Grieving

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  1. mcurtt

    mcurtt give me all the paleo brownies

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    I hope you don't mind that I share... My DH and I and our 13 year old Jack (pup) went on vacation up to Door County to celebrate John's birthday (6/18) and our 42nd wedding anniversary (6/22). We got our feet wet in Lake Michigan (Jack is not a water dog, but he was amazingly brave.) We all went to see a play in the park (dogs allowed), we ate outdoors, always having Jack with us. On Monday evening, we noticed some bleeding from his right ear. We found a vet on Tuesday who said it was a cut. He cauterized it, said that Jack would be fine. He wasn't... We went out for pizza, Jack gobbled up a few pieces of sausage. And then we took a walk, just a short one. Jack began vomiting and couldn't stop. He was so weak, we had to carry him to the car. He died shortly after 11 p.m. Tuesday with us by his side. We packed up the car and left at midnight, arriving back home at 6 a.m. on our wedding anniversary, with Jack's body in the back seat. When the vet opened, we dropped Jack off to be cremated. We are picking up his ashes in a couple of weeks. We spent the rest of our anniversary grieving, crying, sleeping, crying. I'm at home, technically still on vacation, due back to work on Tuesday. Everything we touch, everywhere we go, we see reminders of Jack.

    He would have been 14 in November, if we got his age correct. He had 2 previous owners. He became part of our family in May of 2002. We were told he was 1 1/2 when we got him, but our vet had suspicions that he was closer to 4. And if that were the case, Jack lived to be 16 years old. But it doesn't make it any easier to let go. And about getting his feet wet in Lake Michigan? Well, we think that maybe it was on his bucket list and he knew his days were numbered... So this is not good-bye, but a tribute to my sweetheart of a dog.

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  2. carilyne

    carilyne It's only impossible if you think it is

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    I'm so sorry to hear that. Pets are so much a part of us. I love the bit about dipping his toes in Lake Michigan on his bucket list. Sending you good thoughts and hugs. Jack was a beautiful dog.
     
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  3. NancyBeck

    NancyBeck Happy resident of Pollyville

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    I am so sorry for your loss. We lost one suddenly in April. They are family.
     
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  4. rchansen

    rchansen in the sweet tooth recovery program

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    Losing a pet is hard. I am so sorry. He sounds like he was well loved!!
     
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  5. KatrinaHunt13

    KatrinaHunt13 And *POOF* it appeared!

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    Oh I am so sorry. We just went thru this two weeks ago tomorrow. Yesterday was the first day that I for they without crying. Hugs sweetie
     
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  6. lmccandless

    lmccandless The Force is strong with this one.

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    I am so very sorry for your loss. It's sad and hard, but I think his years with your family must have been wonderful...and that last dip in Lake Michigan is a beautiful way for his story to end. Thank you for sharing his sweet photo too. Big hugs to you.
     
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  7. jenn mccabe

    jenn mccabe She's OUR sunshine!

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    oh goodness that is so sad to hear. i love your outlook on his getting his feet wet in Lake Michigan & it being on his bucket list. that part made me smile just a little. but i'm so sorry you lost your sweet Jack. (we have a pup named Jack too.) :)

    like Nancy said - they most definitely are family. {{hugs}}
     
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  8. paula kesselring

    paula kesselring Designer

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    omg...I am so sorry for your loss...i have 3 puppies and they are my family...i can't imagine your pain...
    {{hugs}}
     
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  9. Jan

    Jan I'm sorry, I can't. I'm busy doing nothing!

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    So very sorry for the loss of your fur baby. When we lost our Frankie we bought a pretty decorator box from Joann's and put his most favorite toys in it along with a small pillow he had "stollen" from our daughter, photos, his leash and collar and a footprint keepsake. It helped us with the closure process.

    Hugs to you.
     
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  10. HeatherB

    HeatherB Ain't nothin wrong with a few dust bunnies!

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    Oh no! I'm so sorry for your loss, Marilyn. Hugs.
     
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  11. jk703

    jk703 CEO of Anything and Everything, Everywhere

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    I'm so sorry for your loss! I hope all the happy memories will soon make you smile instead of shedding tears. My heart hurts for you.
     
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  12. mrs2a50

    mrs2a50 Pretty much the best.ever.

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    I am so very sorry! The whole experience sounds just heartbreaking. I hope you are able to move past that and remember just the good times!
     
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  13. dawninskip

    dawninskip Well-Known Member

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    So so sorry, losing a pet is heartbreaking, they become part of your family; Jack obviously had a wonderful life with you. You're in my thoughts :beat
     
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  14. dagi

    dagi Aiming high

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    that made me cry.. very sorry for your loss Marilyn.. he was a beautiful dog ♥
     
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  15. MrsPeel

    MrsPeel LOVE LOVE LOVE!!!

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    so so so sorry to hear... I cannot even think about the pain of loosing him.... I try to think, every time someone leaves this world, of the good times shared, and like you saids, no goodbye but tribute to the beautiful life of his... huge hugggzz
     
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  16. readingfool

    readingfool Well-Known Member

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    I'm sorry for your loss, it's never easy, but hopefully you'll be able to take some comfort in knowing you gave him a great life, and he loved you every bit as much as you love him. :hug
     
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  17. Lindzee

    Lindzee Aging gracefully

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    I'm sorry for your loss. I also lost my sweet girl Lucy today and I can understand your grief. She was 16 years old. A ruddy abbsynian cat. They are so family and we feel for them so much. My little diva and best friend. I will sorely miss her as you will Jack. Not a goodbye, a sacred memory. I hadnt done a page with her photo for so long and I finally just did one the other day. A light in my life now dimmed.
     
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  18. Nemla

    Nemla Stretching my skill set

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    I am so so sorry for your loss. We treat them like family,and are devastated as a family when they go.
    On jacks behalf I am happy for him that his last few days he got to spend with you,having an adventure,and being spoilt.
     
  19. ~Mary

    ~Mary Clap along if you feel like happiness is the truth

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    I am so, so sorry for your loss. All of our pets are our babies and sometimes I think we grieve more for the ones that are gone than we do for relatives who are gone. Hugs~
     
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  20. BevG

    BevG If I can't remember it, it didn't happen

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    So sorry for your loss. Our pets sure are like family. When you start to heal, perhaps make a little memory book about him. We have done that for our pets that left and it is healing to remember the good times we had with them.
     
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