Crabby????? | Pad Patter 02.22.2021

I generally turn to my yoga practice for both to help quiet the mind (at least temporarily). Occasionally, I'll say something to hubby, like gee you are in a mood which generally does the trick of at least getting him to acknowledge.

 

Time apart usually helps. I’m lucky that my mum works full time - M/W/Th/Sat days plus Sun night so we don’t have a tonne of waking hours together for us to be crabby with or at each other. I’m actually surprised my mum and I didn’t come to any arguments or minor disagreements during our 5 or 6 week lockdown last year as we are quite alike in many ways. I think it helped we could still go and pick up groceries so we weren’t together 24/7.

The only other times we come to any minor crabby moments is if she’s run out of her ADHD or depression medication or is on too low of a dose. If that’s the case pretty much the whole house comes to a grinding halt.....no motivation and ambition to do anything coupled with her sleep issues and depression mixed with my sleep apnea and cr*p quality of sleep....it’s a lethal combination. Early last month (Jan 2nd which is a paid public holiday here 1.5x pay plus a day off in lieu), she had run out, wasn’t able to get to the pharmacy or doctor til the 5th and she was going I’m not sure if I should go to after hours to get more medication. I basically put my foot down and said if your unwell enough to not work and lose out on extra money (cause she almost never doesn’t work a public holiday), go to the after hours dr and get a new script, it’s not worth the fall out of you not having the medication for the next three days.

 

Hibernate! Lol I just shut down.. nothing is worth the continued crap! Thankfully it is mainly due to little sleep and pain. With time hibernating for a few hours the mood changes!

 

This weekend was specially bad. We were out for a hockey tournament and things were just a mess with the room, with the team. The coach was not happy with their performance and then he reiterated that everyone should be like our daughter Bianca which made the team be a bit pissed at her. OH THE DRAMA! Plus I forgot to take my happy pills so I had a horrible headache and then there was more snow driving back. I am trying to wait until later to open my sangria!

 

If the weather is decent I go for a walk, if not, I hide in my bedroom. Pre-pandemic I usually escaped on Saturdays with a friend (running errands and a meal out), now I'm stuck home with my "housemates" (44 y.o. DD and her kids - 25, 24 and 15) unless I'm at work. I find I'm 1000% crabbier than I used to be.

 

I get crabby when I can't scrap - always have. I need that creative time for my sanity.

I've been pretty crabby because I don't have decent wifi yet. I'm running on a hotspot and it gets me online, but that's about all. I can't download any files, which we all do a lot of. I have to drive to my daughter's house and use her wifi. We were snowed in for a couple of days and I couldn't get my files downloaded and I was really crabby.

Their wifi was down recently and I had to go to a local restaurant and sit in the parking lot and use their wifi.

 

My hubby is on a medication that makes him crabby with a capital C. I just try to keep everything as soothing as possible. LOL

 

Hubby and I try to nicely let each other know when we're getting too crabby and give each other space, but this pandemic has been hard on all of us. He is used to traveling 3 or 4 times a month for work and hasn't traveled at all since the April of 2020. His business travel gave him a break from me and our girls at home and it gave me a break from his snoring and his always wanting to go, go, go. He likes to travel and get outta the house. He's been going nuts the past year. I'm so glad he's been able to go into the office some the last couple of months. I'm a homebody and am happy to stay home as long as I've got food, sleep, quiet and wifi. Take away any of the 4 and I get grouchy! Then, I have to lock myself in my room and take a nap, bubble bath or binge watch something. Sometimes I just leave everyone home and go grocery shopping to get a break from their grouchiness.

Last Tuesday I encouraged my hubby to take our youngest to learn how to snowboard because I didn't want to listen to either of them complain about how bored they are and how much they hate having to stay home all the time. Things have opened up a bit around here so that's good, but it's still not enough for them to be able to get out and do as much as they'd like too. My hubby and all our kids are talking about going skiing/snowboarding again on Saturday and I'm all yes, you all go and I'll just stay home and take care of my sore back and binge watch something. I'll probably scrap too, but haven't been able to sit long at the computer yet. I pulled it on Thursday and it's still not 100% better. It's no fun getting old...

 

This is me... don't mess with my wifi or there'll be trouble!

 

Like @littlekiwi I give myself a time out.
Going for a walk also helps and failing both of those - a slab of chocolate eaten on the sly.

 

oh I forgot about the chocolate. A little treat of a snack size chocolate or caramel always helps take the edge off.

 

I go for a walk with Taz and my camera, weather permitting, or I hibernate in my office to scrap. Sometimes I will relax in my chair with coffee, book and afghan, with ear buds in to listen to something on my ipad although mostly it will be to just block hubs out, not wanting to listen to him chatter or blare the YT vids he watches (while the tv is on too which drives me nuts, having both of them blaring) . Food is always a good pick-me-upper and if I go to the store, I'll grab donuts for hubs or carrot cake for both of us. We can both chill if I put on a show to binge together. I think I'm getting more crabby than him b/c of covid which surprises me b/c usually I don't mind alone time or hanging out at home but... I am really starting to miss hanging out with friends/family, going to events, the casino (I usually go a few times a month)....or just anywhere where I don't have to wear a mask and worry about safety. It's going to be a long summer ahead b/c our vaccines won't be coming until late summer/fall so I think this year is going to be a write-off also.

 

there's a fair amount of truth in the saying that music soothes the savage beast - depending on who is crabbiest, i put their preferred music on spotify

 

music is a big one for me too. at work or at home. it almost always works to lift my spirits.

 

I think I've been the most crabbiest around here. I think it has to do with my hubby working so much. He does work from home but he's been working day and night it seems. This past Saturday as the first time in weeks we were actually able to do anything together. He has to work the next 5 weekends along with a normal work schedule. Actually, it makes him crabby which in turn makes me crabby...I try to keep it positive for the fam...seems like they feed off whatever attitude I have.

But for the most part we are both positive people and can find the good in a situation. Going for a run, reading, praying...just taking a moment to set my heart and mind in the right place can do wonders.

 

I wish we had a laugh button here because I guffawed when I read this. Gonna give this a try!

 

Whether I'm the one who's crabby or he is my solution is always the same - go off by myself and either read, scrap, or play on the computer.

 

I hide like a sick cat. But, then my mood gets worse and I spiral down. Covid has made life stinky for so many, but I remind myself at least I have a life. I can't wait to get jabbed in the arm.