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littlekiwi

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When was the last time you said sorry or apologized for something you said or did?
 
I haven't really had too much to say sorry about or apologize for lately thankfully but I did kind of say sorry for ringing my mum at work last week when I was dealing with an emergency at home (she works in hospitality so is often busy) but it was for a good reason, I just felt awful doing it at the time.
 
Regularly - even for the small things. I'm a firm believer in apologising when I make a mistake. I'm also a firm believer in forgiveness - even if the other person doesn't apologise. We've made a point of actively modelling both "sorry" and forgiveness to our children, so that for them it is completely normal.
 
There is a thing in the Midwest about how we apologize for everything, like bumping into someone or even just almost bumping into someone while passing them at the grocery stores... the quote is "Ope! Sorry, just need to get by here". They even make t-shirts with the "Ope!" on them. I think they are so funny.



 
I say "I'm sorry" often-- I think the most recent was yesterday when my (19 year old) daughter wanted to drive to visit her boyfriend in Chattanooga, Tennessee (about 2.5 hours away) and I told her she shouldn't as we have really icy roads right now. She was unhappy but I just wanted her to be safe and not slide off the road and get stuck in a ditch somewhere!
 
I say sorry so much I can't think of a time that stands out. Maybe I haven't said sorry since I entered our bedroom this morning around 7 a.m. disturbing my husband who was trying to get some more sleep. But I have a feeling I said it again more recently, I just can't remember why.
 
Just a little while ago when June and Hank did not want to come in from outside. We have fresh snow falling here in PA and dogs LOVE it. I'm having a bad pain day and 5 minutes was all I could handle. They are currently on separate couches pouting because they want to play in the snow.
 
I frequently say sorry to my kids and husband because I’m not very nice sometimes. The most recent one was yesterday morning; I blamed my husband for my lack of sleep so I said sorry. I think it’s very important to be able to say sorry and hope that’s something I’m teaching my kids.
 
I have this bad habbit of saying sorry for things I really shouldn't be sorry for. It is something I been working on for years. My first ex husband was very abusive so I got use to saying sorry for every little thing so I wouldn't be yelled at or have things thrown at me. IF dinner wasn't done on time, if the kids were to loud, it he woke up grumpy.. you name it it was my fault. So now I say I am sorry for every little thing.
So in all honesty I probably say sorry about 1000 times a day if not more for something or another. *L* it really annoys some people but others who know me are use to it by now.
 
Karen said:
There is a thing in the Midwest about how we apologize for everything, like bumping into someone or even just almost bumping into someone while passing them at the grocery stores... the quote is "Ope! Sorry, just need to get by here". They even make t-shirts with the "Ope!" on them. I think they are so funny.



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Oh this made me chuckle and a little bit homesick at the same time! I'm from Wisconsin and we TOTALLY SAY THIS! I haven't lived in the Midwest for 15 years now but "Ope" is ingrained in me! And yep, I also "sorry" far too often! Lol...
 
Considering I haven't left my house but once in the last week, it was probably in the store last weekend when I walked in front of someone.
Wait, I told my dog sorry this morning because I accidentally shut his tail in the door. It was so cold and I was trying to get him in the house fast.
 
I apologize many times each day - part of my job is to investigate and correct escalated errors our team may make. It is hard but mostly it's more of a: "I am truly sorry, but our policy clearly states.... "
 
This afternoon in the grocery store, multiple times. I thought a product was very low priced and bought several. When I got to the check-out, the price didn't come out as I expected so I apologized and asked the checker to park my order. Apologized to a line of customers, apologized to two people I almost ran over while going to the meat section to check on the price. Turns out, the meat wasn't that ridiculously low priced, the price had been by the pound, not in total. The $3.99 was in a HUGE font, and the "lb" was in a 12 point font, so it wasn't obvious at all, but the checker had been right. Then I had to apologize running back as I almost ran over one of the same people I apologized to on my first trip, then the checker.

A lot of apologies.
 
I also apologize frequently to my daughter. We are working on apologies, so I make a point, even for small things, to model complete and earnest apologies.

We've been stuck in the house with ice and snow and only each other for 7 days. There have been times when we've both been very cranky and a little short with each other. Nothing big, but I do apologize.

My parents NEVER, EVER apologized, even for big things, so it's a big deal to me to model this well for my kids. I'm not perfect. I get angry. But I'm good at repair.
 
Probably daily. We say sorry when we almost bump into someone, sorry I didn't catch what you said etc. followed closely by "Ag shame" . Which is just an endearment type of thing. Not a real shame.
 
I say sorry every day for little things - like bumping into each other or getting in someone's way (happens a lot in a house full of 8 people).

Genuine apology for a mistake made - probably to my hubby for being impatient with him. I did have to apologize to my youngest yesterday as I had forgotten to tuck her in the night before (the first time as a mom that I had done that). Lots of extra hugs and apology and I think she's forgiven me. ;)
 
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