Don't Cry | Pad Patter 2.11

[IntenseMagic]

So, according to my calendar of holidays, today is Don't Cry Over Spilled Milk Day.

Yes, I know it's supposed to be all about being positive and not worrying about things that have already happened, just move on, what's done is done. And I am really good at this! I very seldom get upset about anything much. I'm kind of an "it is what it is" and deal with it kind of person. But, I'm thinking really literally today and when I saw what today was, I couldn't help but think about my youngest son. I swear, he cannot have anything to drink that he doesn't end up spilling it! And it's not like he's 3...he's 12, almost 13!! I threaten to make him drink out of sippy cups all the time LOL.

So, I'm curious about 2 things today... 1) Are you good at letting things go and not worrying about things that have already happened? and 2) Is there anyone at your house that literally spills stuff all the time? Tell me I'm not alone!!

 

[michelepixels]

1. I am pretty good at letting things go.
2. I'm sorry (but happy) to say there isn't too much spilling going on here. I hope your son learns to slow down and aim better soon!
3. That GIF bothers me. Milk is dangerous to my daughter. She may have outgrown the contact reactive part of her dairy allergy, because she hasn't broken out in hives in many years, but that could just be because of how careful we are. The allergy still exists according to RAST.

 

[cfile]

not really spilling here, but I have a hard time letting things go.. I think I was born with the not being able to shake things off... I bury things, and I forgive, but I don't forget and that is something I have attempted to get over, over the years. I am getting better about it though!

 

[IntenseMagic]

1. I am pretty good at letting things go.
2. I'm sorry (but happy) to say there isn't too much spilling going on here. I hope your son learns to slow down and aim better soon!
3. That GIF bothers me. Milk is dangerous to my daughter. She may have outgrown the contact reactive part of her dairy allergy, because she hasn't broken out in hives in many years, but that could just be because of how careful we are. The allergy still exists according to RAST.

What a scary allergy to have! Glad she hasn't broken out for awhile and hope that continues!!

 

[IntenseMagic]

not really spilling here, but I have a hard time letting things go.. I think I was born with the not being able to shake things off... I bury things, and I forgive, but I don't forget and that is something I have attempted to get over, over the years. I am getting better about it though!

I totally understand not being able to forget. I do have difficulty with that sometimes. I can let stuff go and move on pretty easily, but there are some things that I'm not sure I will ever forget.

 

[AnneofAlamo]

I spent yesterday, steaming cleaning my tile. We are having people over tonight, and they are people I highly respect, and I wanted my tile sparkling...just weird me..
I spilled tea, tomato paste and brownie mix already on the floor today...argh..lol
luckily, they are great people too, and would never even worry about my floor...
lol
and between prayer and art journaling, I am able to shake things off!

 

[jk703]

I'm usually a go with the flow type person. I do remember things or how people treat me, react to me, and similar situations and file that away as reference. I can't help that, and realize that, but I try to be open and fair. 99% of the time, I'm looking for the good/silver lining of any situation/person!

Spilling in our house, my youngest! Every. Single. Time! It's a joke now when he doesn't!

 

[amien1]

1) Are you good at letting things go and not worrying about things that have already happened?
Eh sometimes, sometimes not. Like right now I'm still pretty upset at my sister- who was driving through our town but couldn't find the time to stop just to say hi. We live about 6 hours apart- I have been to her house more times than I can remember, and she's been to mine twice in 7 years. Yep- I'm still a bit pissed about it. I know I should be the bigger person & just get over it but I am ALWAYS the one to go out of my way to make people happy & don't feel like many do the same for me. So. I'm done I guess. :/

2) Is there anyone at your house that literally spills stuff all the time?
My almost 7 yr old- almost every time. We are just working on at least TELLING someone he spilled instead of just ignoring it until we find it later... ugh...

 

[Kiana]

1. if it's something that has happened, then I'm usually pretty good about letting it go, all that can't change the past stuff.

2. yes my son is 12 almost 13 and he's a spiller too ROFL You are not alone

 

[IntenseMagic]

I spent yesterday, steaming cleaning my tile. We are having people over tonight, and they are people I highly respect, and I wanted my tile sparkling...just weird me..
I spilled tea, tomato paste and brownie mix already on the floor today...argh..lol
luckily, they are great people too, and would never even worry about my floor...
lol
and between prayer and art journaling, I am able to shake things off!

Isn't it funny how we obsess over things that probably only we notice Prayer certainly does do wonders! Maybe my delving in to the art journaling will help me out even more!!

I'm usually a go with the flow type person. I do remember things or how people treat me, react to me, and similar situations and file that away as reference. I can't help that, and realize that, but I try to be open and fair. 99% of the time, I'm looking for the good/silver lining of any situation/person!

Spilling in our house, my youngest! Every. Single. Time! It's a joke now when he doesn't!

Hence, your tag line And yep, same here...it's always a joke when Chance doesn't spill things! He sometimes gets a standing ovation for finishing a drink without spilling a drop!

1) Are you good at letting things go and not worrying about things that have already happened?
Eh sometimes, sometimes not. Like right now I'm still pretty upset at my sister- who was driving through our town but couldn't find the time to stop just to say hi. We live about 6 hours apart- I have been to her house more times than I can remember, and she's been to mine twice in 7 years. Yep- I'm still a bit pissed about it. I know I should be the bigger person & just get over it but I am ALWAYS the one to go out of my way to make people happy & don't feel like many do the same for me. So. I'm done I guess. :/

2) Is there anyone at your house that literally spills stuff all the time?
My almost 7 yr old- almost every time. We are just working on at least TELLING someone he spilled instead of just ignoring it until we find it later... ugh...

Those are the kinds of things that I find it hard to forget. That really sucks!!
Chance doesn't always tell either. I usually end up finding rags and stuff where he's tried to clean it up, or I step on the sticky/wet spot. UGH.

1. if it's something that has happened, then I'm usually pretty good about letting it go, all that can't change the past stuff.

2. yes my son is 12 almost 13 and he's a spiller too ROFL You are not alone

Yay!! So glad I'm not alone!!!

 

[A-M]

1. Sometimes I am good at letting go and other times not so good. I think it depends on the seriousness of the event that has happened.
2. only my husband and I here at home... no spillers.

 

[cookingmylife]

Letting things go...I think I'm good about this now. It's taken me a lot of years but in this marriage, I'm more apt to fuss/yell whatever at dh in the moment. Once the words are out of my mouth, I'm usually done. Unless ...it's a really serious matter where we disagree. Those are values kind of things and yet, I've learned that I'm not going to change anybody who doesn't want change.

Spillers? naw, not with the two of us though dh is having more problems with a hand tremor and the other night he spilled a bowl of soup he'd heated in the microwave. He hates having this issue but the doctor says it's not a serious issue e..g Parkinsons so he just has to live with it. I also know several people who have that hand tremor that is there from childhood etc. Again, it's learn to live with it.

But, back in my first marriage, my xh used to wash the floors in our smallish kitchen (old style linoleum). He and our firstborn would skate around the floor with rags on their feet to dry it and make it a fun thing. However, invariably the next day one of the three males in my house - hubs and two little boys - would spill orange juice. I just walked away snickering cause floor washing wasn't MY job! xh would just sigh and clean it up. (He did have a lot of good traits!)

 

[bcgal00]

That makes me think of my mom. She used to say that all the time. I tend to stick my head in the sand about things but when I have to deal with stuff I will deal and then move on. I don't see the point of dwelling on things. Life's too short.

 

[Grey]

1.) I try to let things go, but anxiety makes that difficult. It's one of those things I'm working on.

2.) My daughter spills things all the time. (She's 13.) Sometimes she even cleans up the mess! Lol. One of my cats tries to knock over my glass anytime I'm drinking and frequently knocks over my insulated mug of water. Between the cats and my daughter it seems like there's always something on the floor that needs cleaned up!

 

[Justagirl]

That gif is creating anxiety for me... snort!

 

[bonnenuit]

For many things, I can go with the flow and let things go. But, there are some times and some people that have done things that cause me to not forgive and forget. It's not that I obsess about them, they're not usually on my radar, but if the topic comes up, I'm definitely carrying a grudge or two.

It's just DH & me so usually no spills. Unless you want to count the number of times that sauce or soup or salad dressing or the like end up dripping onto my chest while I'm eating.

 

[Cherylndesigns]

I'm not good at letting things go. I'm a professional worrier. Spilled drinks drive me crazy, too. My 6 year old gs is here a lot and I'm always arguing with him about not carrying drinks around. We have those pop-up lid drink containers that he is only supposed to drink out of, but he tries to sneak other containers in on me.

 

[StefanieS]

As I have gotten older so I find it easier to let stuff go. In my 20s stuff would go round and round in my head while I blamed myself. Now I forget stuff and only keep what I really need to remember. It's a much better place to be in.

My middle one, DS2 is so adept at spilling things, at curling wires around things so the next person coming along will send stuff tumbling etc.

 

[JillW]

That makes me think of my mom. She used to say that all the time.

"Don't cry over spilled milk" was one of my mom's favorite sayings too! I knew when she said it that it was time for me to pull it together and stop crying about whatever it was I was upset over!!

Fast forward to today ... I try to let things go, but find myself wallowing sometimes - I guess it depends on what's going on around me at the time. The older I get the more I am able to let things go though, definitely a step in the right direction.

As for spilling things - we do not have kiddos at home, however; my hubby is not the most graceful when he eats (or snacks, for that matter). We tend to eat dinner in the evenings while we watch the Nightly News, so we've gotten in the habit of eating in the living room ... there are always a variety of crumbs under his LazyBoy! I have threatened to make him eat in the kitchen by himself or wear a bib!

 

[IntenseMagic]

Letting things go...I think I'm good about this now. It's taken me a lot of years but in this marriage, I'm more apt to fuss/yell whatever at dh in the moment. Once the words are out of my mouth, I'm usually done. Unless ...it's a really serious matter where we disagree. Those are values kind of things and yet, I've learned that I'm not going to change anybody who doesn't want change.

Spillers? naw, not with the two of us though dh is having more problems with a hand tremor and the other night he spilled a bowl of soup he'd heated in the microwave. He hates having this issue but the doctor says it's not a serious issue e..g Parkinsons so he just has to live with it. I also know several people who have that hand tremor that is there from childhood etc. Again, it's learn to live with it.

But, back in my first marriage, my xh used to wash the floors in our smallish kitchen (old style linoleum). He and our firstborn would skate around the floor with rags on their feet to dry it and make it a fun thing. However, invariably the next day one of the three males in my house - hubs and two little boys - would spill orange juice. I just walked away snickering cause floor washing wasn't MY job! xh would just sigh and clean it up. (He did have a lot of good traits!)

I'm the same way...I get it out and then I'm done, most of the time
My dh has problems with hand tremors as well, so did his mom. He deals with it fairly well.
My ex had a few good qualities as well, just not enough of them often enough

1.) I try to let things go, but anxiety makes that difficult. It's one of those things I'm working on.

2.) My daughter spills things all the time. (She's 13.) Sometimes she even cleans up the mess! Lol. One of my cats tries to knock over my glass anytime I'm drinking and frequently knocks over my insulated mug of water. Between the cats and my daughter it seems like there's always something on the floor that needs cleaned up!

Omgosh, yes, the cats. I have two of them and if it's not ds, it's the cats!

I'm not good at letting things go. I'm a professional worrier. Spilled drinks drive me crazy, too. My 6 year old gs is here a lot and I'm always arguing with him about not carrying drinks around. We have those pop-up lid drink containers that he is only supposed to drink out of, but he tries to sneak other containers in on me.

My mom is a professional worrier as well. She sometimes has a hard time with the fact that I don't worry lol

As I have gotten older so I find it easier to let stuff go. In my 20s stuff would go round and round in my head while I blamed myself. Now I forget stuff and only keep what I really need to remember. It's a much better place to be in.

My middle one, DS2 is so adept at spilling things, at curling wires around things so the next person coming along will send stuff tumbling etc.

I did the same in my 20's. I really had to train myself to let things go. It really is a much better place!

"Don't cry over spilled milk" was one of my mom's favorite sayings too! I knew when she said it that it was time for me to pull it together and stop crying about whatever it was I was upset over!!

Fast forward to today ... I try to let things go, but find myself wallowing sometimes - I guess it depends on what's going on around me at the time. The older I get the more I am able to let things go though, definitely a step in the right direction.

As for spilling things - we do not have kiddos at home, however; my hubby is not the most graceful when he eats (or snacks, for that matter). We tend to eat dinner in the evenings while we watch the Nightly News, so we've gotten in the habit of eating in the living room ... there are always a variety of crumbs under his LazyBoy! I have threatened to make him eat in the kitchen by himself or wear a bib!

I get you! I have threatened my DH with the same!!