spending time solo

[michelepixels]

I go to lunch by myself every now and then but I’d rather go with my hubby or a friend. I have never gone to a movie by myself and don’t think I ever would. I’d just wait for it to come out on streaming. I do fly by myself to go visit the grandkids but prefer to fly with my hubby. I don’t think I would go on vacation by myself but I have gone off to a parade or ride at Disneyland on my own while the rest of the family went on a ride I didn’t want to go on.

My trip to Boston wasn't planned to be solo, but when it turned out that way, I didn't want to miss out on seeing Boston, and it turns out so wonderful, I'm glad I gave it try.

I love doing things solo. I've traveled, gone to movies, dinner, all the things. My hubby doesn't like going out and doing as much as I do, so I just go! I've always really loved my alone time, too, so doing things on my own is sometimes exactly how I like it

My husband and I also have different hobbies, movie preferences, and things we like to do out in the world, so it's a good thing we're both happy to do a lot of things separately.

Another introvert here! I really enjoy my alone time and my own company. That said, I don't do it very often. There have been a few times over the years where I just wanted a break from all the home and kid responsibilities, and I got a hotel room in town for one night. I have no problem going to eat on my own. I went to a movie on my own one time - I was kind of worried it would feel weird, but it was great! I'm not sure how I would like traveling alone... maybe for a few days but I don't think I would like doing a big solo trip.

Yeah, I think being alone makes me more self conscious, but that's part of the point of doing it. We have to be in touch with ourself, understand ourself, both at home and in the world.

I wish I could do more things on my own.
I’m shy and anxious. It took me ages to stop feeling so nervous about going to the gym. I can’t bring myself to go for a walk on my own ; I always imagine the worst. Every day, I walk to pick M up from school, but I can only manage it because I know I won’t be alone on the way back (and it’s a short walk). It’s almost a hindrance not being able to do things on my own.
Before I was in a relationship, I only went out to do the shopping ; never to the cinema or any other activity.

The more you do something the easier it gets, right?

I absolutely love going places with my husband. He just retired, and I was petrified about him being home. I am a putterer, and although I do things, it isn't in a planned and organized way. I used to do all the errands alone, have lunch out by myself, or go to places alone. We had kids, lots of them, and I was never alone. Then they all flew the coop, and I had major alone time. I loved it.
His coming home full-time scared me badly. We discussed it, and it has been so much fun. He took on some of the chores that are just hard for me. Sweeping and the mop! lol He cleans one of the bathrooms(barely used but needs a wipe down).
The absolute best part is that we do errands together on purpose, with our spoiled little dog. I enjoy just popping to his workroom (he does have a business still), and it is in the house.
but,
ONCE a week, he goes fishing for the day. That is a cherished day for me. I do need a day with no one. NO one! lol, jammies, and puttering around the house.

Sounds like you found your balance!

 

[norton94]

There are some things I enjoy and others I don't - I have no problem going to a movie solo, or exploring. I would be more likely to take food back to my room when I have traveled solo for work than sit in a restaurant though - I think it was mindset. But I do think I would travel for pleasure solo and in that case dine solo.

 

[Aerobigirl]

Other than work and scrapbooking, dh and I spend almost all our time together. I wouldn't want to dine alone or go to a movie or a vacation by myself. We've been together since high school and I would feel incomplete without him.

This is so sweet! I have to say I'm jealous. My husband's grandparents had that kind of closeness, married at 18 and 16.

 

[Aerobigirl]

Ah, at last! I was starting to think I posed a silly question with everyone so far agreeing that it's fun to do things alone.

It's not a silly question just because quite a few people agree with you.
Plus, it seems like everyone has a slightly different amount of aloneness they enjoy.

 

[Aerobigirl]

Eat alone - absolutely. We do family dinner every Saturday and I cook 3 nights a week, so I don't do it often. When I do, I get something I would never cook at home and at a restaurant I love.

Movies - no. I don't go see many movies. It's not that I wouldn't go alone, it's just that it's not a thing for me.

Travel - yes. I used to travel internationally for work, so I'm very comfortable traveling alone. At the end of this year, I'm going to Antarctica alone for a little over 2 weeks. We have a family vacation mid-summer, then my solo vacation at the end of the year. My husband also does solo trips to Ixtapa for volleyball clinics, so we alternate between solo trips every other year. That way, we each get to do something we really want to do, especially with very different interests

 

[michelepixels]

Eat alone - absolutely. We do family dinner every Saturday and I cook 3 nights a week, so I don't do it often. When I do, I get something I would never cook at home and at a restaurant I love.

Movies - no. I don't go see many movies. It's not that I wouldn't go alone, it's just that it's not a thing for me.

Travel - yes. I used to travel internationally for work, so I'm very comfortable traveling alone. At the end of this year, I'm going to Antarctica alone for a little over 2 weeks. We have a family vacation mid-summer, then my solo vacation at the end of the year. My husband also does solo trips to Ixtapa for volleyball clinics, so we alternate between solo trips every other year. That way, we each get to do something we really want to do, especially with very different interests

Wow! Antarctica will be awesome! Alternating solo trips is a great arrangement.

 

[Karen]

I LOVE my alone time, but I prefer my alone time to be done at home. I have gone to places like a subshop to eat alone, but I wouldn't want to go to a sit down restaurant to eat alone and I wouldn't go to the movies alone either as I would prefer to wait and watch a movie at home if I was going to do it alone. I'm too much of a homebody to seek outside of the house alone stuff. Although I do really enjoy shopping by myself because I can hear myself think. And I can try things on without feeling like I have to rush because someone else is waiting on me. I do like to drive alone sometimes because I can listen to my own audiobook, but I far prefer when my husband drives me on longer trips!

I wouldn't like to vacation alone either. I'd prefer to have someone to share the experience with. But I think I would go to an art retreat by myself maybe.

 

[michelepixels]

I LOVE my alone time, but I prefer my alone time to be done at home. I have gone to places like a subshop to eat alone, but I wouldn't want to go to a sit down restaurant to eat alone and I wouldn't go to the movies alone either as I would prefer to wait and watch a movie at home if I was going to do it alone. I'm too much of a homebody to seek outside of the house alone stuff. Although I do really enjoy shopping by myself because I can hear myself think. And I can try things on without feeling like I have to rush because someone else is waiting on me. I do like to drive alone sometimes because I can listen to my own audiobook, but I far prefer when my husband drives me on longer trips!

I wouldn't like to vacation alone either. I'd prefer to have someone to share the experience with. But I think I would go to an art retreat by myself maybe.

I used to think I was a homebody, but I think I'm just comfortable being a homebody because I was raised by two of them. I also spend a lot of time away from home, by choice.