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Hello lovely people of the much loved Pad!!!!!!

so, I have been running around like a headless chicken with very little time to stop (I promise I ll update on what's going on soon!)
but as this developed a bit in one of my CT's forums, I thought I bring it here so we get to know each other a bit more as I see some new amazingly talented faces around that I didn't know!!!!

Most of you here know I don't like to be called "sweetie"
so I joked about it, and people asked:
what about hun?
darling?

so, my thing is: you know me? you have the slightest interest in knowing me and starting a communication? if there is a reason, I don't mind-
I do though, mind pretty much when the person isn't a friend or even vaguely communicates.....
if you know me, we interact ...- well doubt you call me sweetie if you REALLY know me :giggle -
BUT...if we are friends or interact as part of the community...you are welcome to call me whatever you want.....
but I think it sounds a bit of ...I really get stressed out here, in London, some shop keepers tend to call you LOVE..... and not in an affectionate kind of way, more like a ...leering? is that the word? LOL

What about you?
do you call people pet names/terms of endearment?
do you do it with people where it REALLY is a term of endearment?
or do you just use them as is an habit with everyone?

do you LIKE to be called certain things like hun, cutie, sweetie and darling and what have you?
 
Yes, i get it...I especially dont like to be called sweety or honey by a male that I dont know. They couldnt mean it! they dont even know me! But you get that in stores and even in offices like the bank! Or Customer service reps.
I have special names for people like my daughter in law was one of the first that hopped on the cup cake craze for her wedding. They tasted cupcakes and found some really special ones..After the wedding it just kind of started...I call her cupcake all the time..She is sweet and beautiful..she is my cupcake :-)
My husband calls me knuclehead. Believe it or not from him it sounds like and is a term of endearment. I am not sure I would take if as such from others..LOL!!! I call my husband Skeeter...short for mosquito but cant tell you why :-P I call him that more often than his name..what..it isnt his name??!! LOL
Cant wait till things settle down for you because we all need to land some time and gather our thoughts! Keeping you and your daughter in prayer for blessings as you come and go.
I cant wait to get to know you better!! Thanks for starting this thread. It should be very interesting!
 
I used to call male loved ones Pumpkin. One day I was talking to the Dr. I work for & accidentally addressed him as Pumpkin. I was mortified. I stuttered, backtracked, and said "um Dr. Pumpkin". OMG. Now I speak with patients over the phone all day. I just naturally end every call with "Take care Dear". I can't help myself.
 
dear! oh I hate it...sounds so ugh
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my hubs called me dear when we first got married, I politely said I was not bambi, or did I have horns...lol
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he jokingly will say
yes dear, with a quivery voice....but yuck don't like that word...even from little ol' ladies....
just feels condescending. and golly typing this out, I realize my extreme dislike for this little word!
 
My hubby sometimes calls me Beloved, which is nice.
I tend to call him Lovie! When he hasn't heard me or responded - the pitch is quite something and my voice travels through the house until he answers. Otherwise I will call him "Jim Dear" from Lady and the Tramp.
He loves to give folk nicknames which are terms of endearment and the kids have picked up and expanded on this too.
For example his brother Paul, gets called Mike and his brother Rob gets called Bob, sister Angela gets called Sass and so on.
Now I feel like I should make a layout about all of these...
 
I use them with my family. It feels wrong to call someone I don't know something like that. I remember when I was in London for the first time, it was like every single person I interacted with was calling me "pet" or "love" or something. It was weird. In Staffordshire, it was always "duck" which is double weird. But it wasn't affectionate or even leery either, just like, deadpan boring. Just another word that they're so used to saying it has lost all meaning. I grew up in the South and it's common to throw out terms like that, which is not something I ever did personally, but it is a bit less weird to me because people seem to actually care about everyone. They're actually making eye contact when they say "sweetheart" or whatever, so it comes across more sincere. But I still prefer just leaving those words for people that are close to me.
 
If my husband or I hear a "Yes Dear", from one another, it's definitely not said as a term of endearment, more like. Ok enough.

I do call my kids and husband sweetie but only them and maybe my sister. I have to say that at some point awhile back I started to realize that life can sometimes be pretty fragile, I got in the habit of never using the word goodbye with immediate family. I make sure the last words they hear from me on a phone call or off to work or even the store are "ok sweetie, I love you". It is also so nice when even my grown manly sons manage to mumble back, me too mum.

I often call my sister and sometimes very close friends kiddo, but that's the full extent of my endearmentisms.

In Australia everyone calls you mate, in England everyone calls you love, in the south everyone kept saying Hun. On the internet it seems to be peeps, and your team might be your crew.. It's water off a ducks back to me. You can call me whatever you want.

My choice to respond or ignore.
 
My Dad used to say; "You can call me whatever you like, but please don't call me early in the morning".
 
I often say "lady"... : "hey Lady, how are you? !"
Husband is hunny, or "Baybee" (I spell it weird on purpose). Kids have nicknames.... Bug (Kaydee bug or bugabug), and Chunk (chunkamonk). Buddy or baby girl, too. I call other kids sweetie sometimes, especially if I don't know their name.
 
I think a lot of it has to do with where you are from. My parents are English and I grew up hearing 'pet' 'love' and of course when we went to visit family 'across the pond' I heard it all the time so didn't think twice about it. My ex was a truck driver and he used to travel down south quite a bit, heard 'sweetie' and 'hun' in truck stops, restaurants and didn't think twice about it. For me it is all in how it is used, someone older than me calling me dear is ok but someone my age or younger it bothers me.

As for pet names, my brother has shortened my name to just an initial 'J' which is where 'jaye' in the forums came from :) People I am close to call me Jo and I absolutely detest being called 'Jo-Jo' but for the most part I get called Joanne.
 
Ah Cynthia, you must come visit the Southern US and experience being called sweetie, sugar pie, sweetheart, pumpkin, sweet pea, hun, and all manner of other sticky sweet terms of endearment! :) It doesn't bother me because I'm used to it and know that it generally comes from a place of kindness or at least tradition.

But aside from that, I am definitely a nick name person. I have nicknames for all my girls and DH. and I also call them all "babe" just as a general pet name.

Funny, Jaye - I also call my middle daughter "J" shortened from Jaina.
 
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I get "K-Lee" from some of my coworkers. Because 2 syllables is shorter than 3 in my full first name and 1 syllable last name. Lol
 
Eyeore said:
My hubby sometimes calls me Beloved, which is nice.
I tend to call him Lovie! When he hasn't heard me or responded - the pitch is quite something and my voice travels through the house until he answers. Otherwise I will call him "Jim Dear" from Lady and the Tramp.
He loves to give folk nicknames which are terms of endearment and the kids have picked up and expanded on this too.
For example his brother Paul, gets called Mike and his brother Rob gets called Bob, sister Angela gets called Sass and so on.
Now I feel like I should make a layout about all of these...
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yes!!!!!!!! super great idea!!!!!!!!!!

Lorry I had to laugh... I also couldn't believe it when I came here , the terms they use... the "pet" & "duck" are4 mostly from up north.... I didn't know if I laughed or pulled a face !!!!!!

I love to do shortenings or nicknames for the people I love, because it is my way to show I care especially, or how especial they are to me...and I know I call some people " my lovely" which I honestly don't know where it came from LOL but I don't do it with people I don't know....
I would LOVE to go the USA south!!!!!! mainly because, doesn't matter how many people call me anything they want....some of my most loved people are there...so I can put up with any nicknames LOL

now I have this thing about making this LO....one more thing to make some time for LOL
 
I thought of this thread immediately. My husband asked some stupid question and I answered "Yes Dear". Just asI said it, I realized I might as well have said "Yes Stupid". Haha, shh...
 
No one has any terms of endearment for me. I can't even remember the last time my husband called me by my name. It actually sounds weird if he does.

Sometimes, I call him Timbie or Timbionics. I used to do this little cheer with Timbionics. He'd just roll his eyes. I used to call my daughter Caw (short for Jessica) and my mom also used to call her that. And now I often call her something that I can't say publicly. But it is all in love. :giggle
 
When I taught kindergarten, I often called the students endearing terms, "sweetie", "honey" as I was a pretty strict teacher but I wanted the students to know that I still loved them dearly. I call my DH and DDs sweet terms but not anything specific. My younger daughter calls me "Mama Bear" otherwise I'm just Mom. As a girl my mom called me Diany. I don't mind any of the terms mentioned above as half the time I don't even hear them (I'm hard of hearing and wear two hearing aids). My dad used to say "Call me anything, just don't call me late for dinner."
 
I with you Cynthia... I don't love the "sweetie" thing. Especially from people who don't really know me yet. I call my boys all kinds of nicknames like sunshine and sweet pea and pumpkin. My youngest's name is Wyatt and we call him Wy-Wy and Wiley a lot. Then my oldest's name is Cody and we call him Codeman.

When I was younger one of my friends had a roommate who's boyfriend was over all the time. They called each other "baby" and is just annoyed me. It sounded so syrupy sweet and fake. Guess what my hubby calls me now... sigh. :giggle
 
I'm terrible, I tend to call people that I like a lot "sweetie" (so if I called any of you sweetie its coz I like you haha) but I generally call my loved ones "hun" or sometimes I call my youngest daughter "rabbit" (no idea why though)
 
I am a sweetie kind of girl. I'm always using endearment terms. I forget people sometimes don't like them.
 
I use lots of terms of endearment with my family and my preschool students (usually sweetie for the students) but that's it. I'm reading a book right now where the characters are Texan and one 20-something male in the book keeps calling female strangers Sweetie. It's driving me nuts, LOL. Transplanted New Englander here-we just don't do that!
 
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