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Maybe a little morbid....

It's interesting that my dh was much more amenable to the getting of a will while he was so against writing out all our password information in a digital or paper format. Trust me, I truly doubt anyone breaking into this house would find such a paper in all my current bins of paper...sigh.

We have 6 children between us, and while we asked them to tell us NOW what they would like of ours the only thing my 3 wanted was the same thing...a ebony chair from Malawi which looks odd but is really comfortable. My former husband has that and #1 child asked first so we'll see what happens when that husband dies. Otherwise, my 2nd son (the chef) will get most of my kitchen stuff...he's already put in for the knives and cookbooks...and I know my daughter will take anything! My #1 son's wife wants nothing. While not a minimalist she is not sentimental and usually pitches anything she didn't buy herself. Dick's 3 have claimed nothing. Unless we decide otherwise later, any financial assets will be divided 6 ways. Plain and simple.
 
Also - if you have any on-line subscriptions (whether physical or digital) that charge every month, you should have information about the website and how to cancel. This happened to my friend. She continued to have charges to her dad's checking account, but had no idea where they were coming from. Breaks my heart about Dawn and about Amber. Two such wonderful artists. They will be missed.
 
I totally agree with @bestcee on the issue of a will. The cost of having a will made is a small price to pay to make sure your wishes are known when you pass away. The state will decide what happens to your estate and what the heirs will get (if anything).

I even had a will for 25 years when I had 1 asset to my name. (I have no children either). But, my parents had turned their house over to me and my will stipulated that if I died before my parents, the house would be available for them to live in until their death. If I had died and had no will, the courts would have decided what to do and they could have been kicked out of the house. Granted that never happened but we were covered if it did.

And, for those of you with young children, get that will and put your wishes in it as to where your children will go if something happens to you. Don't let the courts decide for you.

(off my soapbox now...)
 
Depending on your state you may not even need a lawyer to make a will. There are forms you can get for free (or inexpensively) online. Usually you just need 2 or maybe 3 witnesses to sign (not named as beneficiaries in the will).

People get a little...difficult after the passing of parents. I won't get into details but even with a will my aunt tried to get some stuff that was given to my mom. But I'll save that fun story for never lol.
 
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I had never thought about this before, but I stopped what i was doing the second I read this and went and talked to my Hubby about this. This place is a huge part of my life and has been for a very long time. I told him it would be very important to me that he come here and tell people what happened to me. I gave him Laura's username and my login in info. I wonder what else I should think about in this regard! But it was a good topic to consider for sure!
 
you know, until I read this, I never thought about this! He has my Facebook PW and has been assigned to put one final status 'kicking it with Jesus' lol But I never once thought about TLP - - so, now I'm making a few notes for him. :)
 
I've also been thinking about this. I've added it to my list of things to do. I think this one will make it to the top of the list.
 
John "knows" about TLP, but I highly doubt he would even think to try and figure out where to go or who to tell. I should probably do some sort of "instruction" sheet for him, but I'm not even sure he would keep that in the forefront of his mind.
 
Awww!! We do for sure!! I love EVERY.ONE. here at the Pad...but Facebook Land...meh, I sometimes wonder why I'm still on there LOL

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Maybe I'm reading this wrong, but I thought we had a real connection. Not that I talk to you every day, but I think you are funny and I love seeing your pages and peeks into your life. I definitely want someone in your family to let us know if something happens.
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I am going to add to the list -- for you with children under the age of 18. Please create a will that designates who has guardianship of your children in case both parents pass at the same time. This is especially needed if your children inherit money from your estate. Not only do you want someone who will love your children, but you also want someone who will appropriately manage their money.
 
We were out of town all week- and while I saw the post on fb- I wasn't really able to read much until we got home. SO sad. I'm shocked! I didn't know Dawn really at all and while her designs aren't necessarily my style- I thought they were beautiful & definitely one of a kind. She will be greatly missed. :(

I don't think it's morbid at all to think about those things Courtney- there has been so much loss in our community lately. While the hubs & I have talked about a lot of this stuff- doing a will has been on our to-do list for years. I think I'm going to talk to him tonight about getting on top of that. He doesn't do much with social media, but he would be able to log in on my facebook (it's always logged in on this desktop computer)- so I imagine my hangouts would find out that way if something ever happened to me. I am pretty organized as far as digi layouts go- but I will probably write down how to find my "to-be printed" folders to make it easier for him. We already have a big list of accounts/passwords- since I pay all the bills. I don't think it's ever a bad thing to be 'over' prepared when it comes to this type of stuff. :/
 
This is definitely something I need to do now that I'm married since I don't think he'd know what to do and who to inform. Plus I do all the online bills and stuff. I'll talk to him tonight & get a binder or something started for us with all that important stuff. He does already know if I die young that Charlie, (my older dog), would go to my mom since he needs a female. But besides that as a joking kind of comment we haven't really talked about it.

Thanks for this post Courtney!
 
Thanks for the reminder! I've done this before but lots of the information has changed and needs to be updated.
 
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