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Hugs to you! I know it is hard when everything seems like all of the negatives are piling up around you. Just hang in there. Things will change. Taking the step of moving in with family is a brave decision. It is not easy, but you are taking charge of your situation and taking steps to get things back on track. Focusing on positives is a good thing. You could even make a cute little digi/hybrid gratitude journal!

Also, you should check out the bravegirlsclub.com. You can sign up to get daily emails, and they are always very sweet and encouraging... kind of reminders to cherish yourself or whatever.
 
I'm sorry Roni! You've gotten some great advice here. I have not been through the same thing, but we have had some really tough times. Those times have brought us closer, cemented our marriage, and confirmed we can make it through anything if we made it through that! Those tough times also make the good times that much sweeter. Believe it or not, some of those times I recall fondly NOW, not then though:) Good luck girl! Big hugs!
 
((hugs)) Roni. I'm so grateful to see the warm support and encouragement you've received so far. I don't have much in the way of fresh advice to offer, but I wanted to reiterate what is always my Truth for situations that are challenging and heartwrenching..those times when the obstacles seem so big or when it's hard to see through the clouds.

And as cliche as it sounds when I say it aloud or type it down, I have confidence in this one little truth: the trials we face often serve to carry us closer to the things that matter most in life. The "hard" always softens or passes altogether and when it does we can see the "why" of it all. I cling to my faith that everything happens for a reason when I'm faced with things that don't *make sense* to me. And 100% of the time, in my experiences, that proves to be true. I know it will for you too. Take heart, lean on those who love you and know you have lots of support here too! Focus on the positives. And just keep swimming. It always gets brighter. :beat
 
((((Hugs)))) to you Roni. I am sorry you are going through such a tough time. I have been through something similar a long time ago, single mom, 2 babies...I had to move in to my mom and step dad's house in FL. It was 2,000 miles away from everything I knew and loved. I need a change, a fresh start. As hard as those first few months were it all worked out. I met my current husband in FL and we grew our family and it all happened they way God intended it to. Things will get better. Keep your chin up!
 
(((hugs))) Roni. I'm so happy to see all the wonderful loving supportive words that the other ladies have written for you here. I hope you find some encouragement from them. You are so blessed to have a supportive family that is willing to help you.
 
Hugs to you, Roni! There is so much advice here that I agree with (that's what you get when you gather a whole bunch of wise women). Keep your chin up and concentrate on what you've got. That will help you get to what you want. Love to you!
 
i'm so sorry you have to go through this roni! :(
all the advises here are wonderful, and i just want to ditto them all and send you a big hug!
i'm sure it will get better!
 
JUst wanted to update you all. I went to a job interview today for a personal care attendant job and I got it! I will get my hours next week at orientation. I'm sooo excited and kind of surprised. I filled out the application, interviewed and was hired in a matter of hours! Tomorrow I'm off to get my TB test. Thanks again for all your kind words and support!
 
First I just want to say that I'm glad that we have such an amazing group of women here who truly care about one another and are so positive and uplifting! You guys encouraged me just reading the outpouring of positivity here!

Roni, I'm so sorry to hear that things aren't going as planned for you and your family. It has been my experience in life that if God brings you to it, He'll bring you through it. His plans are far bigger than ours and He uses situations like this to make us stronger and better. It has been after the most difficult of times when I have looked back and realized great personal growth and gain. You will come out of this...stronger than before! Hang in there. Lots of prayers and hugs coming your way!
 
Oh what wonderful news Roni!! That's exciting! Hope it's fabulous!!
 
Congrats, Roni!!!! :) So happy for you!!!! With your personality, you will go far in that job!
 
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I'm sorry I have taken so long to answer and I haven't had time to read others replies but I do know how you feel and this is the first time I'm airing this to the world,11 years ago we got married got a mortgage blah blah,first thing my mom said was get on ya feet before you have a baby,bam we moved in may 31st my dates calculated I conceived the next day anyway the life style we led which looking back was stupid we just couldn't afford not along with a mortgage and baby and my wage being halved through dropping hours to look after baby before long we was thousands in debt easiest thing to do was bury my head in the sand but stay up all night crying about it,fast forward many years in even worse trouble trying a debt plan that just wasn't working,I finally caved in and said I was telling my dad,my dad was so careful with money and I knew he would be disappointed in me that this was a big step that held me back for years,cut a long story short yes he went mad yes he paid off a 4 thousand loan for me which was lovely of him but didn't touch the tip of the ice berg,in the end we made the decision that the house was only bricks and mortar and as long as we had each other and our children we would get through it so once again my dad gave us another thousand pound for us to declare bankruptcy,the house we voluntarily gave them back the keys and our parents offered us a home at there house but we was lucky enough that the council came through and offered us a house as we was homeless.the moral of my story is I have been on the side of the fence you are on probably worse and 6 years on I'm here to tell the tale I'm not proud of getting in such a mess,I am nit allowed credit now or a credit card but would not want one anyway and we are far better off now than ever and best of all I can answer my phone without being scared it's a debt collector and open my post,as long as you have each other and faith you will get through this and look back crying like I'm doing now on how far you have come,money to me is not worth worrying over there is always a solution but at the time I thought it was the end of the world,big hugs to you and I'm here if you want a hug
 
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