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I'm so very sorry Ona! Please know I will be keeping you and Judy's family in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you hugs!
 
I am so sorry. That must have been such a shock for everyone. And I can understand how it is extra hard when it is someone with such links to your own childhood and youth. xx
 
Oh Ona...I'm sure that was a shock. It's really hard to lose someone like that and it does remind us of the preciousness of life and our dear old friends. Hugs and a shared cuppa tea.
 
So sorry Ona! How sudden and shocking! But how wonderful that you have 60 years of memories! What a rare gift in this time.
 
Thank you all for your sweet words and caring thoughts, they really mean a lot to me! :wub While I have my family and friends here to support me in real life, it is so heart warming to know that there are people all over the globe that are supporting me as well! :heartlub:grouphug Thank you again! :wubb
 
I'm so sorry for your loss, Ona! Hugs to you and my thoughts are with you, your friends and her family!
 
So sorry for your loss. Treasure the memories,and keep her in a small part of your heart.
 
(apologies i thought i commented on this on the weekend but i dont see my reply) i just wanted to add my condolences as well - she sounded like a great friend and certainly an important person in your life and i'm sure you will remember her as such always
 
I'm so sorry for your loss Ona. That is so sad to get sick from a cruise like that. I feel so bad for her husband too. Such a great page of the two of you together too. I pray that your good memories together will be a comfort to you.
 
I want to add my hugs to the pile here and I hope you're doing okay!

I also apologize if this seems heartless, but my social etiquettes are really skewed since I've been a virtual shut in the last six years. But.. I wanted to offer this...

When my dad passed away, before he did, he told me in a very grave tone that he would haunt me for the rest of my life if I "ruined his death" by being all weepy on the day of his funeral. The way he phrased it STILL to this day cracks me up. But I took it to heart, so on the day of his funeral, I got up and made a speech. It was.. hard, everyone was crying, including me, and then at the end I promptly said. "Now that I have that off of my heart, I refuse to get haunted for the rest of my life." On cue, the lady turned on Jailhouse Rock (a song my dad sang often at Karaoke).

You would not believe the sea of shocked faces at my irreverence. Most of them were extended family that I didn't know too well, so it was only my sister and first cousin that cracked up immediately and then came up to dance with me. Pretty soon people started nervously dancing along in their seats of laughing a little. I then launched into a series of funny stories about my dad. My sister joined in, my cousin actually joined in too and then one by one we got people up and they were telling ALL sorts of embarrassing and funny stories, we were rolling in tears of laughter at the end. (I had specifically requested going last because I knew that people might walk out, and I didn't want anyone else going after me with more sobering and serious stories.)

It helped, it helped heal my heart a lot... so I offer this to you. Think about her favorite upbeat song. Think about some great funny stories. Do you have any photos of that? Scrap it. You don't have to share it, make it just for you, or if you're comfortable with it, share it with us. But remember those moments. Take a huge drink of your tea, then stand up and dance along like she's there with you and you're 20 again. Smile. Because she'd want you to. Because she was your good friend and she would want you to celebrate the life she had, not the death that came. Celebrate her beauty, the smiles she gave, and keep that in your heart.

And know that you're loved here and we support you.

(and please forgive me if this was out of line, but I wanted to offer hope.)
 
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