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(Disclaimer: I wasn't sure whether i should just call this post "Being an adult" so keep that in mind)

What do you do that scares you or you hate, either in the name of bravery or because you're the adult* ?
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DS wouldn't come out of the bathroom tonight because there was a spider over the door frame, there have been several of the same incident this week in various rooms (uggh) so I did what I had to do (it wasn't quite Braveheart but involved spray and a shoe - you won't get any apologies from me for not being a catch and release person, I think there are way to many spiders in our country and you can make whatever compelling argument for them you want but you might as well talk to the wall- pretty please no spider gifs #ThankfulOctoberIsOver )

*i use that term quite loosely to describe myself
 
Yep. Spiders mostly for me too. Hubby and sister are both arachnophobic, Melody is terrified of everything, and Bellamy is just really learning fear.. so it is up to me to deal with the spiders. And totally agree with you, way too many spiders in Australia!! Way too many dangerous everythings, lol!! Snakes for this too, though I've only been near a wild snake a couple of times, back as a kid/teen on my parent's farm.

Also the dark, I am quite afraid of the dark, but my kids and hubby are too, which means I get to be the brave one.
Yay!
 
Wash the dishes
Fold the clothes
Spend 2 hours a day in the car to get my daughter back & forth to school
Pottytraining
Pay the bills
Go without nice clothes, haircuts, trips, etc. so we can pay the bills

I could go on & on!

The only thing I don't do is get rid of rodents. Bugs, spiders, snakes, etc. don't bother me at all.
 
Drive around the DC Beltway. I can feel my stomach clench up and I say a mantra almost the whole time. I do it just to keep in practice handling those idiots who go from the fastest inner lane across 4 lanes to suddenly speed off to their exit. It's funny in a way that some of the worst curves are near the Mormon Temple. The wealthy neighborhoods had enough clout back in the day (pre 1974) to avoid the road straightening that happened to most of the rest of the neighborhoods affected by the Beltway construction. I ask the angel on the Temple to keep me safe!

The only thing I think is worse is driving around Atlanta or in Boston.
 
cookingmylife said:
Drive around the DC Beltway.
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Amen, Sister! I avoid it like the plague, but it is an unfortunate necessity when you live in the DMV. And those curves where the temple is are the most dangerous spots on the beltway. I've learned to go up 270 to the ICC and pay the toll just to miss the constant accident traffic. It's horrible!

For me, it's going to work. I never know who's going to yell at me on any given day. It's very stressful and I can't wait to quit. That'll happen when DD gets her driver's license or graduates - whichever comes first. I honestly don't know if I can make it to June!

Other than that: heights, being underground or in small spaces. Serious claustrophobia here!
 
For me, the worst is cleaning up the stomach virus messes! I still have nightmares about the time my oldest son (then about 6) leaned over the top bunk bed and threw up at 2am all over his brother below and the ENTIRE room... walls, toybox, every surface was affected. Did I mention it was 2am?

I threw up twice just during the cleanup process, LOL. #sadbuttrue

Brave? Dunno. Adult? Absolutely!
 
Talking about myself! BWAHAHAHA!! I HATE talking about my personal life when it's in the middle stages of something. Like right now I'm buying a house & I have only posted about it here, (since you guys are amazing & it's a safe place) & a few select family members know. I know it's weird. Most people would be shouting things from the rooftops when they get their first home, but in some ways I'm scared. And in some ways I really want to be able to say "I'm engaged" too, (& I can't yet! Ha! He has a ring, but hasn't asked yet), since I know once the general population knows I'm buying a house the next question is "so are you getting married??" Small town things & nosy/curious individuals. I feel weird because I don't share so much of myself especially in this "social media age". Mainly it's personal insecurities that what I do isn't good enough or I'm not in a place I'm supposed to be yet. Or because I don't think people actually care & just want to compare. Other times it's because I want things to be MINE to start. Then share when I want. BLah!

You'd think I'd be a strong enough adult to be able to talk about myself! HAHA! So not brave. Still working on that!
 
EHStudios said:
Talking about myself! BWAHAHAHA!! I HATE talking about my personal life when it's in the middle stages of something. Like right now I'm buying a house & I have only posted about it here, (since you guys are amazing & it's a safe place) & a few select family members know. I know it's weird. Most people would be shouting things from the rooftops when they get their first home, but in some ways I'm scared. And in some ways I really want to be able to say "I'm engaged" too, (& I can't yet! Ha! He has a ring, but hasn't asked yet), since I know once the general population knows I'm buying a house the next question is "so are you getting married??" Small town things & nosy/curious individuals. I feel weird because I don't share so much of myself especially in this "social media age". Mainly it's personal insecurities that what I do isn't good enough or I'm not in a place I'm supposed to be yet. Or because I don't think people actually care & just want to compare. Other times it's because I want things to be MINE to start. Then share when I want. BLah!

You'd think I'd be a strong enough adult to be able to talk about myself! HAHA! So not brave. Still working on that!
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this is pretty much me!
 
What do I do in the name of being an adult?

Be the calm, voice of reason. Aka, hiding my true emotion from my kids. I would love to panic every time my daughter shows up with another damaged limb, but instead I calmly grab my hospital bag and head to the ER. I was screaming in my head as my son hit send on three college applications Tuesday night without letting us look over them. I really shouldn’t have googled acceptance rates this morning. I’m pretty open and honest with my kids but there are many times I’m calm on the outside but completely freaking out under the surface.
 
bellbird said:
. . . pretty please no spider gifs #ThankfulOctoberIsOver . . . .
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Hear hear! I hate to look at spiders. I wish I could get an anti-spider filter to avoid the pictures people sometimes post on Facebook, etc.

But, being a brave adult, I do squash them when I see them in my house, or when a child of mine reports seeing one. Fortunately that's not often. Perhaps they've learned to stay out. ;)

I tried so hard not to model fear of spiders, thinking I could avoid passing it on to my children, but it must be in the genes. LOL
 
Paying the bills. I hate it. Especially times like right now when DH is laid off and I don't want to face them. And I have to do that tonight. There are other things I don't really like doing. Nothing I'm particularly scared to do, I just don't like it. I'm with Jen on the throwing up thing, I can't clean it up without gagging.
 
Maybe TMI? I guess I should be brave and contact my half sister (whom I have met maybe four times and have ZERO relationship with) since supposedly my half brother (her brother; and same deal, maybe met two or three times and have zero relationship with) died after rolling his truck while out hunting (guess some hunters found him about noon today)...but I'm not going to be brave and call/text/FB messenger/email her, because quite honestly I don't know what to say.
 
No spider fear here. I kill them all except the daddy long legs (and I hear they are not real spiders). Now snakes or lizards that wiggle - big time fear!!

However, I did chicken out when I finally discovered the source of the horrid smell in our garage that we had been smelling for several weeks. Cat must have injured a small bunny who got away and sought refuge in the garage only to not make it. I played the Wife card on that one. The cat becomes the son's when she leaves decapitated rodents, birds, or miscellaneous rodent body parts on the front mat.
 
I'm sooooo not a bug person, especially spiders, but if I'm the only parent at home, I'll battle that fear and finally go attack the bug (spray, shoe, long stick, whatever I can find to kill it without getting too close).

@jenevang I can relate to the stomach bug issues too. I'm actually surprised how well I did last night in fact. DD has an ear infection and between the pain/loss of equilibrium it caused her to lose her dinner - all over me! And then it was a rough night, trying to get her comfortable enough to sleep until we could make it to a doctor this morning. Adulting is particularly hard on little sleep!

@BevG Eww! Yup, I've pulled the wife card before too. Told hubby it was HIS dog when she thought to bring us birds, a rabbit and squirrels to our door. Nope, not cleaning that up!
 
Speak in public to a large audience. I have to do it from time to time for work and I am anxious about it every time although every time it goes just fine.
 
LeeAndra said:
Wash the dishes
Fold the clothes
Spend 2 hours a day in the car to get my daughter back & forth to school
Pottytraining
Pay the bills
Go without nice clothes, haircuts, trips, etc. so we can pay the bills

I could go on & on!

The only thing I don't do is get rid of rodents. Bugs, spiders, snakes, etc. don't bother me at all.
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All the house chores. LOL!!! I wouldn't say I hate them, but it's just something you have to do....

I would say taking my kids to piano lessons every week. One lane, curvy mountain road in a 12 passenger van. If I meet someone I have to back up. I pray every time I start down that road that I don't meet anyone. I also tell my girls that they should be VERY grateful that I drive that road 2x a week for them.
 
Dealing with heights, balance...especially stairs and ladders..they terrify me. I make myself overcome the panic, dizziness and unease. I slowly push thru it but boy...it sure is hard sometimes.
 
Oh there are so many things you all deal with that are truly hard. I'd stick gold stars on all your foreheads if I could!

(That's what the nuns did for us back in my earliest grade school years in case you think I'm nuts!)
 
Cleaning up vomit. That's a tough one for me...I end up retching myself. I'm also scared of heights (really, I think it is a fear of falling). And I don't like insects, but sometimes I have to be the brave one and catch and dispose of them. Plus rodents (my dog has occasionally been caught trying to eat a mouse, ewwww!). I think my list could go on...
 
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