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melrio

melrio

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It happens to all of us....life happens! The old saying that only a couple things are certain in life.....one of them is death. I know, gloomy topic, huh? Well, I had a really hard time today explaining to my 7 yr old grandson why I was crying & sad because I woke up today to find out one of my dear girlfriends son passed away in a horrific car wreck and another close friend's father passed also. What an emotionally draining day.

How do you explain to a 7 yr old about these things? I simply told my DGS that I was sad & that sometimes things happen in our lives that makes us sad. Didn't want to go not the details but he gave me a huge hug & said he loved me. Sure made things a lot better.
 
I'm so sorry for your losses Mel. :( And I think you shared the right amount of information with your grandson. He sounds like a sweetie!
 
So sorry Mel.

Your sweet little grandson sounds like an amazing little boy. It is those small moments we need to treasure.
 
I'm so sorry for your loss Mel :( I think that is probably what I would have told him too. It is a really hard subject to approach.
 
So sorry for your losses, Mel. A huge hug will surely made things a little better. My condolences!
 
yea mel, i agree that you shared a good amount of info for your grandson.
i'm so sorry for your losses.
 
Mel, I'm sorry for your losses. It sounds like a rough week. You did a great job talking to your grandson. It can be difficult explaining these types of things to a child. Hang in there. Hugs.
 
im so sorry for your losses mel and i think you handles it well with your grandson and how caring he is,big hugs to you
 
So sorry for your losses Mel. ((hug))

I think you're right..sharing about the difficult topics sometimes has to happen sooner than we would like. And when it does we do the best we can do. And you did. :beat

We've had to approach some difficult subjects with Bugga and I don't always feel like I know *just* what to say to help her understand. But I follow what feels right and what communicates the truth without overwhelming her. I think that's all any of us can do. Frame things in whatever values we hold and try to find that balance of sharing honestly and in a way they can understand, while protecting them from some of the scarier things of life they may not be ready to digest.

Isn't it amazing how..even not knowing the details, your DGS knew just what you needed? A hug and some loving kind words. I so love that about children.

Hoping today is better. ((hug))
 
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{HUGS} Mel! I'm so sorry for your loss. I always find it difficult to know exactly what to say to my kids in situations like that, too. I'm with Sara, I just try to follow what feels "right" and hope that I've done what's best. I'm so glad you DGS was able to help give you some comfort.
 
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