aye yie yie!!! I have about 5 huge fears for my kids and that is one of them! Prayers for everyone. I love to hear that dad is invested and present in this.
In my case, my mom was dumped. Against my grandparents' "orders" she moved in with him after she dropped out of high school. When she ended up pregnant in 1972, he denied it was his. (They were living together.) Mom moved in with my aunt. My grandmother got permission through the church to let her deliver at St.Anne's hospital. The "special" one for unwed girls. Where the girls moved in, had the baby, never saw it and went home. Mom was an exception and they let her just come in to deliver and she left with me. The story goes that grandma talked to a lot of people and raised a lot of hell, but it happened. And I am grateful for that.
Bless you for helping your daughter through this scary and "exciting" time. And grant the kids wisdom to make better choices going forward. Love you!!!
Epilogue on my story. Mom has passed away. Bio-dad gave up rights in 1979 and I was adopted by mom's husband when my brother was born. Dad passed away in November and guess who is still here? Bio-dad. He lives in Boston, I talk to him once or twice a year and email him back and forth every couple weeks. It's weird for sure, but except for my brother, he's my only family I have left.