jenn mccabe
She's OUR sunshine!
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Hugs to those of you missing and hurting from family. 
Ever just say, gotta stop? | Pad Patter 26 July
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That is a HUGE gift to have a trusted circle of friends like this! I'm glad you have them.
mcurtt
give me all the paleo brownies
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This thread is a cross between gut-wrenching and comedy (thanks Justine for your ballet story). My heart goes out to you with family troubles. I have a brother that I haven't seen in years, he doesn't call, although he usually does send me a birthday card, even if it might be a couple of weeks late.
My big "quit" was back in the late 1980's. I was a manager for around 35 people, had been for a good 10 years. I hated it, hated disciplinary actions with the staff, hated the headache of reviews, etc., etc. One of my trusted supervisors was leaving the hospital (where I work) to get an analysts' job at another local hospital. My boss wondered if there was anything that could be done to keep her (there wasn't, too much of a pay increase), so I talked with him and said I'd give anything for changing gears to be that analyst. Well, a couple of months later, they created a position for me, and that is what I've been doing ever since. No people to manage, just logic, working by myself, creating systems that people love because I make it so easy for them. But that time is drawing to a close. On 8/31, I am retiring. I started at the hospital in August 1973, and I'm leaving after 45 LONG years. It will be cold turkey. Waking up on that first Monday after I've retired will be strange, but at least now I can clean my house, work in the yard, play in my gluebook, maybe get back into sewing and quilting. The list goes on and on. Scary since I'm not taking social security until next year, but at least I've got the insurance.
And Anne, welcome back! We all missed you.
My big "quit" was back in the late 1980's. I was a manager for around 35 people, had been for a good 10 years. I hated it, hated disciplinary actions with the staff, hated the headache of reviews, etc., etc. One of my trusted supervisors was leaving the hospital (where I work) to get an analysts' job at another local hospital. My boss wondered if there was anything that could be done to keep her (there wasn't, too much of a pay increase), so I talked with him and said I'd give anything for changing gears to be that analyst. Well, a couple of months later, they created a position for me, and that is what I've been doing ever since. No people to manage, just logic, working by myself, creating systems that people love because I make it so easy for them. But that time is drawing to a close. On 8/31, I am retiring. I started at the hospital in August 1973, and I'm leaving after 45 LONG years. It will be cold turkey. Waking up on that first Monday after I've retired will be strange, but at least now I can clean my house, work in the yard, play in my gluebook, maybe get back into sewing and quilting. The list goes on and on. Scary since I'm not taking social security until next year, but at least I've got the insurance.
And Anne, welcome back! We all missed you.
AnneofAlamo
Slippers IN sunshine? Even better!
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I just want to hug you so hard. YOU are really lucky you had that time. It will help you the rest of your life. Forgiveness really isn't for the other person it is for YOU! I so missed you!
me too...happy no FB dance~! I get messages did you know your kid is doing (insert stupid thing) I have to tell them, please don't tell me! lol
oh my goodness! yes yes yes.. my artsy but big strong son went out for football, he hated it, we hated it. after a horrible game (sad to say 3rd one), I said, "do you like this?" he said, I hate it. I go, then lets go give the uniform back and stop this nonsense. He actually bounced in such joy all the way to the car, I said he skipped, but he argues the skipping part! lol
I am a total extrovert, that needs charging by being alone. I get the importance for alone...I have to work on my extrovertness and invading my dear introvert friends bubble
this will make you not retire! lol, I bet you stay longer...lol, cause when you do what you love you are happiest
I could not read that book, but wanted to, so I did it audible! Best thing! I cleared out closets and organized to that book!
getting away from FB was a big part for a more healthy me.
oh boy, the world is safer with us on two different continents..bhahhaha
I am so excited to see your creativity to just soar!!!!!
gonewiththewind
I choose joy.
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My biggest quit was leaving my career as a legal assistant. I was worn out and worn down and really in a horrible place as an employee and in my personal life as well. I actually took a sabbatical with the intent of returning, but after being away from it and feeling like I could breathe, I knew it was time to make a change. It was SUPER scary going from two incomes to one income voluntarily, but we made it. I won't say we came through with flying colors, but we struggled and have made it this far. Starting to design templates in 2010 was a great part-time income, and I was still able to stay at home.
My second biggest quit was choosing to become less involved with my church. I still love my church, but because of my health issues with chronic back pain, I wasn't able to really be consistent and involved. It was easier to step back for a season and let myself heal. I learned that there are definitely more mission fields than just in the local church, and so stepping back allowed me to realize that I have influence in many areas of my life. I know that when we really step back into active involvement at church, though, I'll have a different view about what I say I'll do.
If I'm not creating layouts for myself, I'm creating layouts for custom scrapbook projects, or I'm creating templates for my business. It's one area of my life I've been consistent with since 1996. I have had to take breaks - like last year when I had my back surgery, I ended up just focusing on making templates when I was able to be at the computer, and really didn't scrap again until MOC.
Like quite a few of you, I'm a cross stitcher. I've done it since I was 11 and I'm 47 now. When I was really limited in movement, I decided to finish up a lot of projects that I had started but then put aside to start a new project (am I the only one that does this? LOL). Anyway, I have five (I believe - maybe it's four) projects that I completed that are ready to be framed. I don't cross stitch daily anymore, but I do find that I go through spurts of doing it, especially during the colder months.
I also draw, doodle, sketch, and paint. Again, it's something that comes in spurts, but I'm trying to be more consistent about creating in those ways.
I absolutely think it's OK to give yourself space to handle things your life - whether it's emotional, mental, spiritual or physical. I especially believe that with memory keeping, it's so tied to our emotional side, to our memories that are sometimes quite painful, and we have to be in a good place to let those memories come forth and be documented. Sometimes that means we have to move away from certain photos or memories before we can really create with them.
Oh boy, I've really digressed. Bottom line: yes, I've quit things, or taken breaks, or just kept slogging through sometimes. As my daughter told me once, "You do, you, Boo!" We're all on our own journey and it's OK to be doing something or NOT doing something, no matter what everyone else is doing.
My second biggest quit was choosing to become less involved with my church. I still love my church, but because of my health issues with chronic back pain, I wasn't able to really be consistent and involved. It was easier to step back for a season and let myself heal. I learned that there are definitely more mission fields than just in the local church, and so stepping back allowed me to realize that I have influence in many areas of my life. I know that when we really step back into active involvement at church, though, I'll have a different view about what I say I'll do.
If I'm not creating layouts for myself, I'm creating layouts for custom scrapbook projects, or I'm creating templates for my business. It's one area of my life I've been consistent with since 1996. I have had to take breaks - like last year when I had my back surgery, I ended up just focusing on making templates when I was able to be at the computer, and really didn't scrap again until MOC.
Like quite a few of you, I'm a cross stitcher. I've done it since I was 11 and I'm 47 now. When I was really limited in movement, I decided to finish up a lot of projects that I had started but then put aside to start a new project (am I the only one that does this? LOL). Anyway, I have five (I believe - maybe it's four) projects that I completed that are ready to be framed. I don't cross stitch daily anymore, but I do find that I go through spurts of doing it, especially during the colder months.
I also draw, doodle, sketch, and paint. Again, it's something that comes in spurts, but I'm trying to be more consistent about creating in those ways.
I absolutely think it's OK to give yourself space to handle things your life - whether it's emotional, mental, spiritual or physical. I especially believe that with memory keeping, it's so tied to our emotional side, to our memories that are sometimes quite painful, and we have to be in a good place to let those memories come forth and be documented. Sometimes that means we have to move away from certain photos or memories before we can really create with them.
Oh boy, I've really digressed. Bottom line: yes, I've quit things, or taken breaks, or just kept slogging through sometimes. As my daughter told me once, "You do, you, Boo!" We're all on our own journey and it's OK to be doing something or NOT doing something, no matter what everyone else is doing.
gonewiththewind
I choose joy.
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Oh, and welcome back, @AnneofAlamo . You're welcome for the novel approach I took to your question. Get it? See what I did there? Novel? Book? I wrote so much? Bwahahahahahahaha
kimingvtx
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@gonewiththewind reminded me of the two biggest things I quit -- my job and then a few years later, public school for my kids.
When my now 31 yo son was around 9 years old, I was sitting in the waiting room as he was seeing a counselor. I prayed that if I needed to be a stay-at-home mom for awhile that God would show me how to do it and how to afford it. Six days later, I was laid off from my job with about six months severance pay. I decided that was definitely an answer so I used my severance check to pay off some bills and we went to one income. We adjusted. Three years later I realized that he was not learning as he should. I prayed and then I took him out of school and we homeschooled the rest of the way. When I chose to homeschool, I thought I would only do it for a few months! HA!
I have realized that sometimes you have to say, this isn't working and QUIT.
When my now 31 yo son was around 9 years old, I was sitting in the waiting room as he was seeing a counselor. I prayed that if I needed to be a stay-at-home mom for awhile that God would show me how to do it and how to afford it. Six days later, I was laid off from my job with about six months severance pay. I decided that was definitely an answer so I used my severance check to pay off some bills and we went to one income. We adjusted. Three years later I realized that he was not learning as he should. I prayed and then I took him out of school and we homeschooled the rest of the way. When I chose to homeschool, I thought I would only do it for a few months! HA!
I have realized that sometimes you have to say, this isn't working and QUIT.