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Do you let your kids have sleepovers? Did you have sleepovers as a kid? Are sleepovers only allowed with family?

My son had his cousin spend the night last night, and I'm remembering why it's a special treat! They fell asleep after 10pm, and were awake before 7am!!! Sigh. My son is having another sleepover with his Grammy tonight, so I can sleep in a little Friday morning!
 
We do them. But oh my goodness, there is a price of insanity! ONLY in the summer, as the weekends are full and catching up on sleep never happens except summer. They sleep in our back patio (no, they have mattress, pillow and blankets) but sleep doesn't happen. We do swaps when the boys and girls got bigger (teens) girls over at one house, boys here. No hanky panky gonna happen under my roof..bhahhahha
My boys love to have people over anytime! They get so excited. I do huge slumber parties to get it all out of the way at once!
Wait? We are a slumber party?! ghhahha
 
When I was a kid we rotated between my house and the houses of my best friends. Pretty much every weekend!! Sometimes for nights in a row. I have three daughters and they have all gone through the slumber party phase. My youngest was like me - she would stay for nights in a row at a friend's house. The girls are all older now so we don;t do slumber parties as often anymore.
 
rchansen said:
The girls are all older now so we don;t do slumber parties as often anymore.
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Do you ever wish you could do one as an adult?!?!
Seriously, I wish a bunch of us could gather together in a cabin, and chat and laugh and scrap and stay up all night!

My mom's church group does a ladies only 'retreat' in some cabins. It's a sleepover. There's food, nail painting, games, and bonding. They stay up too late, and come home tired the next day. Yep, it's a sleepover :funfun
 
bestcee said:
Do you ever wish you could do one as an adult?!?!
Seriously, I wish a bunch of us could gather together in a cabin, and chat and laugh and scrap and stay up all night!

My mom's church group does a ladies only 'retreat' in some cabins. It's a sleepover. There's food, nail painting, games, and bonding. They stay up too late, and come home tired the next day. Yep, it's a sleepover :funfun
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My high school girlfriends and I do this from time to time (the same ones I had slumber parties with back when I was a kid :) ). We have rented hotels or cabins and gotten together to catch up with each other, scrapbook, eat and sit in the hot tub!!
 
We only had cousins untill now, I am rather making sure my weekends are not too full. They are too short allready :lol
I think that will be something that will grow in the future!
 
We've had three. 2 times because I was watching an old friend's kids. Once for the boy cousins after a long night at the Boardwalk. My boys love sleepovers! I'm not a fan of much organization & cleaning is involved. 8yo wants a "Start of Summer Party" with a disco ball & Pokemon cards. My husband's willing, I'm not really. I just want to relax. We'll see.
As a kid, our friends & I rotated between each other's houses. every weekend. My best friend Jessica & I were truly inseparable.
 
We've had a couple- but the one that made me NOT want to do them anymore was my daughter's birthday party. She had 4 friends. It didn't sound so bad, but FIVE 8 yr old girls plus my 4 yr old son was just too much! UP all night & being naughty! We definitely figured out who of the 4 are allowed back and then only one at a time! ;)

Our neighbor has a rule that they don't do sleepovers. I can understand her reasoning, but it was something I loved as a kid & teenager. This world is a bit different than my teenage days- so that's something that's always on my mind! :)
 
My sleepovers were always at our house because I wanted to know where my kids were and who they were with. Oldest daughter was old enough to chaprone. My house was always open to my children's friends and we never knew how many would be there for supper or stay over night etc. We would go grocery shopping or something and come home and count heads---"that one's ours", "that one's not ours" etc. They would be all over the living room floor. I really loved having a house full of kids!!!
 
We do them quite frequently, and I prefer that they are at my house....and 99% of the time they are. We just had sleepovers the last 2 weekends (a friend needed help). Quite frequently cousins come over to spend the night. The bonus of sleepovers is that my kids usually take afternoon naps after the sleepover.

My older girls have only done a sleepovers a couple of times at friends houses. My rule is that if they want to have a sleepover at a friend's house that I have to have been to their friend's house, and I must know their parents really well.
 
I used to sleep over at my girlfriends' houses all the time. It was so frequent that it wasn't a big deal and we didn't stay up too late. I lived 30 minutes out of town so it was nice to not have my mom or dad come pick me up at midnight.

I have an extra boy here now. He's Brennan's best friend since 1st grade and his family has moved down to San Diego. He's up hanging here for the week.

Some of Courtney's friend's parents are strict about sleepovers. Unless I'm super sick or something, the kids are always welcome here unless they act like jerks to me or steal stuff.
 
I was allowed to go to them, depending on the person, and if my parents knew their parent(s). Once in a while I was allowed to have friends over at our house. My mother sheltered me. I was never allowed to go anywhere or to anyone's house if adults/parents weren't home, or with. She always had to speak to the parents, and I think her personality is the reason a few wouldn't let me sleep over or vice versa. In high school, I was NOT allowed in a car being driven by a teen friend, under any circumstances. They eased up on this when I was 16 and had my first real boyfriend. He was 18 and a senior. Even as a teenager, she insisted on speaking to parents. Once we hit 10th grade, I was never invited anywhere or to anything again.

I prefer my kids GO to them, rather than have them. I know that sounds mean, but with my anxiety, I'd rather not be responsible for more than my own sometimes. My kids have always preferred to go to them, rather than have them at our house too. That happened without any instruction on our part.

Since the age of 3-4, all 3 of my kids have gone to New England for part, if not most of the summer. They spend half with my family, half with my husband's. They have always been so good away from home. They do get homesick, but very mildly. I know they have more fun there, than they would if they stayed home. Now, my almost 19 year old lives with my sister, and has since he was 16 (his choice, because of all of our moving). The other 2 are 15 1/2 and 13, and I don't think they're going to want to go much longer. They leave next week for this summer. They do seem excited about it, so that's good.

OMG.....Sorry for babbling!!!
 
I grew up doing sleepovers pretty regularly, especially as a young teen, but DH and I have decided our rule is family only for sleepovers. Our boys are getting older now (11 and 9) and sometimes we let them have a "late over" where friends can stay until 10:30 or so and they can watch movies, play video games, just hang out. They love that.
 
My girls love to have sleepovers but they are pretty much limited to their cousins and two best friends because we know their families extremely well.
 
When daughter Nicole was born on December 31, we were doing cartwheels because we got a little tax deduction too. Fast forward 10 years. We spent our New Year's Eve, year after year, hosting slumber parties for little girls instead of going out celebrating. Of course her friend's parents were elated that they got free babysitting that night.

Fast forward another 30 years, grandson, Connor frequently asks to stay overnight at Grandma's house. I love to have him over and spoil him a little bit!
 
I haven't read all replies yet, but will come back to this...

My kids have sleepovers at grandma's once a month. The day care offers one night a month we can pay for, and have done that twice. We did a cousin switch once, where my son went to my mom's with one of my nieces, and my daughter and my other niece were at my house. (We did that because of the ages)

I remember having sleepovers a lot with my cousins when I was younger. And my friends... never allowed during the week, and only on weekends I wasn't working while i was in high school. During the week was a little more lax during summer, but still not always, because my parents worked during the week.

I totally wish I could get away with an adult sleepover more often.
 
My daughter (14) currently has two friends downstairs that are sleeping over, they've been hanging out together since about 9 this morning.

Clara has done sleepovers for years. Starting at around 8, she had two close friends that she slept over at their houses regularly. I rarely hosted sleepovers at that age, because they were so high maintenance (maybe it was just these two girls). I also didn't like to host due to our house set up before. Our kids (one boy, one girl) shared a bathroom that was between their two rooms (not connected, access from the hall). As they got a little older, it got awkward for them to share the bathroom with their sibling's friends, so we still didn't host much. Now, since we've moved, we host fairly often. Clara's bedroom is upstairs on the second floor and Alex's is in the basement... and they both have bathrooms attached to their rooms. If it's just one girl spending the night with Clara they stay in her room, if there are more, they sleep downstairs. But we usually only do that when Alex is gone for the night (at a friend's or at camp, etc.). Clara's school she just graduated from (8th grade) is a small, private school where the families all know each other. It's crazy, the girls all get along really well and randomly pair up for sleepovers versus having a very set best friend or two. She does has her best friends, but no one seems to bat an eye when one them spends the night with one of the other girls in the class. Things will change next year in high school though.

Alex (16) isn't a sleepover guy too much, never really has been. He likes being around his friends, but likes his space as well.

Family only sleepovers aren't really an option as they have no cousins on my side (I'm an only child) and they have only three girl cousins on my husband's side who live in Michigan (and they're 3, 6 and 9 years younger than my daughter).
 
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