I swear, I think our kids are trying to kill us with stress. My 21-year old SD is causing all kinds of drama, and just when I thought that was bad enough, my 19-year old SS went and topped it in a such a major major way that I can't even be joking about it. I've had nightmares the past two nights and have been just sick to my stomach with stress. The only thing that I'm thankful for at this point is that no one outside of the family was hurt by his tremendous stupidity. The thing that really kills me is that DH doesn't want to tell his kids that he is losing his job in the next few weeks, but right now, I just want to beat both of his kids senseless and let them know what they are doing to *his* stress level. The worst part is that I don't even know if they'd care. I woke up with a stress migraine today, had to throw up, and then went back to bed for several hours. I kind of feel guilty, but I'm leaving for Artfest tomorrow night, and I'm glad. I paid a lot to go to this, and now I'm excited that I will be getting out for a few days and not have to be mired in middle the stress storm. I know I will still be stressed, but at least I'll be a little removed. I am going to try to really leave a lot of it behind and focus on the workshops I've been waiting so long to take. I just feel selfish and guilty about it though. Do you guys ever have these situations and/or feel guilty for wanting to temporarily run away???
:[ i'm sorry things are so cruddy.. you def should take the time to get away, and NOT feel guilty about it. I plot how i can escape every day never happens though ahah
I'm sorry for the stress you're dealing with in your life right now. I hope it gets better for you. <3 Don't feel guilty! I swear, every mother has mother's guilt for some reason. It just seems to come wired in for us all. It sounds like your little trip is coming at a fantastic time. I always find that I appreciate my kids and hubby more if I have a quick trip somewhere and am gone for a bit. Plus, I think it's always good for them to realize that yummy dinners don't just magically appear on the table, along with clean clothes, clean house, etc. - so they appreciate what you do when you're not there. And, most likely, all that stuff will be waiting for you when you get home, haha. But hey, we have to get turned loose once in awhile, right? It's good for you! I hope you have so much fun!
I understand, Kimberlee. Being a stepmother is the HARDEST job in the world and 10x more stressful and difficult than being a biological mom. Since your SKs are adults(ish), it would be most healthy for you to disengage and repeat the Stepmother Mantra: Not My Kid, Not My Problem. We have the same kind of stress from Hubs' ex and his son, and getting a break, even for an hour or two, is always better than being stuck in the middle with no power or control over the situation. Have fun at Artfest! Unfortunately, the problems and stres will still be there when you get back, so might as well take a break now to recharge so you're ready for the long haul upon your return.
Sorry about all the stress you're dealing with right now. I sure hope that your hubby can talk some sense into his kids and give a good thwack upside the head and teach them a lesson! As for your fun weekend, I say go and enjoy it to the fullest. As you said, you paid good money for it and have looking forward to it. If you're over the top stressed, I can't think of a better stress relieve. Just turn your phone and and really get away!
Totally understand here! Got 3 SKs that are grown & we have had our moments with them & mine! It seems like it doesn't ever end but then, out of nowhere, they get it and life returns to some sort of normalcy. It does get better. Each family is different so depending on how the relationship is between you and his kids....well, let him deal with it. Enjoy the time away @ recharge!
Ugh...so sorry you are dealing with this Kimberlee. I hope you can go and enjoy your time away. Take a step back, take a deep breath, and just have fun while you are away!
Aww honey, enjoy your time away and don't feel guilty. We all want (and need) to escape every now and then. My own kids make me want to run away sometimes. lol Amanda is right, take a deep breath and a step back. {{hugs}}
totally go and enjoy your time!! You deserve it! I'm sorry everything is happening though...not cool!!
Thanks, ladies, for being so sweet. I am going to enjoy my workshops and breathe. It will be good to come back refreshed. I will miss you guys though! Internet withdrawal is not a pretty thing.
Ugh, I'm so sorry you're going through such a rough patch. Take a deep breathe and know that a lot of people are sending you good thoughts.
(((hugs))) Sorry your going through all of this too. Go and enjoy your time off. Everyone needs time to re-think things, Enjoy themselves stress free.
I'm so sorry to hear about all of the stress you are under right now. I don't have any wise-words... but hang in there hun!! Tomorrow is new day...
Already so many lovely thoughts here but please know I'm thinking about you, too and wishing you well. Please try to breathe as deeply as possible while you're away. I think it's really healthy that you're going. Hope things improve soon! Sending you hugs.
I completely understand. I think sometimes that my adult children are more stress than they were as minors. They start to get real life problems and yet, you can't parent them the same as when they were "under your rule". I totally want to runaway at times and they aren't my stepchildren. LOL And, I totally feel guilty about it. Relationships are so much work sometimes. Enjoy your time away though. We need time like that to rejuvenate so that we can be better and healthier mentally. {{hugs}}
