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keepscrappin

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Talk or Text? Which do you prefer? I like to talk. I know that texting is quick and easy, but there's something about actually talking to someone. I feel more connected to the person and feel like it's easier to explain, understand and get the emotions correct. Don't get me wrong I do text for quick things, but if given the choice I'd rather talk. I especially like to talk on the phone with my hubby and kids, but they usually prefer texts. I'm long winded and it's easier to talk than text. I guess I'm old school and don't want to give up the personal connection I get when actually talking to another person.

So how about you... talk or text?
 
I used to love talking on the phone, but nowadays I don't use the phone anymore for talking at all. I hate it when someone calls because they always catch me in the middle of something. Or when I just parked myself on the couch to watch something. Or when I just started scrapping or something. I rather text and then arrange to meet someone, that way I have time to dedicate to them.

Also when texting and having a convo with friends on What's app I can just ignore it and let the others do the talking without having to feel guilty. Everybody understands when you leave a text conversation, for me it's much harder to interrupt someone on the phone and say I've got to go.
 
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I admit it, I am so socially awkward. Speaking on the phone causes me anxiety, big time! I stumble over my words. I say things in entirely opposite ways than I mean. It's just ridiculous. Then you have my big chubby cheeks hanging up on people when I talk. I also don't always hear very well, probably because I'm trying to keep the phone away from my cheek. When I write, I can plan out what I'm going to say. I can make sure I'm clearly stating what I want to get across. I'm definitely not of the set who use abbreviations/acronyms. So, that can be a hindrance.
 
I used to spend hours talking on the phone with friends when I had a less busy schedule and could relax and enjoy a good conversation, not even noticing that an hour or so would go by. Nowadays, life is too busy or if I'm having some "me" time, I don't want to spend it on the phone. So now I prefer texting which has the advantage of being quick and easy, I can do it anywhere I go b/c I always have my phone with me and its great for passing on quick little bits of info, like when I'm out shopping, I can text my daughter about a sale and send a pic to her. My hubs hates texting and aside from having to do it for work stuff, he will call me rather than text. I text with Bailey a lot but she'll call me once a week or so to catch me up on her day-to-day life but our chats are usually only about 5-10 minutes.

I also chat a lot on Messenger too.
 
Definitely text! I get anxious about making phone calls or receiving one that I was unaware was going to happen. I can compose my thoughts and write them out in a text/email and sound somewhat intelligent (at least I hope I do). But I also call my mom when I need to say more than just a couple texts so we can have a big long conversation about everything!
 
Text. I hate calling people. If you call me, I'll talk. But if you're waiting for me to call you, you're going to have a long wait.
 
Text. (Unless there are emotions or things that can't easily be conveyed simply because I'd hate to have something misunderstood--whether it's a feeling or actual information.)

Lately I can't find a solid chunk of time to sit and chat. (Maybe now that school has started, it might be easier...except now I'm running around doing the decade's worth of stuff I've put off lol!) The issue is that my mom is a talker. And a texter. And an emailer. I swear I want to tell her to pick ONE form of communication. I don't need a text saying "I sent you an email!" And then, after I read the email and reply back, she doesn't need to call me to go over the email. Everything should be in the dang email!

So maybe my issue isn't the form of communication but the fact that now there are too many ways of getting in contact with me.

Having said all that, I'm going to call my mom today. :) It's been awhile since we've talked and she's been emailing and texting me (and including pics) about a single issue, so I feel like she needs some more of my attention than text/email is letting her feel I'm giving her. But I tell ya what: I'm timing it so I call her 20 min before DD gets home from school. That way, when DD comes bursting through the door demanding my attention and food and signatures and whatever else, I can say "Mom, I love ya. Gen says Hi. I gotta go!" and just click off before she says "Oh, by the way" and then launches into a 30-minute story! :whistle
 
I'm with a lot here, I cannot stand being on the phone. I have things I'm doing, things I'm focusing on, and often I'm already doing waaaaay too many things at once. I don't have time and I HATE being on the phone. I used to love it, but then my step-mother bugged the phones to try and catch my dad cheating (except he wasn't and the hilarious part was that it only caught HER!!!) so I felt so violated knowing all MY talking had been recorded as well so now I have trustissues/badnegative feelings about talking on the phone. Not that I have anything for anyone to catch, it's just the principal.
 
It looks like lots of people would rather text. I'm not surprised. It really is a quick and easy way to communicate.

@Tree City - I agree on the fact that some people can take up a ton of time for a phone conversation and if it can be handled with just a text or email that is what I prefer. I do however love talking on the phone with my sister for hours. We put our phones on speaker or use the bluetooth earpiece and get all our chores done while we're chatting.
 
Serena said:
I'm with a lot here, I cannot stand being on the phone. I have things I'm doing, things I'm focusing on, and often I'm already doing waaaaay too many things at once. I don't have time and I HATE being on the phone. I used to love it, but then my step-mother bugged the phones to try and catch my dad cheating (except he wasn't and the hilarious part was that it only caught HER!!!) so I felt so violated knowing all MY talking had been recorded as well so now I have trustissues/badnegative feelings about talking on the phone. Not that I have anything for anyone to catch, it's just the principal.
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Wow... I can't even imagine someone bugging/recording my phone! That would be crazy. I do feel the same way about texts and emails too though, because then it's out there in print in cyberspace somewhere. Hopefully, no one would hold something against me that I texted or emailed, but in today's world I wouldn't put it past them. Not that I knowingly say anything bad, but still like you said it's the principle. I know my brother is using texts and social media posts against his ex-wife and she is using them against him in their divorce.
 
keepscrappin said:
Wow... I can't even imagine someone bugging/recording my phone! That would be crazy. I do feel the same way about texts and emails too though, because then it's out there in print in cyberspace somewhere. Hopefully, no one would hold something against me that I texted or emailed, but in today's world I wouldn't put it past them. Not that I knowingly say anything bad, but still like you said it's the principle. I know my brother is using texts and social media posts against his ex-wife and she is using them against him in their divorce.
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I have that fear as well to be honest. I never speak from my heart truly, everything is always muted so it can't come back to bite me in the behind. I love meeting with people and talking for hours in person and I'll speak from the heart there. But on Twitter and Facebook everything is as PC (Perfectly Correct) as possible and careful.

That's awful about the divorce and what they're going through, and I totally agree with you in today's day and age. Everything is sue-worthy and everyone is sue-paranoid and I don't blame them. :( My kids were asking why so many common sense things had to be posted everywhere in stores or whatever and I had to explain the whole 'Cover yourself" mindset everyone HAS to have, even if it seems obvious and simple, it has to be said or someone can sue. /sigh
 
for me it depends on who I'm communicating with. My mom and sister always a call. My children it is all text! Pretty much everyone else is texting too.

EXCEPT for my daughter Anna who lives 1300 miles away from me. It is ALWAYS a few texts, but pretty much 5 times a week we FaceTime each other.
 
I am in the minority - I dislike texting. If you want my attention, call me, as it may be hours before I respond to a text. My husband really hates texting, but he has a dumb-phone so it is quite painful to text on. And I am going to be curt and concise in a text - give me a real keyboard where I can ramble on. :swingin

That said, I only answer the phone if I know who is calling as we still get lots of telemarketing and annoying phishing calls. To be expected on the house phone (a cell so it gets texts too), but I have started getting them on my cell phone whose number is not listed many places. I was just asking my son how to block text spammers. sigh.
 
keepscrappin said:
We put our phones on speaker or use the bluetooth earpiece and get all our chores done while we're chatting.
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That could work now. Using speakerphone with 2 young kids in the house meant that (1) they were constantly yelling "GRAMMIE! GRAMMIE! GRRRAAAAMMMMIE! GUESS WHAT! Uh, I forgot!" and then running away only to come back with some crazy statement and (2) constant worry they'd knock my phone off the table and/or pick it up and throw it/hang up (they've done that). Perhaps I should try again. Having said that, I still think my phone convo limit is like 45 min, max, before I start grinding my teeth lol.

I called my mom and we chatted for 13 min before DD came home. I warned my mom that DD was on her way and I'd need to get off the phone, and I was right! DD had 2 things for me to sign, which she plopped in my lap (we had a discussion about timing and "letting Mom have 5 min before attacking her with school stuff" lol) but I did tell Mom "I have to go!" and she said "OK!" and then continued talking like I hadn't spoken lol. I let her go for 5 min and then said "No, really. I have to go. She needs a snack and just wants to talk about her day. Bye!" It's the first week of school;
 
Sokee said:
for me it depends on who I'm communicating with. My mom and sister always a call. My children it is all text! Pretty much everyone else is texting too.

EXCEPT for my daughter Anna who lives 1300 miles away from me. It is ALWAYS a few texts, but pretty much 5 times a week we FaceTime each other.
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I love facetime.... best of both worlds! That is unless I'm still in my jammies.

BevG said:
I am in the minority - I dislike texting. If you want my attention, call me, as it may be hours before I respond to a text. My husband really hates texting, but he has a dumb-phone so it is quite painful to text on. And I am going to be curt and concise in a text - give me a real keyboard where I can ramble on. :swingin

That said, I only answer the phone if I know who is calling as we still get lots of telemarketing and annoying phishing calls. To be expected on the house phone (a cell so it gets texts too), but I have started getting them on my cell phone whose number is not listed many places. I was just asking my son how to block text spammers. sigh.
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I've given up answering my home phone unless I know who is calling because I get 6 or 7 solicitor calls a day. Now when I give people my home phone number, I tell them that they'll probably have to leave a message and I'll call them back if I don't recognize their number. In fact, I just did that today at the PTA meeting... hehe.
 
I like texting for quick info kind of stuff. I really dislike talking on and rarely even answer my phone. I'll speak to you on my time...which sounds awful but that's how it is. My newest dil is one who wants to chat on the phone, on FB and on FaceTime. She's a sweetie but she apparently needs a lot of talk time. My older son calls and we are always interrupting each other and then saying...go ahead...and I get antsy and want to get off the phone. If I just listen to him it can be ok but sometimes I have a question and we get back to that talking at the same time. He also almost always has his wife on speaker and I hear her shouting something in the background and then have to ask What did she say?? it gets crazy. My daughter is easy to call or text and we both come right to the point, get to the reason for the call and finish. Neither of us is a chatterer.

I like to talk with people face to face.
 
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