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RebeccaH

RebeccaH

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My guy's getting made fun of

Girls, I feel like crying and yelling and squishy hugging my little guy all at the same time.

They went back to school today after being off for spring break. As they were getting ready to leave I noticed Isaac's neck was bleeding. It turns out, he had picked a mole off until it bled because there's a boy in his class who makes fun of him for having this mole.

:hissy makes me so mad!!! and sad!!! i hate that my little guy feels less than okay because of the mean words that some mean boy has said to him. not cool.

makes a mamma wanna :furious

the hardest part is, i work at the school & i see this boy every day. he is DAILY getting in trouble for saying or doing something mean to others. and i want to say something to him about it, but i'm not sure i should.

anyway, I explained to Isaac that this boy is just mean to people. That his mole is exactly where God wanted to put it and he is perfect just how he is. plus it's not safe to pick moles off, so he needs to leave it. But really, this other boy doesn't deserve the power of telling Isaac there's something wrong with him. He said okay. He seemed like he understood. But it's hard to tell really. I guess we'll see in time.
 
Does your school have any sort of bullying presentations that they do? If not, I know there are lots of them available in the education system. Since you work at school, can you request a bullying presentation for the whole school or maybe the upper grade levels?
 
stacy, they do. they're HUGE on not bullying. HUGE. they've done two or three no-bullying presentations. there are posters and signs and how-to-get-help posters everywhere in the school. they're very proactive about it. unfortunately, kids are still mean. and bullying still happens. :shrug
 
Oh, Rebecca, that just hurts my heart for you and for your little one!! I am so sorry. I would definitely speak to his teacher about it, at the very least. My boys' teacher is so good about addressing stuff like that. But, she doesn't always hear or see things. At least, she could be on the lookout for things like that too.
 
Since you are a parent, I would suggest not talking with the boy directly without another adult with you. I would say that you bring it up to a counselor or principal and let the school deal with this issue....not you as a protective parent. You definitely do not want your words misquoted in any form or fashion.
 
Ahhhh... hugs Rebecca, this is hard on a Mommy's heart. But, I agree with Becky, I say have a talk with the teacher; This meanie needs to be set straight!
 
That makes me so sad. :( I've seen some bullying at our school, too, and it just frustrates me to no end.

I agree, even though the schools are big on no bullying, it still seems to happen.

Rebecca, you're a good mommy and I'm glad you're there to boost your cute boy up. He needs you! I think
it may be a good idea to talk to the teacher, too.

HUGS
 
I agree - it is a good idea to talk to the teacher. Not only can she deal with it, she'll also be aware to be on the lookout for anything else happening between this other boy and your son.
 
Nothing tears at a mom's heart more. I agree with what's been said, I think that at a minimum, a talk with the teacher is warranted. {{hugs}} I think you did a terrific job talking to Isaac about it. I bet with your good counsel, he will forget about it soon. Of course, as moms, we're still worrying long after our kids have forgotten, so I hope you can find a resolution that puts your mind at ease.
 
Rebecca, My heart just hurts for your guy.
I HATE hearing stuff like this as a mom.
I think for sure, it is ALWAYS appropriate just to let the school, teacher know...
just for them to be able to monitor and keep an eye on things as well.
Because otherwise, they don't always know whats going on.
 
This is so hard. :(
Lucas (7) was being teased by some mean girls at school earlier this year. Among other things, they kept saying "Ew." whenever they walked past him. He wanted me to change his class. I had a talk with the teacher and we've only had a couple of recurrences since then.
Good luck! Being a mommy is SO hard sometimes!
 
Aw... that is so horrible! I think it's great that you talked to him about it and at least he heard the words from you that he is perfect the way God made him. I used to get picked on in school a lot too because we didn't have a lot of money and I couldn't afford designer clothes when it seemed like every one else did and I also wore awful thick glasses and got made fun of for that too and I never heard my parents encourage me or tell me to ignore them because I was fine the way I was. Believe me, that would have gone a long way to mend my heart! Most likely that boy that is picking on him just doesn't feel good about himself and that's why he's lashing out at others. In the long run, he'll probably have trouble making good friends and your son won't, so definitely just keep doing what you're doing. I too would talk to the teacher about it and see what happens that route too.
 
Oh, that just breaks my heart... my niece used to pull her hair out and it just broke my heart to see her half bald because of school... she ended up going to a private school and now things are soooooo much better but I know that's probably not an option for you... but I do agree with everyone else that something needs to be said to the teacher... poor kiddo
 
Aww, Rebecca... so sorry your little man has to go through this. No parent ever wants their child to have to put up with mean kids like that. I hope that by talking to another teacher/principal/counselor, it will help stop this behavior. :hug
 
:beat you girls are so awesome! thanks for the support! (and angie, i know i can always trust you to start a brawl :giggle)

when i went into work today, i popped my head into the principal's office. i told him i just wanted to make sure i took the right approach, and since it didn't happen at lunch or on the playground, i didn't think it was appropriate for me or one of the other aids to be the one to address the situation. he was wonderful about it. he said he would talk to both the teacher and the counselor. the counselor is going to talk with the boy who is teasing isaac, and then the teacher will also be made aware so she can keep an eye out. their school counselor does a great job at being daily involved in the kids' school lives, so i think this will be a well-received approach for everyone. i don't think the other boy will feel like he's being tattled on, so much as he will be aware that he has made bad choices. that's just how this counselor is... it's great.

so we'll see how it goes moving forward.
 
I'm glad you talked to the principal. It sounds like you are at least fortunate to have a school that takes it so seriously. I can't. Elieve kids pick on each other for moles now. Good grief. I was picked on for having dark hair on my legs in my early grades. We had to wear skirts too. To this day I have a phobia about it. I wish we could live in a society where bullying was non-existent.
 
Oh Rebecca. My heart aches for him and for you. :( Nothing is harder for a mommy to navigate I think, than those tough life lessons or challenges or experiences we can't prevent from happening.

I think the words you shared with Issac were perfect. And I agree that speaking with the teacher is important. Just to put it on their radar. I hope that your little man moves past this quickly. ((hugs)) :beat
 
Sounds like you've done everything you should. I'm glad the principal is being responsive to the situation. And that sucks that it happened. :( I think that these things are so hard for us as moms to deal with. It hurts so much when it is your kid. I find that it takes me a lot longer to get over stuff like this happening that it does for my kids. Hugs!
 
Sounds like a good response from the principal. Here's hoping for no more incidents! (((hugs)))
 
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