Bianca's Story.. one of hope

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  1. dotcomkari

    dotcomkari The Deaf Superstar

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    Every 40 seconds a child goes missing somewhere in the United States. There are more than 460,000 missing children each year. Of those missing children, almost 1,500 of them are kidnapped.When most people think of abduction, they think of a stranger abduction. The victim generally does not know the perpetrator at all. The kidnapper violently attacks, takes, or lures the child into their custody. In a majority of cases, this occurs within ¼-mile of the child’s home.About 74 percent of the victims of non-family child abduction are girls. Acting quickly is critical. Seventy-four percent of abducted children who are ultimately murdered are dead within three hours of the abduction. 57 Percentage of children who come home alive after being abducted by strangers
    On Christmas Eve, the 24th of Dec 2018, my 15 year old daughter, Bianca, went missing. Bianca had gotten a phone call from her boyfriend who broke up with her. She was upset and needed to cool off. She decided to take a walk around the gated community in which she was visiting with her grandparents for the holidays in Fort Myers Beach Florida. Last known sighting of Bianca on camera was about 1 pm that afternoon. Bianca says the last thing she remembers was a hand on her shoulder. We believe she was hit over the head and drugged and taken by car.
    Bianca woke up the next day laying on a beach under a blue tarp with a man standing over her. She was given some kind of kool aid drink to drink. The next few days are a blur for Bianca and she remembers only bits and pieces. She remembers an old skinny woman with a very high pitched voice stroking her hair calling her baby. She also remembers a very tan man with little teeth and a white hat. Also she recalls two small kids, one maybe called Ana? Bianca says she was mostly unconscious or sleeping during this time (we believe she was highly drugged). She does remember being fed some kind of beef stew.
    Meanwhile I was called the night Bianca went missing, being informed she had been gone a few hours. The next morning I left on a plane to Fort Myers. When I arrived it had been over 24 hours Bianca had been missing.The police had listed her as a runaway, because she left on her own will. There was never any Amber Alert issued becase for an Amber Alert there are certin guidelines that have to be met: Law Enforcement Confirms an Abduction, the child is at risk for death, There is enough descriptive information about the victim and the abduction for law enforcement to issue an AMBER Alert to assist in the recovery of the child, The abduction is of a child aged 17 years or younger and The child’s name and other critical data elements, including the Child Abduction flag, have been entered into the National Crime Information Center (NCIC) system.
    My father and youngest daughter, Asia, left after day 3 leaving my mother and I alone in Fort Myers searching for Bianca. We felt hopeless, because Bianca was listed as a runaway we felt no one was taking anything serious. News only did a small 5 second blurb on the news about her and barely anyone even knew she was missing! We made over 200+ flyers and walked up and down every inch of the beach and surrounding area handing out flyers telling everyone we could about Bianca. Police started to believe the worst, telling us they believe she had drown in one of the surrounding canals and were out searching the canals for a body. Every inch of me tried to keep up hope and pray for a good outcome.
    It rained the night of day four and my mother and I were heart broken. They had planned to send out the search dogs the next morning, and we knew there would be little to find her scent with the recent rain. Mom and I took turns breaking down in tears. We were at our emotional and physical wits end. Both of us had not slept in 5 days and food would not stay down. We were angry at the world. I can not begin to tell you the pain of having your child go missing. There are no words in the human language.
    Day five my mother and I were recovering from a long day walking the beach about to set out and look again when the door on the bottom the stairs came flying open. I will never forget the screams and sounds that came next. My 15 year daughter had escaped . She had found her way back. Bianca woke that morning to find herself alone on the beach, and while she was extremely drugged and dehydrated she took her chance and ran like a mad woman. She ran about what she believes was 20 mins on the highway back to us. How she did it, no one knows.. Or how she knew the way. We believe God was looking out for her. She kept screaming they took me, they took me!
    Head to toe drenched in sweat and dressed in clothes that were not hers, my baby girl was back safe in my arms. Bianca had a GIANT sunflower painted on her right left done in probably about 20 layers of acrylic paints. It went from almost her ankle to the high thigh. On her other foot she had 3 little hearts with numbers in them painted. (this is often a sign of sex trafficking) 911 was called and Bianca was questioned for hours and hours by both 100 police members and also a child physiologist. Than finally she was taken to a hospital for a look over where they did a bunch of blood work, eye exams and other tests. The next morning she had a rape kit done.
    We learned Bianca had been assaulted. Something no mother wants to hear. But we hope this gave the police DNA to catch the bastards who took my baby girl. We hadn't heard anything from the police department that next day and believed they were looking in the wrong place. Bianca was extremely brave and took my mother and I to the place where she had been kept. IT was exactly like she had described. Under a bridge.. Hidden by woods. There was a blue tarp, a rocking lawn chair and a small fishing boat. We saw no one in sight and took a few photos using my mothers phone. We called the police department and they did confirm to us that yes, they had been to the same place.
    IT wasn't till nearly two days later that we left Fort Myers. We were told to stick around incase law enforcement had more questions for Bianca. But after those two days we heard not a peep from the department and couldn't wait to get the hell home. I am so blessed to have amazing co-workers who helped us book a flight and get back to our home.
    Bianca is a brave girl and I tell her how proud I am of her 100 times a day. I learned to cherish second chances, give my loved ones 1000 kisses every day and always tell them how much they mean to me. I know now God is real and believe he played a huge part in bringing my baby home safe and sound. Bianca is lucky and I have more compassion for those families out there still searching for their loved ones.
    I urge all parents to hold their little ones tight. You never know when your life will change forever.
     
  2. gonewiththewind

    gonewiththewind I choose joy.

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    @dotcomkari

    I was SO relieved when it was posted on Facebook that she was found. Reading her story gives me chills. While I'd like to believe a walk around the block should be something we all can do, I don't know, there are just so many crazy people in the world now. I can remember riding my bike around where I lived and I never thought about anyone bothering me. It's not the same in our town now. Florida is just different. Continuing to pray for Bianca as she heals from this experience, and for you and your entire family! ((HUGS))
     
  3. jagruti patel

    jagruti patel Me love cookies! Yum! Yum!

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    I can't even imagine what you and your family went through! I am just happy she was found! Stay strong! Hugs!
     
  4. kayjaydo

    kayjaydo Keeping my feet firmly on the ground

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    I am at a loss for words, the ordeal for your family, just doesn't bare thinking about. I will continue to believe in the power of prayer and keep you and your family in mine as you all continue to heal. And when my boys get up in the morning, I will hug them harder!
    Stay strong
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    Kerri
     
  5. lmccandless

    lmccandless The Force is strong with this one. Boss of the Applesauce

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    @dotcomkari - I was following your posts on Facebook and praying so hard for her and for you. I don't even have the words to express how relieved and happy I was to hear that you had her back. Those statistics and the story of what happened to her are heartbreaking but I am thankful that she is alive. There is a path to healing. I also want to thank you for raising awareness about the super important issue of sex trafficking. Thinking of you and Bianca.
     
  6. carrie1977

    carrie1977 Tequila and Taco Tuesday

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    You have this mama in tears. I can't begin to imagine what that must have been like for her. Or you. Sending lots of love and prayers to you all as you recover from this. I'm so, so happy she is home. :beat:beat
     
  7. Angela Toucan

    Angela Toucan I keep looking for THAT wardrobe

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    oh mercy. we all prayed for her. I'm saddened by her ordeal, but glad she is now safe with you. Thank you for sharing your story. We will continue to pray for healing for all of you.
     
  8. bestcee

    bestcee In love with places I've never been to

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    I'm so glad she was able to come home. I have no words except joy that she is back. I hope she is able to heal and you are too.
    I've followed Elizabeth Smart's story from when she went missing because I lived there. I remember being glad when she was found. And I was more glad when you posted Bianca was found!
    Lots of prayers and mental hugs being sent your way.
     
  9. SeattleSheri

    SeattleSheri Movers, cleaners, great hair. I'm a socialite!

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    You've endured something no parent should ever have to and I can't even begin to imagine how scary it was for your daughter. I'm so glad she managed to escape. Sending you, your daughter and family lots of healing vibes.
     
  10. janedee

    janedee Is a craft project ever really finished?

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    I'm so relieved to hear she is safe at home with you again. What an ordeal for you all. I can't even begin to imagine what she has been through and how brave she has been. Sending healing wishes to you all.
     
  11. Soco

    Soco Shhhhhh. Just shhhhhh.

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    Oh Kari.... I have no words to tell you how relieved I was when I read Bianca was back home. I was so happy for both of you, for all your family... Sending you all prayers, and much love and strength to keep healing... Hugs... :beat
     
  12. Cherylndesigns

    Cherylndesigns All glasses should be bigger than 1.5 oz

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    What an incredible story! To have Bianca back after all she went through is truly a miracle!! Thank you for sharing this information with us. You're right, we need to hold our children and loved ones tight.
     
  13. IntenseMagic

    IntenseMagic Some grannies cuss a lot. I'm some grannies.

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    I can't imagine what you and your family have been through, but I am so thrilled that you had a happy ending. The statistics are so frightening. Thank you for sharing with us and you all remain in my thoughts and prayers!
     
  14. bellbird

    bellbird Pollywog

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    This was hard to read at times (thru tears) but I'm so glad to know the outcome was positive mostly & she didn't become a statistic _ I really hope the police find those people & I wonder about those other children & can't imagine how much strength it took her to go back there afterwards & how you survived this all yourself Kari & I hope the worst is behind you now, you've dealt with more than anyone should have to in their lifetime
     
  15. flowersgal

    flowersgal I have big ears and wide arms

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    My heart breaks once again, Kari, at your account of Bianca's ordeal. So scary. And, I continue to believe that God heard every one of those prayers and provided Bianca both with the opportunity to escape and the stamina and direction to get back to you. Praying now for her and you as you and she live in a new reality. May her and your journey to healing begin. She is one brave girl.
     
  16. berniek

    berniek I have a girl crush on the Naming Fairy

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    Oh my this is horrible. I’m so glad she was able to escape and is home now. I just don’t have the words.
     
  17. QuiltyMom

    QuiltyMom I'll never run out of things to do!

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    You all were in my prayers during this whole ordeal. I was so thrilled to hear she was back! Please know that you will have my continued prayers for healing. Our God is good and can make us whole again. And thank you for the update, too, for sharing your story with us.
     
  18. Karen

    Karen Wiggle it, just a little bit!

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    I was SO relieved when you posted on Facebook to say she was found. Thank God! What an awful ordeal she survived and I'm so glad that she escaped and found her way home. Thank you for sharing her story here too. I will continue to keep you all in my prayers as she heals and finds a way to move forward from here.
     
  19. djp332

    djp332 She sells seashells down by the seashore

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    What a relief that she made her way home!
     
  20. KimJ

    KimJ Did you check in the refrigerator?

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    Oh, Kari, there aren't words to express how I felt reading what Bianca went through. I am so glad she found her way out and back to you. I hope they find those responsible. Keeping both of you and your whole family in my thoughts as you continue to heal. (((((hugs)))))
     

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