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Santa isn't Real?

Trista

Trista

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I had a friend share on FB this morning that her 8yo son saw a video on youtube stating that there was no santa and he was upset and in tears over being lied to by his parents.
Although we have a difference of opinion in letting littles watch things on youtube without supervision and without getting too much into a debate over the religious aspect of Christmas... I was really sad for her and know that I will face this in the coming years with my two littles. One of the commenters posted this and I wanted to share it for anyone that may find themselves in this situation this year or any time in the future.

http://www.cozi.com/live-simply/truth-about-santa

What are your thoughts? How did you handle the big question?
 
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I have been thinking about it, I think when it is time I will try to explain to bianca that it was a way for me and dad to make her extra happy during the holidays. Bianca believes in everything magical. I know my neighbors from across the street don't do the santa thing and they are super great with Bianca. Every time Bianca is going to visit over there, they hide the gifts that are already under the tree in their house.
 
Trista, I actually used that letter and reworded a few things so it fit our situation and DD's questions. She read the letter (with tears streaming down by the end) and then we had a long talk. We spent that Christmas with my whole family (including all her younger cousins) and she was so excited to be in on the secret, she even bought stocking stuffers for everyone that year. That was soooo important to her.
 
I think what happened is my oldest started asking me directly about Santa, and I told her that Santa is the spirit of giving, etc etc. i don't think it was traumatic. I'll have to ask her. The game is usually over by middle school anyway.
 
My kids never believed in Santa, so we simply skipped that phase. When my first daughter was born, my husband and I talked at length about this topic, and finally decided that both of us (and especially him) wouldn't be able to talk about this convincingly enough to keep the mystery alive.
So we always told our kids that we give each other presents to celebrate Jesus' birthday, and that Santa is a story people tell on Christmas. But: all my children know that there are kids who truly believe in Santa, and that they are not supposed to destroy that. They've always been VERY responsible about that.
 
i think mine worked it out for them selves but never told anyone else,i made sure of that always told them that some believe so not to ruin it for them and they keep santa alive for Gabbi as its only just starting to begin for her
 
We didn't do the Santa thing because my hubby didn't want to lie to the kids. It was not a tradition his family did. I was sad about that but we made compromises & that was one of mine. Every year was stressful for me because I worried so much that my boys would be the ones that ruined for the others. But I stressed the importance of other people's beliefs so much that they never said a word to anyone. I was so proud of them every year. Now they are teens & still keeping it on the down low for my nieces & nephews.
 
i have never tried to convince my children that santa IS real. they have believed it on their own. when they have asked, i tell them that St. Nicholas was a real person, and explain how he did good for those in need, and that the SPIRIT of Christmas has a lot to do with giving unselfishly...which does tie back into the christian basis for the holiday. the 2 are not mutually exclusive. i tell my kids (when the 'is santa real?' time comes) that i love the idea of santa because he reminds us to be good and to be giving, and that we can always and forever celebrate that as part of christmas.

neither of my boys felt even the slightest bit betrayed or lied to. it just felt like a natural progression.
 
My older kids just sort of outgrew their belief in Santa, spending a couple of years doubting but not quite knowing the truth. I have 2 that believe still and 2 that do not. They never point blank asked and it was never really discussed, just sort of "known" when the time was right. There was no drama. I do have a nephew that was scandalized when told, LOL, but my kids just sort of rolled with it. Either way.

Oh, and I did tell my older boys that Santa would stop coming once no one in the house believed anymore. They equate that with less gifts, so they are all about keeping him "alive" for the littles :).
 
my dare page was about it last week..... my most memorable Christmas was the one when we had to tell Sarita there was no Santa...she was so ...shocked...disaapointed, in denial...but it lasted very little...she did say how come, isnt possible because of this and that...etc, which goes to show what a great job I did in creating the fantasy! (which I think every child should have, we have enough 3 & 4 years old using computers & video games when they should be playing to use their imagination, outside the computer).



As I said, the low/ anger/disapointment lasted less than 15 minutes when it was midnight (we do it on the 24th evening) and she started un-wrapping the presents.....LOL
 
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