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My youngest son (he's 26 y/o) and my ex-MIL both suffer from depression. I'm not normally a depressed person but I have been in a total 'funk' for the past 3 weeks! I'm trying to pull myself out of it but things just really seem to bother me and I hate that I feel this way. I am always the one cheering up everyone else. Tried to talking to DH last night but I even kinda just shut off from him, as well. Life doesn't seem hopeless by any means but I feel like my attitude really needs an 'Attitude Adjustment'!
 
I have Bipolar Disorder so I get really bad depression. Normally I take medicines which help me immensely. Right now I am trying to get pregnant and the medicine that helps me the most is pretty dangerous so my Dr took me off of it. I'm on something else that is safer but it doesn't help nearly as much. It has been a pretty tough few months with financial struggles, moving in to my mom's house, and trying to find a part time job. The financial problems wouldnt be so bad if I could work full time but my illness makes that pretty impossible. Depression and Bipolar run on both sides of my family going back to my great grandma which is as far back as I can trace. I've been in therapy forever and it helps but I still struggle on a daily basis. Things do seem to get a bit better each year though. I fight really hard to just do the daily things that seem to come easily to most people but I know that is just what I have to do. I try to be positive and focus on all the things in my life I am so lucky to have and I have the most supportive husband in the world. He is happy to sit there and let me drone on about how I feel for ever. I don't know how I would get through all of this without him. I have kind of learned to accept Depression as just part of my life and I work with it the best I can.
 
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I have a lot of friends that deal with this...a few are bipolar. Some are doing well, others not so much. It's hard...I'd love to be there for them every second of every day, but it's not possible. I've got a lot on my own plate right now.

My third son suffers from bipolar. He's been properly medicated for about 5 years now, and it makes all the difference in the world. He rarely suffers any depression now, but the medicine also allows him some ups and downs, so he's not totally without feeling. We had some very long dark years with him though. He is willing to take his meds (he's 24) and we help him with monitoring them. He also has some learning difficulties which is a double whammy, but he's doing great. He has a new job, they've told him they're very happy with his work and like him a lot.

I've had situational depression before (mainly with dealing with Patrick years ago) and two of my other boys were mixed up in drugs. It was a very difficult time for me. I did use medication then and I think it really helped me get through those times, although I haven't taken anything in about 8 years.
 
Yes, my husband. I try to be sympathetic, but it's very frustrating when he gets in his "funks". And he won't medicate because he's afraid he'll lose his edge at work if he's not super reactive. Ugh.
 
I'm bipolar II and spend too much time in a depressed funk. I do get out of bed every morning and put food on the table most nights and teach my daughter (thank goodness that part is usually fun) but I have to say some days that's about all I can manage. Luckily my family is understanding and really keep me grounded. I had a really rough time of things in my mid twenties which led to my diagnosis, and I don't ever want to experience anything like that again, but it's a constant fear.
 
I suffer from depression. I tried doing the meds thing for awhile, but I don't like how they make me feel. So I just try really hard to make myself get up and do things. My sister and my friends make sure I don't spend my days hiding when I get into one of my moods. It's hard to describe and it comes and goes in phases. So right now I feel ok, but tomorrow I might spend the whole day in bed crying for no good reason at all.

My whole family is probably depressed - and they don't know it. That's what you learn in therapy. LOL!
 
I used to work with a women's MICA program (chronically mentally ill + chemically addicted), and it was a brutal gig. I really wish our society didn't have so many stigmas surrounding mental health.

My DD has depression/anxiety issues. She's taking medicine for it, but I would like her to talk to a counselor as well because I really believe that it helps. I think sometimes it is hard to get out of a rut with the thinking part, and the medicine alone can't do it. She also has sleep apnea that she's not dealing with, so I think that contributes to the problem. She's exhausted all of the time, and that isn't good for your body/brain.

My SS most likely has depression. He won't go get any treatment for it even though he admits he is depressed, so he self-medicates (ugh). SD also has some issues (more serious than the other kids). We were taking the kids to a therapist for awhile and he wanted to test her, but DH didn't ever want her to be diagnosed (so she wasn't tested) I'm willing to bet she has a case of borderline personality disorder combined with depression. It makes me sad to think that she's never going to get help. She has some pretty risky behaviors that worry me a lot, but DH is afraid to say anything to her because he's worried she'll get all volatile and stop talking to him.

It is hard because you just want your kids to be happy and we are 0 for 3 right now. Bah.
 
kiddo is dx with ptsd & psychotic major depression (PMD).

it sucks. i don't have anything nice to say about it. It's HARD. every day.. you wake up, and you have to fight through each and every moment and hope that maybe one day there will be a break and the sun will come out again.
 
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me. i've been on and off meds for like 10 years now :dizzy
i struggle daily with social anxiety, and were a "dedicated" self harmer by the age of 9 to 21. luckily i'm over that now :)
 
la said:
kiddo is dx with ptsd & psychotic major depression (PMD).

it sucks. i don't have anything nice to say about it. It's HARD. every day.. you wake up, and you have to fight through each and every moment and hope that maybe one day there will be a break and the sun will come out again.
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oh la, i cant even imagine how that must be like! {{hugs}}
you got to be a real strong woman surviving all that... :hug
 
I have fibromyalgia...which is intertwined with bad sleep, anxiety, feeling down.
It's an awful cycle.
-I'm in pain, so I can't sleep, then the pain doesn't go away
-I'm anxious, which makes the pain worse, which makes me more anxious
-When I can't do something that I think I should (ie regular household chores) because of pain or anxiety, then I feel down....which....I think you get what that turns into.

I'm making it sound worse than it is. I am still able to keep a full time job, although I call in sick more than my employer would like. I am thankful that I work for a union and have people that are understanding that sometimes I just can't do something. I think I am my worst enemy, as in not giving myself some slack about not getting everything done that I want to.
 
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I think I am my worst enemy, as in not giving myself some slack about not getting everything done that I want to.
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I get this. I'm always down on myself and feel like I should accomplish more in a day than I do. DH thinks that I set my expectations of myself too high, so at least he's understanding and not like..what did you do all day? that would make it worse I think.
 
*raising hand*

winters are the worst... but infertility and fertility meds and pregnancies have made it even more worse the past few years... currently working to get my hormones normal again... also was recently diagnosed with ADHD, the depression and anxiety are some of the symptoms... my anxiety is so bad sometimes that I can't even get out of bed... soooooo thankful for an understanding hubby and to finally have gotten the help and meds that I needed to help with the ADHD which has hugely helped the anxiety and now that winter is over hopefully I'll be cheering up again and forcing myself out of the house more to get some vitamin D.
 
la said:
kiddo is dx with ptsd & psychotic major depression (PMD).

it sucks. i don't have anything nice to say about it. It's HARD. every day.. you wake up, and you have to fight through each and every moment and hope that maybe one day there will be a break and the sun will come out again.
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I know it's so hard La, and Ce's issues are so different than Pats, but you are an amazing mom, and I know you will do all the right things for him. Things certainly aren't perfect for Pat, but things ate 100% better than they were. I honestly didn't think I could continue on most days. One day at a time (sometimes minute by minute) and I promise the sun will come out again!!!

(((hugs))) to all you girls.
 
My father had bipolar disorder, and both of my sisters have suffered from depression. I have suffered situational depression a few times, but it has not lasted long for me. My bigger problem is anxiety. I get worked up about everything - especially medical situations, and then my anxiety attacks cause me to have more physical symptoms, so it is just not good.
 
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I know it's so hard La, and Ce's issues are so different than Pats, but you are an amazing mom, and I know you will do all the right things for him. Things certainly aren't perfect for Pat, but things ate 100% better than they were. I honestly didn't think I could continue on most days. One day at a time (sometimes minute by minute) and I promise the sun will come out again!!!

(((hugs))) to all you girls.
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<3 thank you debra

and christine <3
 
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