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Angie4b1g

Angie4b1g

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Did you have a big one? Small one? Court house / Vegas quickie? Would you do it differently?

If not yet married, what is your plan?

I had 2 small private chapel weddings. Maybe 100 people at the first one and about 6 at the 2nd (all we invited). I'm not big on ceremony, and definitely not on spending all my money on a party. :giggle My 2nd one was perfect, small intimate ceremony and then we took everyone out for italian at a cozy little restaurant. No muss no fuss and the whole thing was under $1k including our outfits.
 
We had a large-ish wedding. It was in a beautiful historic church and we had probably 200 people there (I think). While I really loved my wedding, there are things I would love to go back and change. I'd change my dress. That's the biggie for me. My MIL coerced me into my dress. It was a beautiful dress, but it when it was all said and done, it wasn't exactly what I wanted.
 
We got married in Vegas - not a quickie wedding though!

Our ceremony was in the chapel at the Luxor hotel

My mum and dad came with us (hubby's family wouldn't fly) and my aunts and uncles from America flew or drove in for the wedding too.

We had a traditional wedding with a pastor and a bible reading.

I had the dress, hubby and dad had matching suits. Mum had her outfit made to measure here in the UK

The whole thing was booked via 1 phone call 1 fax and a couple of emails! Stress free!

After the service we took 2 limos down the strip to downtown Vegas and back again.

We went to a Chinese restaurant at the Luxor for our reception meal

We stayed in a jacuzzi suite on the wedding night

We had a party for family and friends a few days after returning to the UK. I wore my dress again and hubby and my dad wore their suits again, my father in law, hubby's uncle and my brother in law also had the same suits for the party
 
I think our wedding was medium-ish. Probably 150 people? My parents don't have much $$ so Eric and I paid for most of it ourselves.

There are a few things I'd change. I'd have stuck to my guns on getting a videographer - I let Eric talk me out of that and he had a friend record our wedding. It was freakin' awful. I'd also have had my dress altered closer to the ceremony. I lost weight before the wedding so my dress was a little loose, and it was strapless, so, yeah. Lots of tugging.

I wouldn't change my cake. Cake is my favorite and our cake was so, so good. I spent more on the cake than my dress.
 
We got married in Vegas as well. 33 people came out for it. All our family lives all over the US so we just decided that everyone would have to travel. We were married at the flamingo in the gazebo.
 
I married when I was almost 25, my husband and me both at university. We paid for everything ourselves and had 80 guests, which seemed pretty huge to me ;)... my dress alone did cost over 1000 Euro, I saved like a maniac all year. We had lots of help from friends, especially from my colleagues at hospital, who prepared the buffet and took care of everything. The boyfriend of a male nurse at hospital was working at a hotel and got the best offers for us when it came to renting dishes and cutlery, so the whole wedding came about 4000 Euros in the end- much, much money for us, but it all worked out somehow. It was a magical day, and for me, still the perfect wedding. The only problem was that EVERYBODY seemed to want to drink a shot of tequila with me, and at about 3 p.m. in the morning, I was so tired (and MIGHTY drunk) that I sank down on the floor in my dress and fell asleep. When I woke up at 7 a.m., all the guests had left and my husband had put me on a yoga mat he had found in some cabinet in the room where we celebrated (it belonged to the church), and lay on another yoga mat right beside me. I had the hangover of my life (and I never touched a DROP of alcohol again after that experience!), but I remember thinking that I'm the damn HAPPIEST woman in the universe while I watched my sleeping husband. I woke him up, and we walked to our hotel arm in arm.
And, no... I really don't want to think about the day that followed... I was never that VIOLENTLY sick in my life, and I will NEVER drink alcohol again...
But it's been a WONDERFUL wedding!
 
We had two. The legal one was small: us, his parents and two siblings, the officiant, and his assistant. It was the Danish equivalent of a JOP wedding, at county hall. We had decided to also have a ceremony in the States for my friends/family. It was a giant cluster**** and I don't like to think about it. The legal one was lovely, though, and the important part (the groom) was perfect so the details don't matter, IMO.
 
If I ever get married, I'd want to do it in Vegas. Of course, I'd have to meet a guy I actually want to marry. The older I get though, the less I want to share my TV or clean up after anyone else.
 
Our wedding was a lot of compromise and I pretty much would have done everything differently. :) My FIL is a retired minister, so Tim's parents wanted it at their church, and his dad performed the service... which was not how I'd ever envisioned my wedding. It was sweet that he did it, but just not my thing. Tim's side of the family (extended) is huge, so it turned out to be larger than I'd thought too.

Originally I wanted to get married at Thornewood Castle where they filmed Rose Red (a Stephen King movie), but the woman we met with was so obnoxious and trying to make things so difficult, we opted for a cool old hall for the reception (which was really more "us" anyway).

I had to pay for everything myself, so I made all of the invites, save the dates, decorations, favors, etc. My daughter's aunt offered to do the flowers at cost. I sent her pics of things I liked (kind of unique/different with spiky grasses and funky flowers) and we ended up with red roses and some ugly plastic red berries... so not my thing. I ordered a cake from a bakery that held my deposit hostage. I asked for a cake with words on it (white on white) because the whole idea behind the wedding theme was a love story, and they decided that they wouldn't put "random words" on it (it wasn't like any of the words were offensive) and said they would only put Bible verses. Seriously? My best friend was so mad, she made my cake for me and put all of the words I wanted. The bakery ended up refusing to give me back the deposit, so we had $200 worth of cookies that we ended up with from them. Grrr.

I wrote a book for my hubby and had it printed as a wedding gift (he never read it). I hired a news photographer (and that was the most expensive part of the entire wedding) because I really wanted a photojournalism style with the pictures. She decided that she was going to try her hand at starting wedding photography, so she went for the old-school traditional type wedding photos, and I was really disappointed. We never even got any photos printed. The DJ ended up being a creepy perv who was hitting on my 16-year old sis. :/

Oh, and I found my dress in 15 minutes at a going-out-of-business sale where I was by myself and had no one helping. It was a big discount, but then something went wrong with the alterations and I had about a mile of cleavage. Ugh!

But all of it really doesn't matter in the long run because it was a great day and we've been married for nine years. Now I just pin my dream wedding stuff and daydream about renewing our vows. Although I'm with Robin in that if anything ever happened where Tim and I weren't together, I can't see myself getting married again.
 
We had a BIG WEDDING 250 people, from which we probably only knew 50 people at the most. Hated my wedding due to it, I felt exposed in front of all these people that I either didn't knew or didn't like.
 
We had an average size wedding. There are definitely some things that I would change. I was young and let MIL overstep in a lot of areas. There was drama with my mom over my dress because MIL was there with me and pretty much picked it out. I went along with it because I was paying and it was affordable. My mom was hurt because she didn't get the experience of dress shopping with me. I only had my sister as the maid of honor...no other bridesmaids. I sometimes think I would have liked to have had a bigger wedding party (not huge, though). But then again, I am thankful that I missed the drama that those can create. I loved our ceremony and our vows!! And the cake was beautiful, too.
 
LOL Kimberlee! I so wish I had Pinterest when I was planning my wedding. I was a junior in college and broke, so my parents were paying for everything. They never gave me a budget, and by the time I got married I know they had money, but growing up things were always very tight and they are still very frugal. I just felt bad asking them to spend very much money! So I skimped in a lot of areas. The venue, cake, food, decor was all very meh. I didn't love the photographer we got and I wish I would have shopped around more. Also, I got married in 2002 and my photographer was still shooting film. I really wish I had digital copies of our wedding photos. But there were lots of things I loved, too. My dress is still my favorite wedding dress I've ever seen. My aunt is a professional florist so she did my flowers and they were beautiful. And there was no family drama or anything, it was just a lovely day.
 
Our wedding was pretty big. We had about 225 people I think and had 6 bridesmaids/groomsman. I really wouldn't change a thing about it either. I was paying for the whole thing so I got to do whatever worked for us and we didn't really over do anything. The wedding was at our church and I was friends with the organist and we picked the best music and knew our pastor really well, so it was just so personal and perfect for us. Afterwards we had our reception at an Elks lodge downtown and it wasn't fancy at all, but the food was really good and I think we only paid about $9 per person or something crazy cheap like that. We danced and danced and had a wonderful night. My hubby's "buddies" all wanted to do shots with him too and he has a LOT of friends. LOL! He was a little wobbly by the end of the night too! It was really a great night though and now after being in some friends weddings and having gone to many weddings, I realize how elusive that perfect night really can be.
 
I had two small ones each with 20-30 people in attendance. I think. I wish that I'd been able to have a 'real' wedding, but money was a huge issue both times.

This is why I'm planning on throwing myself an obnoxious and completely ridiculous 37th (my favorite number) birthday party in a few years. :giggle
 
Small wedding with the J.O.P. in our living room with about 30 people! Going on 23+ years married!

Sure wish I would've done it like that with the first marriage instead of spending $10k on a marriage that didn't last 5 years.
 
Ours was a big, formal wedding! Ceremony, dinner and reception. And I honestly cherish it all, but looking back I would have saved all that money we spent(and our parents) and ran off to some tropical island somewhere to marry...
 
Our day was great! It wasn't a huge wedding but it wasn't small either. Probably just over 100 people. The only thing I would change is how the dress shopping went down. We got engaged in August and planned to marry in December (of that same year) so I didn't have much time to shop. Because of this, it was not possible for me to shop w/ any of my close friends or my Mom and sisters because my sisters and good friends were all home on summer break from college. It was still fun and the friends I did take w/ me were super supportive, etc. I just wish I had been able to share that memory w/ some of the ladies I was super close with. :)
 
I enjoyed my wedding day and would do it all again tomorrow

We had the church the hotel posh old vintage cars the photographer cake and I did feel like a princess for the day,loved it and am so glad I did it
 
We had a small wedding at an inn on the water in Maine.. we invited immediate family only. It turned out very nice - 26 people. It didn't end up being cheap though! Even though the guest list was limited I still had the dress, flowers, photographer, cake, etc.. was still pretty traditional.
 
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