlier today.

TLP is such a happy place for me. I don't chat a lot, but I do genuinely appreciate the warm, friendly community. It's nice to have a "safe" place to hang out on the web and just enjoy.
 
My husband doesn't do social media but he does have access to my Facebook page (to my detriment occasionally when he gets it into his head to prank me, have to watch him!) So I guess that if anything happens, that is where the news will be.

A sad day but a good point to bring up.:beat
 
Totally something that has been on my mind as well, and I don't think my DH or family would have a clue outside of Facebook. Years ago, my mother started her "red basket". It's a big red basket that is full of all things anyone would need to know "just in case". She used to leave it on the kitchen counter when she and dad would go out of town and I would tease her about how morbid that was, but the older I get the more I realize that she is a very wise woman.

It is such a sad day, but I love all of you and the family that we have here :heartlub
 
I only have two people left in my family to contact so that's a breeze for my hubby. I think he'd be smart enough to login here and message someone, anyone.

I'd be contacting his mom and stepdad...I could message his bio dad on FB, but who knows if he'd read it or even care for that matter.

Might say something on FB, but how soon after either of passing, who knows...not a top priority. We're both in groups, he posts in his more than I do in the ones I'm in...I'm more of lurker, collect information and maybe share tid bits here and there, so no real connections with anyone for me.

After the nightmare my mom went through after my dad passed away, I made sure every.single. login and password is written down so bills can continue being paid without having to establish new accounts etc.
 
We discussed and started a list of financial accounts & passwords, life insurance, retirement accounts, etc. But we have not talked about online communities. My husband does not really do Social Media so it is just me that has accounts. I talk about my scrapbook friends but I rarely say "The Lilypad". Guess I should fix that.
 
I'm not sure my husband would even bother to let anyone know online. He doesn't do social media, no Facebook or Twitter or anything really. I can barely get him to use his cell phone. He also thinks all of my online friends are like really 80 year old men. :sigh: I'm sure that one of my friends would say something on Facebook so that at least some of my online friends would find out. I might have to let some of my friends know to post in case my husband doesn't want to.
 
I have been very "down" today and just can't get Dawn's passing out of my mind. I'm glad you started this, Courtney @bestcee - I have a notebook in my top desk drawer that has all of my online information in it and my hubby could look in there. We don't either one do Facebook, and he's just started to look on Instagram. I'm going to give my daughter my login information for Instagram tomorrow.

I have told my granddaughter (the photographer/artist) where all of my pictures, layouts, etc. are so she'll be able to retrieve them. The only online community I'm seriously involved with is TLP and one other on a very small basis. I need to tell my daughter and my sister to get in touch with somebody here and there.

I love all of you, too and am so thankful that I found this loving, caring community of like minded artists.
 
Years before my parents died, they gave me a red binder with all the important papers..., wills, powers of attorney, insurance, bank account, etc. This turned out to be the best thing for me! I had all the info I needed! They also included passwords for things on their computer. Periodically my dad would mail me something -- an update to the red book he would say! So I started an "important book" for my kids. I have POA's, wills, finance information. I need to update it with passwords and online communities! Last week a friend of mine unexpectedly died from an aneurysm while she was at a meeting. It's much easier for those left to have the information necessary!
 
Amber's passing made me think about this the othr week but now with Dawn's passing suddenly (still crying), I really must remember to write it out for my daughters (hubby is such an online noob) so they can at least tell Laura and post to my FB. Love my awesome TLP nerds and would hate for you all to be wondering where I disappeared to.
 
This is something that I have thought about... my husband does not even know how to turn on my computer so it would be up to my daughter to share such news. I must sometime share with her what she should do if I died suddenly.
 
I've never thought about this honestly. I KNOW I need to get my life together regarding will, final wishes, etc etc. I don't think I would be missed here but I'm sure my husband has no idea how to access my scrappy stuff to print off the last of what I've left and I would absolutely want my sons to have that!

It has been on my mind today, too. I didn't know Dawn but I'm so shaken by how quickly one can be gone. She has left behind such an amazing and beautiful legacy to be remembered by.
 
spcoggs said:
please go to Shutterfly and print all my books and digiscrap pages I might not have printed yet
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I never would have thought of that! Thanks!

Cherylndesigns said:
I have told my granddaughter (the photographer/artist) where all of my pictures, layouts, etc. are so she'll be able to retrieve them.
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This is something I need to include! DH would have no idea how to do that.

MrsEm said:
I don't think I would be missed here
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You would be missed. I love all our peeps. Whether you are new or been around a long time. Whether you chat a lot, or a little. Everyone together makes this the lovely place it is.
 
Dawn and her family have been in my heart all day - tears have flowed on and off … just so hard to fathom and understand!

I may not reach out and chat with many peeps here @ TLP, but everyone here is near and dear to my heart - ! I feel extremely blessed to be part of such a beautiful community!

Your question about contacts has been on my mind today as well … my hubby doesn't do social media (other than to look at my FB page from time to time when he is so bored that he actually sits down at the computer for awhile).
I have a password protected Excel file with passwords, account #'s, etc - my DIL has the password. I'm going to add a tab for "in case of emergency contact info" … thank you for the prompt @bestcee
 
DH knows TLP (I talk about it often, and tell stories), so I know he would be able to come here and get in with my laptop. I have a note on my phone for certain passwords and things. BUT... once he got here, I'm not sure he would know what to do then. FB is easy since he does use that, and most others online stuff isn't like a community.

I like the idea of a binder or an In Case of Emergency folder. I think I'll go that route, and have things written, cause when this occurs, it's hard to focus for me, so I imagine it will be hard to focus for others and going down a list is easier.
 
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