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AnneofAlamo

AnneofAlamo

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Thru the years of becoming parents of many kids, keeping our relationship fresh and fun as a couple has been the hardest hit. :therethere
we used to go every other week for a soda together (when money was tight), then dinner when we were a bit smarter with our finances.
The last few months we were in a bit of turmoil...and needed time just us, but finding the opportunities were non existent...
until
now we go for breakfast at 5am on Thursday! :beat perfect :woot
Do ya'll have special time set aside for each other?
 
I wish. We used to but we do not live by family and so the more kids we've added the less dates we get. They are pretty non existent now. By the time we would have to pay someone to watch 5 kids there would be no money left to even get gas to leave the driveway. Sometimes it makes me sad but then I remember that this is just a season in our lives. There are probably people in our church that would watch our kids for free, if we would only ask, but I find it very hard to ask someone to watch 5 kids. I had surgery last week and it was a nightmare trying to find people for that. I ended up splitting them up at 50 different places.
 
Saturday night is date night. About once a month, it's a family date night, so we do something fun with the kids and go out to eat together. The other Saturdays, it's just me and DH...although usually about once a month, we double-date with some friends. Even though we both work from home and are together a lot, date night is super important. It's so nice to have that relaxing time away from work, the house, etc. Yay for date night! :)

ETA: Breakfast at 5 am - that's some date commitment right there, Anne!! LOL
 
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We don't have set date nights...really didn't when the kids were little. Nowadays, we look forward to our Tuesday afternoon lunches. Tuesday is my DH's day off, so we usually do a late lunch/early dinner at our favorite Mexican restaurant. It's a tradition.
 
Every month or two we get my ILs to take the girls overnight. I'm not sure anything could get me up at 5am. lol
 
We try very hard to make time for date night, but lately DH's job has been intense and he has no time for anything, so they have gone by the way side. It's sad, we really cherish those times together and we really NEED the (especially right now) but it just isn't happening.
 
Every night is date night for us......only because the kids are all grown and out of the house! :D
 
We suck at this.. But need to get better.. We went to Vegas last fall and having three wonderfully kid-free days together was so, so perfect! My parents rarely went out while I was growing up, but DH's did every week.. Not only was it great for his parents, it was great for the kids to learn to get along and deal with things without always running to mom or dad (they always had a sitter).. I think it's super important for the overall health of a family for the parents to get some time alone.. I read an article somewhere encouraging couples to have one night a month where the wife chooses - even if hubby doesn't like it - ie chick flick or shopping or whatever - and then the next month the husband would choose - hockey game, monster trucks, etc.. It encourages each person in the relationship to learn about/experience things the other is interested in, which helps them grow closer, but also reinforces the idea of give/take and sacrifice/service in the relationship.. We have yet to do this, but I'd really like to..
 
We sometimes find time for a cup of tea in the day at a cafe when the boys are at school,soon that will be just the 2 of us now gabbi has started nursery,but apart from that we don't usually have a date night,we do get together with our friends and the kids all go off to play so we get adult time there
 
We don't have a set time for date night, but my husband is really good at planning these for us. Sometimes we go with another couple, sometimes it's just us. We also work together (like he's in the office next door) but it is still important to get away from everything else and have time to just talk and relax together. Our kids are at a fun age where we can have another family or two over on the weekends and we sit outside by the fire pit and have a drink together and all of our kids will play outside or inside watching a movie together, so it's kinda like date night, but at home and cheaper! :)
 
We don't have a set date night. As the boys are getting older, it is easier to leave them with my parents overnight, and because they are older, my parents don't mind. As they get older, it will be much easier, lol! Many times, it will be a YMCA date night function - the Y watches your kids, and you go out. Other times, it's just like Karen said, we just have friends and their kids over to hang out, catch up, play, etc. This way the parents can get together relax and have an adult beverage, and the kids can all do whatever and play. :)
 
The kids are gone so we make our own plans although we both have so many commitments that it can still be challenging. When they were younger, I let the oldest babysit or we had friends over and the kids all just played together. With the little ones, it is always a challenge.
 
We don't have date nights but we do spend more time together on the weekends in the spring/summer when we go out to our trailer. We watch movies, go for walks, go to the casino, sit around the fire pit, go shopping in town together (which he never wants to do at home), go out for lunch or dinner and just hang out together. At home I'm in my office a lot and he sits in front of the tv.
 
I wish we did. We have gone out maybe 3-4 times since having the boys....most of those times were within a few days of me having surgery so I wasn't in the best shape but we actually had a sitter here.

We did drop the boys off at Lifetime Fitness for Parent's Night Out and we went out to dinner which was heavenly!!!!
 
we don't have routine dates, like every friday we do X or whatever.
but we do seem to be pretty good at stealing time here and there to go spend time together. we're getting better about it in the past years. for several years we were horrible at it, since we had 3 small kids.
amanda, it is definitely just a season - don't get discouraged!
 
What's date night??

We were never able to commit to once a week, so what we did decide to try and do was the 17th of every month (our first date was January 17, and our anniversary is June 17.) We're still not totally able to manage this, but we try!
 
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