What's new

mummies what do you ….

Li Li Wee

Li Li Wee

I create my imagination
Guest Designer
Joined
Sep 28, 2011
Messages
7,737
Mummies out there… what do you do when a going on 2 year old boy throws tantrum in public not wanting to have dinner and start throwING things on the floor :tantrum..

Do you just walk out of the restaurant?
Do you ignore him?

What do you do in these kind of situation? I'm not a mum… I have a nephew who is kinda spoilt and has a maid who follows and does everything for him… :(

omg!! HELP!!
 
well, in my house, my town and my state, a pop on the butt is legal. I will turn them over my knee if it continues. But I'm the mom, nieces, nephews friends kids. they throw a fit, I return them to the parents and tell of behavior. I do have some friends kids, that I have permission to pop on the butt but they are really really close friends.
 
If he was making a scene, I'd remove him until I got him distracted or settled down. If he was just throwing things & not screaming, I'd remove everything from his reach, that way he couldn't throw things anymore.

Fortunately I had/have a very calm kid. I'd probably be pretty frazzled if he did it often!
 
We learnt that the best way is to ignore COMPLETELY. People might look strange, but it's the best thing.
At a certain point, we walked away, pretending to leave him alone in the store so we got out of his sight. That was the first moment he stopped and started to listen...

Good luck, it's not easy but it pays of!
 
Yup, same with PLM. I would just ignore it. The first few times would be rough but once he figures out that you are not going to give in he will stop. Remove anything he could hurt himself with and let him have at it. One of my kids hit her head on the floor throwing a tantrum. She never did it again. lol
 
In public they would have gotten removed immediately. I would not subject others to my kids' tantrums. *I* don't want to hear them, so I know others want to even less. I don't think I ever had any meltdowns like that though, my kids learned early on that sort of behavior was not tolerated.

At home I would (and did) strap them in a high chair and stick them in a corner in a different room..basically the ignoring idea, but I would keep them contained.
 
In part, it's a "know your child" situation. If the tantrum was because they didn't want to be there, then leaving gives them their way and teaches them to keep throwing tantrums. If that isn't the case, then at a restaurant I'd first try removing anything he could throw and ignoring. If he stayed loud, I'd take him out so he didn't disturb others.
 
What if he doesn't want to sit still !!! doesn't want to have his meal… throwing the food on the floor and we are still having dinner!!

:dizzy:furious
 
Last edited:
We've left mid-meal when our boys acted up and made it clear to them why we were leaving (but they were a little older). We haven't had a repeat of that.

It's hard when they are so young, because you get torn between wanting to ignore the behaviour (so they learn that this kind of behaviour doesn't get them any attention), and wanting to remove your kids from the restaurant to avoid ruining other peoples' meals.
 
We only had such thing thing three times and it was in a big store where he wanted to go. f.e. left and we went right.
Never had any trouble at the restaurant though.
Hmmm... what would my tactic be then? Depends on their age of course. And like you say, you don't want to ruin other people's meals.
I guess at that moment we would all take off and they would get some heavy ignoring at home...
 
I think you always have to consider the capabilities of the child, especially at such a young age. I wouldn't expect most two year olds to sit for an hour or two at dinner. It's just not in their developmental skills at 2. However, you can work on it. When my kids were two, I would take a small sampling of finger food type snacks (bits of fruit, cheerios, etc) with us to the restaurant along with a "busy bag". The busy bag had some fun, quiet toys that were only used when we went out. This kept them interesting because they weren't everyday toys. We would do our best to keep our child quiet and occupied for as long as possible. However, out of respect for the other diners, one of us would always take the child out if they got obnoxious. More than anything, I think some advanced planning and consistency helps to make eating out a better experience with toddlers.
 
lmccandless said:
I think you always have to consider the capabilities of the child, especially at such a young age. I wouldn't expect most two year olds to sit for an hour or two at dinner. It's just not in their developmental skills at 2. However, you can work on it. When my kids were two, I would take a small sampling of finger food type snacks (bits of fruit, cheerios, etc) with us to the restaurant along with a "busy bag". The busy bag had some fun, quiet toys that were only used when we went out. This kept them interesting because they weren't everyday toys. We would do our best to keep our child quiet and occupied for as long as possible. However, out of respect for the other diners, one of us would always take the child out if they got obnoxious. More than anything, I think some advanced planning and consistency helps to make eating out a better experience with toddlers.
Click to expand...

My thoughts exactly … they have attention span of a fly!! I love the busy bag idea.. I'm gonna try this out … thank you everyone.. My sister doesn't believe that I will succeed in doing this!!! but I will make it happen.. wish me luck .. ;)
 
Good luck LiLi!

Laura, I had forgotten about the busy bag. We had a little plastic briefcase filled with crayons, special toys reserved for going "out" (whether to a restaurant or to someone's house who didn't have kids), and when they were older we added Color Wonder books + felts, dot-to-dot books, iSpy books. It was always packed so it was easy to grab it on the way out (along with the diaper bag!). It's been a long time since we've needed it. :)
 
I have easy boys. Some cars are enough to keep them going and play silently ;-)
But the busy bag is a really neat idea I will also keep in mind!
 
If memory serves, my purse ended up being my busy bag. I was thrilled when I didn't have to keep carrying purses that would hold Lego kits and all those little Barbie/Little Pony people.
 
Last night hubby and I left a store we were shopping in (I just put our basket down in the middle of the floor and walked out) because we couldn't stand the sound of some woman's child screaming at full pelt.
 
staciahall said:
If memory serves, my purse ended up being my busy bag. I was thrilled when I didn't have to keep carrying purses that would hold Lego kits and all those little Barbie/Little Pony people.
Click to expand...

Yes, it must have been really strange, I can imagine!
But don't you miss it sometimes??? :giggle
 
When they were little and they threw a tantrum, we would pack up and leave. That generally made them hysterical as they wanted to be out but once in the car I would tell them why we were leaving and that their behaviour was responsible and then ignore their screaming butts (turning up the music in the car helped sometimes lol) and put them to bed once they got home. It only happened a few times, they learned that bad behaviour = home in bed and no fun.

They are good kids and didn't give me too many problems :)
 
Back
Top