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mommy2boyz

mommy2boyz

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We're leaving for San Antonio tomorrow for a 5 day visit with my in-laws. There will be 14 people in the house, plus a large dog and 3 cats...not sure I'm really looking forward to the visit. My mother in-law and one of my sister in-laws are a bit hard to warm up to, and it's been almost 8 years. While I love them because they raised a wonderful man who happens to be my husband, our visits are always awkward for me and I feel like I'm treading on glass, being very careful not to say the wrong thing and hurt feelings. How about you? Great relationship with the in-laws? Or not so much?
 
i am so blessed to have a great relationship with my in-laws! my MIL can have some serious boundary issues sometimes - as in, she totally ignores set boundaries and blows right past them - but we still have a very good relationship. we talk on the phone probably at least once a week.

there was a time for about 2 years that we didn't get along so well - starting with our wedding and stretching into my early motherhood years - but we've come out of that dark spot. :)
 
Glad I don't have in-laws! I do have some issues lately with my SIL, but what can you do! I try to stay focused on my nieces & nephew and ignore the things that annoy me.
 
I've been married for 14 years and still don't feel as if my in-laws are family so I totally understand how a visit with that many people and animals might be awkward!
 
i really like my in-laws - they are really really kind and generous and helpful. HOWEVER - we are really, really different. so, when we spend much time together it gets a little tiring, bc almost every.single.conversation is more of about me explaining how i perceive something and trying to get them to understand my POV (and vice versa). it would be nice to be on the same page about something! i hate saying anything bad about them -b/c they really ARE fabulous - but sometimes those conversations get old.
 
I used to feel that my in-laws were better than my own parents. I have since changed my mind. My MIL has the best intentions, but she drives me crazy. I am type-A all the way and she is a slob. Dirty cups, tissues, shoes, socks, clothes strewn through out the house. Spots all over my clean mirrors, garbage left wherever she feels like leaving it. When she uses our car to take the kids somewhere it is like cleaning up a pig stye when I get it back. Really, drives me over the edge. I try to bite my tongue and I bitch constantly to my mother and husband - but it doesn't seem to help. I know she loves me and the kids.
 
I have a great relationship with my in-laws. I consider myself very lucky that they are so loving and supportive of our family. They are wonderful with my kids and always willing to help me out if I need babysitting help or anything else.

I think they know they have it so good with us because we live close and keep them very involved in our lives. They only had two boys and my BIL lives in the Pacific Northwest near his wife's family and we all barely see him. It makes me wonder sometimes what will happen to me when my two boys grow up and have their own families.
 
Thankfully I have a great relationship with my in-laws! My own mother is the more challenging relationship for me
 
My relationship with my in-laws started off rocky (mostly with my MIL) but has since gotten much better. We don't see them, or my parents, often because they live in New England and we're all over the country with my husband being in the military. My MIL can be a hard pill to swallow sometimes and a bit overbearing, but they're nothing but loving and supportive of my husband, myself and our family.
 
My MIL is a wonderful person but gets pulled in by my SIL and her issues. If its just my MIL and us, everything is ok but the minute my SIL gets involved...oh. my. gosh. She doesn't care much for me and so I pretty much ignore her petty *crap* which DH totally understands because he can't stand his own sister for more than 5 minutes.
 
I have a great relationship with my ILs. I didn't have to do much but be myself since they hate(d) my DH's ex. They have their quirks and my FIL is quite the overbearing racist sexist... jerk sometimes, but they are always there for us and they spoil my daughter rotten. We have lunch with them almost every Sunday afternoon, and I talk to my MIL at least once or twice a week on the phone.
 
Good luck with your 5 day stay! That's a long time to be with people you aren't completely comfortable with. My in-laws came to our house for Christmas this year, in fact they just left this morning. While I love them, and they are nothing but kind and generous and supportive to our whole family, I think 5 days is a long time to be together and can be wearing. It's so nice to have my house back and my usual routine!
 
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John's grandparents took over custody of him when he was about 18 months, and he'd been living with them since before he was one - his mom was on bed-rest pregnant with his twin sisters and his father was an alcoholic. After a really rough start with his grandfather ((I mean really rough - the man banned me from their house until I had Zach, then I put down my foot and said Zach couldn't go to a house I wasn't welcome in.)) our relationship was great. His grandmother was one of my favorite people ever. They passed away within almost a year of each other exactly, his grandfather first when Ryan was about one, and then his grandmother the next year.

Up till then we got along great with the rest of his family, and then after their deaths - read: the will was released - and then it all just crumbled. We don't have anything to do with them now.

As for his dad, mom, and siblings - We haven't talked to his dad in almost 4 years, he doesn't even know about Bella or Mason. I keep up with his mom and sisters on Facebook, though honestly - I don't like her too much. I'm pretty close with one sister, not so much the other one though because she fills her life with drama. He has some older brothers too, but they are quite a bit older than us, around 20+ years older.
 
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