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StefanieS

StefanieS

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I woke up yesterday and saw that South Africa had been red listed by the UK overnight and I was so very heartsore. Our tickets to fly to London had been booked, air bnb and train tickets all paid for. It's been two years since I have seen my son, we haven't met the girl friend in real life yet and I was so hopeful that our plans were actually going to happen this year. I admit to having a little cry and then when I video called my daughter and the girlfriend we all shed a few more tears. SO change of plans...

I am proud of myself that I didn't binge some carbs though. I took a day and moped a little and then decided to focus on the good - there really is so much to appreciate and to enjoy.

When you're disappointed - what do you do? What makes you feel better?

Let's commiserate each other.
 
Oh no! That's such a shame. I have been thinking of you over the past couple of days and hoping this new variant (or "worrying deviant" as my elderly mum called it!) wasn't affecting you.
 
I'm SO sorry, Stefanie! I saw that everything was locking down again - internationally. :( This pandemic has sure wrecked our lives, hasn't it? We forfeited 3 round trip air fares in the last 2 years. Every time we thought it was "safe" we had to cancel at the last minute. We got some of the money back on the last flight, but even with insurance, you lose money.
 
How frustrating for you. This pandemic just keeps kicking our butts. Sorry to hear of your travel plans changing.

When I'm disappointed or frustrated I like to be alone, to read a book, go for a walk, clear my head. I need a bit of quiet time to deal with whatever the issue is.
 
Oh Stefanie! I am so very sorry! I can't imagine having to go that long without seeing one of my children. I'm praying for you as you deal with this disappointment.

You are right that there are still blessings even when we are met with disappointment and frustration. It's a worthwhile exercise to look for the good.

I pray and meditate and then if I still feel unsettled, I'll read a book or watch something mindless on TV. Talking with a trusted family member or friend also helps, because once I've said it out loud, it tends to lose its power over me.
 
When I'm disappointed (its usually because of another job rejection), I allow myself to be upset if need be, rest a bit, then wake up and formulate a new plan. It's very rare for me that any disappointments last more than a few hours now
 
Oh i m so sad for you Stefanie!! you are very brave because I would go crazy not seeing my daughter(s) for so long.
I have cancelled 3 trips during Covid and I Got a full Refound ....hope it will be the same for you :beat.

When I m disappointed i rest with a good book or take a walk .
 
You were in my thoughts as soon as I heard Travelers from South Africa was banned from all countries in Europe. I did not know you had planned to travel, ( that makes me even more sad for you ) but this variant is a nasty thing, and the whole world is going to pot.
I made the mistake of not traveling in September when we were free of the dammed thing for a month. Now Denmark is a dark Red Zone and Malta is Red/orange going for red soon I think. Uk is out of the question, they are worse of than us, so yeah , not seeing family sucks big time !
I console my self by knowing that we are all healthy ,even if apart .And we each have the means and opportunities to keep in touch via different technologies .
 
That is terribly disappointing Stefanie!

I rant to family or friends and write in my journal.
 
What a huge disappointment for you and your family. Let’s hope the no fly rules will help curb the Pandemic in the long run and life will get back to normal. I feel for you; sending gentle hugs your way.
 
I am so sorry Stefanie. I would have cried :(.
I’m a sulker when I am disappointed. I wish I could be more positive.
I am so sad for you…
 
So sorry, Stefanie!! I know that is so incredibly disappointing! I so hope you'll be able to see him soon!!
I tend to just mope by myself for a little bit, then vent to a friend. But after that, like you said, I try to focus on the good things.
 
Oh Stefanie I'm so sorry that you can't go on your trip! I thought of you when I heard South Africa was affected. I would cry too and vent to someone (usually my sister, Janet) and then I'd try to move on and look for the positive. hurts. Sending BIG HUGS!
 
Eyeore said:
It's been two years since I have seen my son, we haven't met the girl friend in real life yet and I was so hopeful that our plans were actually going to happen this year.
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I'm so sorry, Stefanie. That is really rough. Something similar happened to me last Christmas: I was all excited about seeing my son, who is at uni in the States, and then the airline cancelled all its flights...It was heartbreaking, and a bitter disappointment. I have to admit that I cried, and moped, and sulked.

Ugh! This pandemic is so hard on so many. I know that it will end (or become endemic rather than pandemic), but right now, and with this new variant, it just feels like it's going to go on and on, with no end in sight...
 
I heard about omicron late last week and was hoping you wouldnt be affected by borders or cutoffs. I'm so sorry, it has to be so hard & I'd have moped a lot longer. It's not the same but our last real disappointment was a few weeks back - a bird I'd managed to convince my fam we have room for after some shuffling about was adopted while we were waiting in the foyer to meet her at the rspca. Usually our local shelter only write blurbs on cats & dogs, birds just get a photo but she had a story & in my head, she was already a perfect fit for our flock. The most frustrating thing was we could have been there several hours earlier (or days if they were open Mon or Tues) except they apparently don't return phone calls despite their answering machine message prompts to leave your name & number & animal you want to meet (apparently they only booked meetings during lockdown but didn't change the phone message so I was waiting for that appointment making call back) & none of the email enquiries I put in received the 'thank you, you have a reply' automated replies that the follow-up screen mentioned. And because I didn't want to be that annoying person & ring a third time in the space of half a day, I'll never know if the bird now has a good life etc. I should be glad that she got adopted but the process didn't shine a good light on the shelter for me & because the kids were excited about it, it made the disappointment harder.
So if I can feel like that about a bird I never really met, you are entitled to much more moping. We've been moving furniture and laying floating floors so it's been distraction therapy really, changing things around isn't necessarily as good as a holiday like the saying but it's a bit refreshing (well will be more so when we're really done)
 
I have a very negative way to treat my disappointments, so I am following this thread for healthier ways. I am so sorry that COVID is still wreaking our lives and I just want to send you an E-HUG!
 
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