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AnneofAlamo

AnneofAlamo

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I can't! I am horrible about secrets...the only way I can not tell, is if I forget! :whistle
I have friends ask me, "Can I tell you something and would you please keep it a secret?"
I say no, please don't tell me!
bhahhaha
Usually, I can keep a tight lip for people's secrets, but presents, and fun things, like adventures we are taking the kids...I can't keep them in!!
Can you?
 
Things people tell me they do not want shared, yes I can keep then. However like you, fun things I have planned I can't.
 
i am the exact same way ... serious secrets for others YES.

but when it is presents and fun things ... no, not for long. i can't keep them in and i don't like being on the other side of a fun/surprise secret either ... the not knowing drives me crazy!
 
I guess it all depends on the secret and how it effects others.

If it's something like, I'm prego and don't tell, I won't tell cuz I don't want to ruin the fun for the ones that are expecting and breaking the news.

But, if it's something told to me that effects someone's life negatively by not knowing, I would definitely tell. (Cuz, I would wanna know.)
 
Lor said:
But, if it's something told to me that effects someone's life negatively by not knowing, I would definitely tell. (Cuz, I would wanna know.)
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Lor, that is such a good point...I work with teens a lot with church, and I have them share some pain with me. As a mom, I would want to know if my kids had these issues. They all know, and I remind them, that this issue is bigger than me, and your parents need to know. I give a time deadline for them to tell parents and EVERYTime, the parents call me prior to the deadline and thank me for encouraging them to open up to them.
 
jenn mccabe said:
i am the exact same way ... serious secrets for others YES.

but when it is presents and fun things ... no, not for long. i can't keep them in and i don't like being on the other side of a fun/surprise secret either ... the not knowing drives me crazy!
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Lor said:
But, if it's something told to me that effects someone's life negatively by not knowing, I would definitely tell. (Cuz, I would wanna know.)
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This, combined!
 
Anne, I work with teens as well as a youth counsellor. They know that what they tell me stays with me unless they are a danger to themselves or others at which point I have to report it. Depending on what it is they are sharing I always encourage them to tell a parent or guardian as well. That being said, unless it is the above two reasons I am bound by confidentiality to not notify parents especially if the child is 14+ which mine are. Some situations that is hard because a parent I would to know as well, I just give them what I can and refer them to those who can help, even making the phone call if need be :). Bless you for being a 'go to' person for these kids.
 
My rule is "don't tell me anything I cannot tell my husband". I do not, cannot, will not keep secrets from him. If it is a surprise for him, that's another matter.

I can be trusted. Really. Just be aware, my husband is going to know your secret. ;)
 
lynning said:
My rule is "don't tell me anything I cannot tell my husband". I do not, cannot, will not keep secrets from him. If it is a surprise for him, that's another matter.

I can be trusted. Really. Just be aware, my husband is going to know your secret. ;)
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I am EXACTLY like this!
 
I'm a great secret keeper. ( involving minors and harmful, illegal behavior not withstanding )
 
mum's the word.
zip the lip.
don't tell.

i'm good. i can keep a secret like nobody's business!! ;)
 
Some secrets I can keep, big ones definitely! Smaller ones, not so much as I get a super goofy grin on my face thinking about how much fun the surprise (or whatever it is) is going to be which makes everyone around me suspicious :giggle. But for serious things I would take it to my grave before I tell ... I'm like a vault :)
 
I'm very good and keeping confidences, but I am AWFUL at keeping secrets from my husband because I'm so used to telling him everything. I tried to train with a friend in secret for a 5K and i was going to surprise him that day. I spilled the beans several weeks before the event. Whoops. :)
 
Lor said:
I guess it all depends on the secret and how it effects others.

If it's something like, I'm prego and don't tell, I won't tell cuz I don't want to ruin the fun for the ones that are expecting and breaking the news.

But, if it's something told to me that effects someone's life negatively by not knowing, I would definitely tell. (Cuz, I would wanna know.)
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mmmm...it also depends in what the secret is.....
I have been in situations in which I had to asses and re asses if tell or not tell....

I saw a friend of ours go through the dilema of telling another friend of ours she knew positively the husband was having an affair-
she dwelled for months, in the end she told her-
Long story short?
the friend whom she told, stayed with her husband and ended her friendship with her.....
so...
don't know.

I can keep shut.
I think if someone asks you to keep things to yourself, you have to honor that person- regardless of whatever is around....

I also wouldn't have been able to surprise Sarita and see so much happiness with many birthdays, 11 years of Santa Claus, trip to Euro Disney (she didn't know until 4 days before we went) and things like that- It is difficult because the excitement means I wanna share, but the happiness in others with great surprises is priceless :heartlub:heartlub:heartlub



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For the most part yes I can keep a secret, otherwise I tell my one dear friend who I know doesn't know the parties involved and then I do not have to worry as she can keep a secret too, and by telling her it is ok as I get it out of my system, yet I know it still is not going anywhere! LOL
 
Me too secrets are safe with me and... hunny! He is really a great secretkeeper (for my secrets and his!)
 
YES, but I always have to tell one person. So I tell someone completely removed from the situation, like my internet friend that lives across the country, or my RL BFF who I know can keep quiet.
 
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