I have missed you all (life update)

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Hello Lilypad world. I wanted to check in as it has been a few months since I have been here and I have missed you all.

My husband had surgery to repair three severely herniated discs on October 22. It was an outpatient surgery, which still boggles my mind, but apparently that is standard procedure. The morning after his surgery, coming out of our downstairs bathroom, he blacked out and fell to the floor. For over one minute, he was unresponsive and I truly thought I had lost him. It was the worst moment of my entire life. I called 911 and the paramedics thought that he passed out due to pain, as the pain medicine had not kicked in yet and he was in an immense amount of pain. However, we went to the hospital to get tests done to confirm this. His EKG and blood work came back normal, so they decided it was a vagal response to pain.

That night, he began experiencing a sharp pain in his leg, similar to one that he had before his surgery. His back doctor was concerned his fall had reherniated his back, so the next morning we went back to the doctor. His doctor ordered an immediate MRI, which we were thankfully able to do rather quickly. It did show a new herniation, but it was very small. Thankfully, it was small enough to heal by itself an did not require that he redo the surgery (which was our initial fear).

On Halloween, Darren returned to his back doctor for a check-up. The doctor removed the stitches and was pleased with the healing. Darren was excited because this meant he could take a shower without being wrapped in saran wrap (we had to wrap his back in order to shower after surgery). He took that shower on November 1. It was a little long because he was just enjoying a nice, hot shower... and he decided to rub his back rather vigorously to try and get the sticky from the bandages off. I was there when he stepped out of the shower and he looked extremely pale. I was able to get him seated and he passed out again. This instance was shorter, lasting around 30 seconds, but it was extremely scary. His back doctor recommended we see a heart specialist to make sure something more serious was not going on.

A few days later, we were able to see the heart doctor. She thought both instances were a vagal response to pain, which is what Darren and I both believe to be true. However, we decided to go through a series of tests to make sure. He has been wearing a heart monitor since November 10 and will wear it for a month total. This monitor constantly monitors his heart activity. The nurse at the heart doctor told us that the monitor company will call us often, as they are overly cautious and call about everything. She told us not to worry, though, unless the actual doctor's office calls. We haven't been called ONCE, which means his heart is doing well. This is such a praise. Also, yesterday he had a heart ultrasound, but we likely won't hear the official results from that until after Thanksgiving.

As for his back, it is healing well. Darren has been off pain medicine since November 5 and has not needed anything for pain since. He said he isn't experiencing pain, which is incredible. Coming off the really strong pain meds was a beast. It caused insomnia, stomach issues, headaches, sweating and chills... it was rough. That lasted about 3 days.

He is doing better now. He is more mobile and can sit up for longer periods of time. He said the hard thing now is that he feels the best he has in at least six months and not to overdo it. I am still paranoid and I feel that I will be until I know for sure everything is okay with his heart... and that his back is completely healed (we return to the back doctor next week, when he should be cleared to start bending some).

On a positive, silver lining note... God has really used this time in my life to speak to me and I have grown an incredible amount as an individual. I have learned that I am capable of so much more than I realized. I have seen God's hand at work in our lives on so many occasions... from friends and family sending food and gift cards, to friends and our church pastor maintaining our lawn, to friends taking my daughter out for the day to have fun. My love for my husband has grown deeper than I ever imagined possible. Our marriage was really amazing before, but it is stronger and better than it has ever been.

Also, I have taken this time to do something I have been wanting to do for a while... I started a blog. I blogged for many years, stopping about three years ago. I have missed it in recent months and decided to give it a go once more. I've began turning some of my scrapbook layouts into templates that you can grab for free and you can see the first one here- https://extrasprinkle.com/2018/11/14/digital-scrapbooking-template-around-and-around-volume-1/

I hope to be around more soon. I also hope you all have a great Thanksgiving.
 
I am crying so hard reading this, the joy and the gratefulness thru everything is such an inspiration. I am just hugging you across the miles and so glad to see you back!
 
Wow, so many scares, and so many blessings all in one! Sending love, hugs and more healing wishes to you all!
 
Wow - that is a lot! What a roller coaster ride for you guys. I hope the U/S and the cardiac monitoring both yield results that are normal. So happy to hear he is no longer in pain - but what scary moments that must of been having him pass out 2x on you. Also sending you lots of love and hugs ... and well wishes for speedy healing!
Oh and congrats on finding your way back to blog writing - sounds like you are really enjoying it and I'd say you most definitely deserve a little "me time".
Happy Thanksgiving Desi!
 
Oh my! What a ride for all of you! Praising God that it is behind you now and things seem to be normalizing! So awesome that you are able to reflect and see God's hand in so many of the circumstances!! That is awesome!

Can't imagine the fear and terror you felt for those minutes when Darren was not responding!

As for coming off the pain meds … I totally get it - after shattering my wrist and arm and being on Vicodin for 6 months, coming off of the meds was really worse than the physically pain. It's a feeling that is hard to describe.

Thank you for sharing and please keep us posted with the heart monitor results!

Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family!! XO
 
:) SO glad you hubby is doing better and you are doing better Desi. We missed you but your family is the most important thing in the world. Happy Thanksgiving!
 
I'm so glad your husband is doing so well. What a great blessing and such a relief for both of you. I know from experience the hard time you have been thru and how it strengthens the love you feel for each other. My husband has had a lot of health issues, including heart surgery at the age of 47. He is retired now and we are living in a place we dreamed of living in for a long time. And we are so grateful for our blessings. I hope all continues to go well with you and your family. Happy Thanksgiving! And welcome back!!
 
Wow!! That has been a crazy and scary last few months. Thank you God that he is getting stronger and feeling so much better. I am glad your strength in God and your relationship with your hubby have grown.

Thanks for the link to your blog and for sharing your freebies. I am off to explore it.
 
So scary! Glad your husband is doing better. I, too, hope the rest of the tests come back as normal and the rest of his recovery is smooth. So happy you had support and loved ones to lean on. Sometimes we forget or don't know how strong we really are. Glad you found your strength. Sending lots of love and prayers to you both!

P.S. Love the name of your blog!
 
Desi, OMG! I know how hard it is to have a loved one deal with illness, being a caretaker is not fun. Thankfully, for your DH, it looks like there is a positive end to this story. I am so happy for the both of you. Thinking of you all during this time. Please keep us all posted.
 
Oh my goodness, Desi, what a time of ups and downs and great fear. I'm so sorry that you've been through all of that, but I was so moved when I read of the "silver lining". What a blessing that some of the wonderful and positive things have happened for you and your family. I truly hope and pray that things are on the upswing for you all now and I know this Thanksgiving will be especially blessed for your family. Sending lots of prayers, love and hugs. :heartslub:heartslub
 
Glad your hubby is better! What a wild and scary few months it's been for you! I hope that things continue to look up for you all! Your story reminds me of the quote "you never know how strong you are, until being strong is your only choice". I will enjoy following your blog and I'm so glad to see you again!
 
A quick update- today, well after office hours, we got a call from the heart doctor. His ultrasound from yesterday came back normal! I was so grateful for the call and that we did not have to wonder over the holiday weekend.
 
Your blog is so fun! Thank you for the free templates & prayers for some answers for your hubby! :D
 
wow, you certainly have been on a roller coaster of late but so happy to read that your hubby is doing better and exra happy to read just now that his ultrasound came back normal!! sending you both lots of positive and happy thoughts! :)
 
OMG Desi, I was wondering where on Earth were you? I had never heard of vagal response until my neighbor had one two years ago. He passed out in a powder room and hit his head on the toilet. He was unresponsive for close to an hour. I took their kids with me home, while the paramedics tear down the door to get to him. It was terrible, he smashed one of his vertebras and had to had surgery and had a small bleed but it all was complicated because he has heart issues and it's on blood thinners. For a good 48hrs it was touch and go. He did full recovery in 2 years and it's starting back to his karate practices. All that story, it was just to let you know that full recovery does happen and I am so glad your hubby is pain free.... and super happy to see you back!!!!!!
 
Thank you for the update, sweetie! What a scare and wild ride. But what you said about us having to trust fully on God in situations like this is so true. He is there with us the whole way. It takes times like this when our faith is tested to realize just how great He is.

And yay for the good news. What a happy Thanksgiving for y’all!

That vagal response is scary. I can say that because it happened to me. If not I never would’ve realized my own medical conditions and sought treatment. My cardiologist calls it “the Beatles Effect”. Lol! He said women would scream so hard when they saw The Beatles that it would trigger the response and they’d pass out!

I’ll be remembering all of you in my prayers!
 
Oh My so many emotions! I had to call an ambulance once for my husband too -- he actually was having a heart attack. It still scares me two years later. I'm so glad he is getting better. Thank you for the link to your website and thank you for the freebies.
 
Good to hear from you! What an ordeal for your hubs and the family. I hope he continues to heal and can put this all behind him. I bet your loving support has been wonderful for him and sounds like you've had a great network of family/friends supporting you through all this. Hugs to you.
 
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