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So glad I didn't do that! PP 3.7

AnneofAlamo

AnneofAlamo

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On the way home from the library today, I passed a lot of land we almost bought. We were gonna buy a mobile home and land. This was almost 15 years ago. We would be stuck now in a buyers market with a 15 year old trailer, and trying to fit 7 kids in it!!! aaaaaaaaaaargh!
We got to the day of signing, and I got chicken. My hubby did too. WE told the banker no, this is going to fast. WE want to wait and pray a bit more on this decision.
The land is still open (about 1/2 price) and we live in a home big enough for all of us, and I love it!
Do you have a decision you look back and think whew!! So glad I didn't do that!??
 
Yes, I was working at a preschool - 15 hours a week teaching pre-K, 25 hours a week as assistant manager. I interviewed for and received a job offer to be the manager of a just starting preschool. The person who interviewed and offered me the job just seemed way too over-enthusiastic about giving me the job. I had bad vibes all the way around. I asked for time to think about it and ended up turning the job down. We ended up moving out of state a few months later so I don't know what happened with that preschool. But I'm glad I turned it down.
 
moving to st louis when I was 23ish. I had planned to go when my lease was up with my roommates. Instead, I planned my wedding and moved in with my now-husband. :giggle
 
Actually, I've got one related to a big purchase, too. We put an offer in on a house but the seller wanted list price. (This was less than a year before the bubble burst, but obviously we didn't know that at the time.) We didn't want to pay list: the house needed work; it had been sitting on the market for almost a year; we didn't think it was worth asking price (neither did our Realtor); and we just didn't like the fact that they weren't willing to negotiate at all. We walked away. Our Realtor told us the house had had multiple offers but the sellers refused less than asking because they'd rolled credit card debt into their mortgage. They literally couldn't take less than asking.
Anyway, we put an offer in on another house and it was accepted. We got an inspection for $500 (and the inspector was fantastic!): the house was falling off its foundation; the HVAC was put in all wrong (like, carbon monoxide was leaking into the house, not getting expelled); upstairs plumbing was wonky and leaking (which sellers would have known if people were living there and using it); weird wiring in the kitchen; etc etc etc. We told the sellers "We're out" cuz we couldn't afford the tens of thousands in repairs just to fix the foundation problem. The house was owned by a church and it seemed like they just asked the congregation "does anyone want to help fix up this house?" instead of having a family live in it that got pros to do house repairs as needed/noticed. Well, we walked away and DH and I asked each other "Should we buy a house? Is this a sign?" We decided that we should either buy a house or try to have a baby. We had a baby.
Now it's nine years later (almost ten!) from that house-buying debacle, and DH will still look at me and say "That was the best $500 we ever spent" about that inspection because it really did stop us from a load of stress--and we got DD. Like I said, we didn't know how the market was going to implode, but we also didn't like how sellers were basing the decisions to price their houses. We paid attention to our gut and I'm glad we did. :) Oh, that house was in MI. We moved to TX about 3 years later, and there's no way we could have been able to sell it before moving. And now we've moved out of TX (where we rented cuz we were gun-shy still about home-ownership). Now we've got a great house, but I did make a LO about how the idea of owning a home still freaks me out lol.
 
OH, I have a few lol. First, not marrying my high school sweetheart. Man, that would have been a disaster! And I almost transferred colleges for my senior year to stay close to my first husband (boyfriend at the time). That would have meant another couple of years in college because of credits that wouldn't transfer. I had all but done it, and finally came to my senses!!
 
Those are all great misses!

Like Jan, my biggest "Whew, so glad I didn't!" moment had to do with a guy. In fact, most of my "whew" moments were surrounding guys. But the biggest... I left my ex-boyfriend. He was emotionally/mentally and physically abusive and I was in a bad place. I knew things weren't good, but I kept telling myself that it wasn't that bad because it wasn't like some women went through, and I just wanted to be with him forever. Ugh. I was waaaaaaaay too co-dependent and trying to "save" him from himself. At the time, I couldn't see my way out of it for myself, but I finally left because I didn't want my daughter thinking that was a normal life. She saved me.

Another big "so glad I didn't" was when I was 22. My bosses wanted to fly me to Paris to marry (unseen) a Russian doctor they were trying to bring to America (so they could get his technology and brains). They offered me $10K to do it, and as a poor single mom I was soooooo tempted. But I couldn't go through with it.
 
I'm the type of person who makes decisions and usually regrets them soon after. For instance, getting my tubes tied when my youngest was born. By the time she was 6 months old I had deeply regretted it, and then I wound up needing a hysterectomy 4 1/2 years ago. I love the 3 healthy kids I do have, but I always feel like something is missing. I was told it might be due to the baby we lost in between the 2 older kids.

Anyway, my point was that I'm somewhat opposite of that....
 
Mine was a guy I had dated for 7 years. We were dating, had talked about marriage, and then my feelings started to change quickly. I ended it. He became a little too obsessed. It was a blessing in disguise. DH was my rebound a few months later.

I think I also have a couple of decisions that I should have jumped into, but decided against. Though, my life would be very different. While I wouldn't want to change my life, I wish I had followed a different career path, and didn't listen to my mother. By that point, DH and I had met and were dating, so I feel secure everything else would be the same except for what I do for a living.
 
interesting looking back on our lives and the choices we made.... glad you were able to go with prayer instead of running towards something. Listen to that voice inside of you that is what I always tell my children. God is always with us. Talk to God what do you feel like he is saying to do? And it looks like you listened.
 
I can't think of any "So glad I didn't". Mine tend to be the opposite, "So glad I did!".

Like when DH lost his job, and we moved back to Utah. I didn't want to, but we did and it was the best thing for us.
Or when he switched from a hotel manager to basically an admin. It opened the doors and minds we needed at the time.
 
I can think of more bad decisions than good ones, but I do have an ex-fiancé I'm glad I never married.
 
oh so funny about not marrying, being the right decision!
I was engaged to a man, I was like hmmmmmmmmmmm something ain't right here, and his parents came to visit, and his mom had to account for each mile on the car while hubs was working..I was like oh no...ding ding out of here! bhahhaha
I think most of my relationships before my hubs (of over 26 years now) were mistakes! ugh!
 
This guy contacted me a few years after I broke it off, trying to wax poetic about how perfect it was and he was so stupid to mess it all up and can't we at least be friends? Uh, nope. Delete. I guess responding to that message is another thing I'm glad I didn't do.
 
lorryfach said:
This guy contacted me a few years after I broke it off, trying to wax poetic about how perfect it was and he was so stupid to mess it all up and can't we at least be friends? Uh, nope. Delete. I guess responding to that message is another thing I'm glad I didn't do.
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Lorry, I would so love to have you next door, when I am thinking dumb dumb things, so you can go, NO anne! dumb...lol
 
the day I had, good thing I don't have a passport, I would be on my way to the airport right now! bhahhaha
 
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