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What is your love language? Have you ever heard of the five love languages? They are:

  • Words of Affirmation
  • Acts of Service
  • Receiving Gifts
  • Quality Time
  • Physical Touch

If you know what your love language is... has it changed over time? I don't know how much weight I give this theory, but it is interesting to think about. Especially if you and your significant other have different love languages.

For more info or to take the quiz, check out... http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
 
Sorry I got bored with this survey halfway through, it kept asking the exact same questions over and over...is it more meaningful when your partner does x or buys you a little gift...an exciting gift...a thoughtful gift...an unexpected gift...

yeah yeah I like presents Rofl but I only ever get them at Xmas or birthdays. If got one unexpectedly I'd be "uh oh...what have you done?!"
 
My love language is pretty split between Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts. I think, however, that it's because these are the things I never get, LOL. I guess I'm selfish that way, hehe. My DH (of 20 years) is most obviously Physical Touch. We are doomed :giggle
 
My love language is sleep, but nobody in my house speaks my language. ;)

{I am very strong Acts of Service, followed by Words of Affirmation.}

The more tired and stressed I am, the more the acts of service become important to me, but the more irritated I become that I have to tell them that I need them to do something extra.
 
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I took the quiz a long time ago and it said that mine were Quality time and words of affirmation and I think that still is true for me today too.
 
Oh mine is absolutely Words of Affirmation. Followed by Quality Time and Acts of Service. I've noticed that I often "speak" in my own love language. And that it's helpful to understand what love language the dear ones in my life speak.
 
never heard of this before, but I took the quiz, and Words of Affirmation came up. I think that's very accurate for me.
 
I'm an acts of service gal... followed by a tie between gifts and words. Sadly, my DH's highest love language is physical touch. It's tough because that's also how he shows his love but if I'm doing something DON'T TOUCH ME. My initial gut reaction to someone touching me while I'm cooking/working/focusing on whatever is not a great one. I'm working on it. I'm also working on showing him love in this way, but it doesn't come natural for me.

I agree Kimberlee - I don't give this theory a TON of weight, but I think it can be a bit helpful. Especially with my kids... my one son is very strongly words of affirmation and I've really tuned into that to show him love (and on the flip side to be more sensitive about my tone and wording things so they aren't taken so harshly.) So what is yours?
 
This was super cool! I am a survey junkie...something wring with me! lol :) Mine is split between receiving gifts (i knew that one!) and words of affirmation! cant wait to see what it will be for DH - i will put my money on physical touch! - which is last for me! god save us! :)
 
Lynnette said:
I'm an acts of service gal... followed by a tie between gifts and words. Sadly, my DH's highest love language is physical touch. It's tough because that's also how he shows his love but if I'm doing something DON'T TOUCH ME. My initial gut reaction to someone touching me while I'm cooking/working/focusing on whatever is not a great one. I'm working on it. I'm also working on showing him love in this way, but it doesn't come natural for me.
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Thats so me! Is it so difficult to understand?!! I was laughing when i saw your dont touch me in caps. I so relate to that!
 
jenevang said:
My love language is pretty split between Acts of Service and Receiving Gifts. I think, however, that it's because these are the things I never get, LOL. I guess I'm selfish that way, hehe. My DH (of 20 years) is most obviously Physical Touch. We are doomed :giggle
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thats exactly where I and DH are! lol :)
 
I am a Words of Affirmation girl at the moment. A few years ago it was more physical touch. I think the reason I'm affirmation-related now is because that is where my husband totally lacks. Like I think he's given me maybe two compliments in the entire 15 years we've known each other. LOL. He's just so not verbal. The only feeling he's comfortable with expressing is anger... at inanimate objects. He's not physically affectionate either. His main thing is spending time together, which right now is hard because I'm finishing my thesis, and we have a 5-year-old constantly underfoot... or we have to do things separately because of schedules. Like he just went to his high school reunion alone because it isn't something we could take Kennedy along to, and there is no one else to watch him for a weekend. Right now it feels tough because I think Tim is resentful of Jessica/Kennedy living with us because there is no time alone, but ironically, back before Kennedy, it wasn't like we had lots going on. It was pretty much the same thing every day, only I wasn't focused on Kennedy 24/7. So hopefully we'll survive this phase. LOL.
 
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