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bestcee

In love with places I've never been to
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I'm a chatter. A talker. A learner. And as such, I often find myself giving more information than is actually necessary! Especially when answering questions. I just can't help but give people as much knowledge as I can! I love to share what I've learned.

Dh is almost the opposite. He is much better at just answering the question. You want the yes or no? Ask him. You want the yes, but, and the no, but ask me.

What about you? Are you good at giving just enough info that is needed? Or are you an overgiver too?
 
I'm an oversharer too! I'm also an overasker - one to ask a million questions. My kids hate that about me. They say I interrogate them every time they leave the house or go to a friends. I think I'm just being a good mom who's interested in her children's lives. But I guess deep down, I'm just a control freak who has to know it all....hehe

See I overshared here too... Someone please stop me!
 
I'm in between. I answer with a little info if follow-up questions are expected. (For example, you can stop reading my response after this paragraph but if you want my opinion on the people in my family, then read on. :) )

The above paragraph would be my "at a doctor's office and they only need the facts" answer. Below is my "chatting with friends" answer--cuz that's what we are here: friends. :)

Then there's my mom. She can't stop talking. Seriously. My dad barely speaks and he's short and to the point when he does. Very reticent. I'm somewhere in the middle, but closer to my dad, at least in word amount lol.
 
i fall into both categories - more often than not i'm the one to fill the silence but if there's a specific question, i try not to waffle on - unless it's an opinion or debatable kind of topic where i can see both sides and i basically debate it with myself trying to figure out my view. I also was and still am a 'why?' curious person and have always been taught to also answer Q's with a justifiable reason, so my 'because's' can lead me on overly long sentences.

But, like now, when i am flu-ed up to the eyeballs, i try not to talk (or breathe) as much as possible. And ya know what? That's when people ask the most questions in IRL - like yesterday, i absolutely had to go to the shops to get coffee and this woman also in that aisle, blocking the section, wanted to talk to me all about how she uses the same coffee i grabbed after saying excuse me, and she wanted to know have i tried it this way or that one instead etc and i felt rude but i just couldn't - usually i would have overshared my coffee habits because maybe that's this person's only way to connect with others etc but i just couldn't
 
My Mom's oversharing used to embarrass me so much, so with strangers, I think of my conversation as utilitarian. But when it comes to people I know... I believe in being an open book. The downside of that is I forget that other people have secrets. One of my friends at work was pregnant, and she told me almost as soon as she knew because she wanted someone to talk about it with other than her husband. I was super happy for her, and we were moving and getting rid of our baby furniture at the time. One day, right before a staff meeting, in a room of 25 people, I turned to her and said, "Oh, we've rented a van for Friday, so we'll bring over the changing table and everything then." The room went quiet, and my friend just shrugged her shoulders and said, "So, I wasn't going to tell everyone for another month, but... I'm pregnant!" I had actually forgotten it was a secret. The next time she was pregnant, we didn't work together anymore, but every time we got together she went to elaborate lengths to conceal her belly from me. Carrying large tote bags, wearing oversized sweaters... Really.
 
I think I'm definitely more of an overgiver for the most part. Sometimes I'm not so chatty, but that's usually just when I have other stuff weighing on my mind. I'm more the one that will chat on and on with complete strangers or good friends, doesn't matter to me :)
 
It depends I think ... If I'm feeling comfortable, I'm definitely an oversharer. To the point that it's kind of embarrassing. I'll talk away, then once I'm out of the situation I'll be like, what the heck is wrong with me!? I'm definitely socially awkward.

If I'm not comfortable though, I definitely keep pretty quiet.
 
It depends on the person and the situation.

My husband and children talk incessantly and usually in either long monologue form or short Q&A sessions with the questions fired at me. I rarely get the chance to talk around them, and if it is, it's because I'm justifying my actions or words and/or explaining something in excruciating detail (my daughter) for the 10th time. I hate it.

This often means that I tend to explode with words when I'm around any of my friends. I've tried to explain to them in the past why I might 'hog' the conversation so hopefully they understand and don't think me a bad friend because of it.

This is also why I'm super chatty online and talk with almost all of my good friends via FB Messenger. I can type 70wpm so no one else can type as quickly as I can and 'interrupt' me! :giggle
 
I'm mostly an oversharer especially if I know you or I'm nervous and everything just comes out (mainly job interviews)
 
I could be a a sharer, but if i start to talk, hubby, has me re-phase..repeat myself etc., evently I just shut up.
 
Juliestcyr said:
The next time she was pregnant, we didn't work together anymore, but every time we got together she went to elaborate lengths to conceal her belly from me. Carrying large tote bags, wearing oversized sweaters
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:compcoffee That's a little over the top on her part!
 
I'm definitely not very chatty. I hate talking on the phone, therefore, only talk on phone with mom and hubby. I'd rather talk in person but don't say more than I have to.
 
I too can be either depending on the situation.

When I was working, I'd often ask my co-worker a question and she'd give me this long involved answer whereas I only wanted a yes or no. We finally talked about this because sometimes I really needed a fast yes or no answer. We laughed when she said her husband complained about her detailed answers whereas my husband was more like her and used to get angry when I wanted a yes or no from him. He said nothing is that simple! Ha! My husband and co-worker both felt you had to know the why to any answer. I used to get angry with his endless mansplaining while he thought I was being curt. (I really liked it an an earlier job, also with just one woman though she was the boss in that situation and we both gave very short answers to each others' questions. However, when it was personal chat we both could go on and on.)

And the asking questions? omg this has been an issue. He'll be telling me something and I'll ask a question and I almost always get ...If you waited til I was finished you wouldn't have to interrupt me! He thinks in paragraphs I believe and I think in short sentences or one word kind of things. I think many men take it as an affront to be interrupted while we women are used to it...endless ones from children?
 
Most of the time I give a straight answer. When me and hubbby are alone together he does most of the talking. When I'm with friends, they do most of the prompts in our conversations. You are who you are....................
 
Depends. IRL I'm a listener, decisive decision maker. Online in forums, I'm an oversharer/giver. It also depends on the people... friends can't shut me up, and non-friends think I am so quiet. I'm pretty private if I don't know you... and sometimes when I do.

I'm a mix. I'll stick with that answer.
 
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