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How do you cope with being wrong?
I can admit when I'm wrong (DH can't seem to and i make a point of saying out loud 'pause' when i want to mark a moment where he was obviously wrong and knows it but cant admit it - we both laugh in the end).
My kids will intentionally sing the wrong lyrics at times (mostly because it drives me crazy and even if they are not trying to parody a song, DD will not sing the correct lyrics unless she feels they are better than whatever she thought they were).

Sometimes I'm quite wrong, embarassingly wrong. Or maybe my hearing is going or just between the fan and the tv and general din of washing up and conversations, I misheard something the other night. I can't see the tv from the sink and I asked the kids what they were watching, as it was after bedtime. Anyway i thought the show was about kids dating (initially i heard kids mating and said what?! not exactly a David Attenborough special) and went in there, water dripping from my arms to turn it off in the middle of a 'you know you cant watch tv this late' speech even if there's no school the next day, DD says 'What's wrong with that? We've seen it before!' and I realise she said 'Kids Baking' because they we watching the Kids Baking Championship show. I didn't admit my mistake there but gave them til the next ad break to go to bed. Not my finest moment.

Care to share?
 
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Hubby and I are competitive and argue over right and wrong frequently. He holds grudges against people when they are wrong in his eyes, sometimes even if they apologize. I try not to do that... and usually it's not worth the fight later, so I give in many times just to end the conversation. Other times, we can joke about it.

I have misheard something and gotten worked up before. Realizing how big a deal you're making over what is now a small thing is hard and annoying; it's often embarrassing and frustrating at the same time.
 
This is a topic of conversation in our home a lot and we usually laugh about it. I tease my hubs constantly b/c he mumbles and I can't hear him or I misinterpret what he says. Many times during our conversations I will just pause, stand there looking off into space, as my brain tries to figure out what the heck he just said b/c the way I heard it, it can't be right LOL. I constantly yell at him and make a funny face, telling him to "e...nun....ci....ate". Then he laughs at me and I laugh back. He's not going to change after all these years LOL.
 
My hubby has hearing loss (thank you Army tanks) . . . so he doesn't hear things at all or he tries to guess what has been said. It has led to some great laughs! He's so awesome that he doesn't mind laughing it off. Both of us are OK with saying we're wrong or have misheard something.
 
Actually, I realized I was wrong the other day. My daughter was thinking of quitting her job she's been at for 6.5 years because the new boss is an idiot and doesn't listen and is blaming her for things her co-workers aren't doing, so he's trying to fire her (there is a long history of insanity where she works). I told her not to quit because then she couldn't get unemployment. But then I realized later that she couldn't get it anyway because she already has another job (she's working 2 full time jobs at the moment). So I had to admit that I was wrong about that. But it was nice to admit it before she realized that I was wrong and told me. :giggle
 
I don't think I have this problem at least not too often. My DH does to such an extent that it is leading to some big consequences lately. It's hard to watch (and participate in because you know who has to figure things out most of the time). I try to admit it if I'm wrong because why not? I'm just human.
 
I don't have any problem admitting when I'm wrong, but DH never will. He will argue to the death or try to twist it around so he is somehow right...drives me crazy. Most of the time I just have to walk away!
 
I don't mind admitting I'm wrong when I can recognize that I am or if it's clear that I am. If it's a 'discussion' where we disagree and it's neither right or wrong just different opinions, I am more likely to just let it go. Not say I'm wrong but say "I can see your point." (and sometimes think and you're crazy!!!) We both know that there are times we'd rather be right than be happy but it's no way as bad as when we got married. House of 2 Alphas!

Him? as kind as he can be...admitting he was or is in the wrong about something just leads to a lecture on why something/someone/hardware malfunction made him appear to be wrong. Just another case of testosterone brain. (sounds like @IntenseMagic 's house is like ours...)
 
I am fairly easy to get along with I think and slow to anger but yep, I have another DH that never admits to be wrong and it drives me crazy as well! :) I can admit when I have been in the wrong and will apologise accordingly, but I do get a bit angry if the person keeps bringing it up later, like "Well you know you wrong the other day when you said blah blah!! so you could be wrong now!" :disagree lol! One of my sons does that with me but he also does it with his wife! Why keep dredging something up like that? I tend to let things go, if someone is wrong and apologises then the matter is done with. If they don't admit they are wrong or don't apologise I deal with it and hand it over to the universe to take care of for me in the form of karma! :giggle Of course DH and I do end up laughing about it later but sometimes we don't.
 
I will totally admit I'm wrong, and point out my error with my reasoning. Doesn't make it right, but knowing I got to say my side of the story makes me feel a little better. I am also a promoter of taking responsibility, and try to show this when I am wrong with my kids. I will admit to them I'm wrong, so they know that they can admit to me when they are wrong. It's a two way street.
 
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I will totally admit I'm wrong, and point out my error with my reasoning. Doesn't make it right, but knowing I got to say my side of the story makes me feel a little better. I am also a promoter of taking responsibility, and try to show this when I am wrong with my kids. I will admit to them I'm wrong, so they know that they can admit to me when they are wrong. It's a two way street.
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^^^this^^^ I don't think I need to make a huge dramatic speech every time lol, but if I make a tiny/silly mistake, then I'll maybe make a joke out of it, to show that I can laugh at myself--and also to show that everyone makes mistakes, and owning them is important--and just a part of life. You can't learn from your mistakes if you never admit you've made any. [And my kids can't learn that unless I show them my mistakes. DANG, parenting is hard!]
 
I've been known to be wrong, on occasion. I verify that I was wrong, admit it and move on. My husband and I usually go back and forth a couple times to make sure, but if one of us is wrong, we say so and let it go. Neither of us feels we have to be right all the time.
 
I just realized something..... Since i can admit I'm wrong... hoping my BOYS will be able to admit when they are wrong when they get older!!! :giggle
 
This is going to sound weird so bear with me. :giggle

I'm not wrong often. Not because I'm so smart or wise but because when I invest time and energy into something, I make sure I'm right before I go and argue or discuss it. I have a LOT of internal dialogue and do a LOT of external research before I begin something so that I am confident in what I'm doing and what I'm saying. I don't speak off the cuff or think out loud. EVER.

Other things I don't waste my time with so I have no opinion and, thus, also can't be wrong. Taxes, machines, cars, and gardening all immediately come to mind as things I know absolutely nothing abt as those tasks are passed off to my husband to take care of as he sees fit.

Of course, sometimes I misspeak or get something wrong, like the wrong date for a school event, and those are things that are NBD and I'm quick to laugh and move on from them.

My husband is one of those types who throws everything he has into an argument regardless of how much or little information he has so he's wrong quite often. :giggle
 
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