AnneofAlamo
Slippers IN sunshine? Even better!
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I drove 3.5 hours there this morning, to throw down some gauntlets at the Residential Treatment Center my son has been at since Dec 14th, 2017!
I wore a business suit dress and heels! I went in today to the RTC, loaded with knowledge and power! 9 months he has been there and worse than before! I was pissed and controlled.
Not the crying wimpy mom that they thought I was, she is gone!
The poor little new therapist. Graduated in May! aaaaaaaaaaaah! She said maybe 3 things. Her trainer therapist (whom I love was grinning at me like crazy).
I met the new COO (big wig), she tried to smile and walk away. I held her hand and kept the conversation going.
I explained 3 weeks non communications is not acceptable and I am not amused how they have treated my son. Pencil whipping him thru the system. I know and you know he is not ready to join the real world, and I want your word, in front of these witnesses. She admitted it! SHE ADMITTED it!
I then kept at it. I said I sent a letter on the 23 of August, and have requested per HiPAA all his records. I am his mother/guardian and you have 30 days to fulfill this.
She hemmed and hawed, oh I don't have your email. I actually said, I call bull on that ma'am. MY phone number and email are on the letter and in my son's file, and on the numerous phone calls I have left without call backs.
I thought she was going to puke. It was amazing. I have a backbone, I have teeth and I am a momma bear!
I met the principal (love him) he is pissed at the system and volunteered to be a witness to the way everything has been pushed thru on my son. He does NOT work for the RTC, and has been principal of middle school (my son was in elementary last year). for 20 years here.
I had my son come in and I layed out the ground rules too him.
◘You will call me every day.
◘You will go to school every day without incident.
◘Your mouth. The cussing stops. I turned to the therapist. I am telling you, if you allow him to continue I will have your job. I am his parent, and he is not allowed to cuss. You will have consequences. so that might be a good place for you to start. Head bob in affirmative.
◘ No Restraints which means the fighting stops today!
◘ no escapes.
YOU do any of the above, you add one month to your time here. You go until November, and hit the magic age of 12 and you can just pack your bags for Texas. That is at least ONE full year of RTC.
I then showed him photos of our family. I said we are having a blast at home. Your brothers are thriving and growing up without you. WE don't need you there, we want you there, but will not go thru what happened before.
I asked do you understand what you have to do? He repeated it all. I said are you going to do it? YES.
okay, I kissed him on the head, said, then prove it, I am going home. 1.5 hours of PURE POWER!
and I left! heels clicking and smiling so hard.
bhahahhhahah
and 20 minutes ago, my son called me. He said, I am ready for school tomorrow mom. I am gonna do this! I again said Prove it by doing it! He sounds so upbeat! I am cheering!
for the record, my son is diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance, IMpulsivity, PTSD, and numerous other letters for behaviors due to the abuse he suffered as a meth child and his birth momma. He has will power, but was refusing to try. He just went into almost a 2 year old rage for the past few months, in an 11 year old body. Horrible. He had a wake up call today! lol
I hope you don't see anger, his "diagnoses" is one that feeds off emotions. So, being very clinical is actually what he needs. He thrives in this.
I wore a business suit dress and heels! I went in today to the RTC, loaded with knowledge and power! 9 months he has been there and worse than before! I was pissed and controlled.
Not the crying wimpy mom that they thought I was, she is gone!
The poor little new therapist. Graduated in May! aaaaaaaaaaaah! She said maybe 3 things. Her trainer therapist (whom I love was grinning at me like crazy).
I met the new COO (big wig), she tried to smile and walk away. I held her hand and kept the conversation going.
I explained 3 weeks non communications is not acceptable and I am not amused how they have treated my son. Pencil whipping him thru the system. I know and you know he is not ready to join the real world, and I want your word, in front of these witnesses. She admitted it! SHE ADMITTED it!
I then kept at it. I said I sent a letter on the 23 of August, and have requested per HiPAA all his records. I am his mother/guardian and you have 30 days to fulfill this.
She hemmed and hawed, oh I don't have your email. I actually said, I call bull on that ma'am. MY phone number and email are on the letter and in my son's file, and on the numerous phone calls I have left without call backs.
I thought she was going to puke. It was amazing. I have a backbone, I have teeth and I am a momma bear!
I met the principal (love him) he is pissed at the system and volunteered to be a witness to the way everything has been pushed thru on my son. He does NOT work for the RTC, and has been principal of middle school (my son was in elementary last year). for 20 years here.
I had my son come in and I layed out the ground rules too him.
◘You will call me every day.
◘You will go to school every day without incident.
◘Your mouth. The cussing stops. I turned to the therapist. I am telling you, if you allow him to continue I will have your job. I am his parent, and he is not allowed to cuss. You will have consequences. so that might be a good place for you to start. Head bob in affirmative.
◘ No Restraints which means the fighting stops today!
◘ no escapes.
YOU do any of the above, you add one month to your time here. You go until November, and hit the magic age of 12 and you can just pack your bags for Texas. That is at least ONE full year of RTC.
I then showed him photos of our family. I said we are having a blast at home. Your brothers are thriving and growing up without you. WE don't need you there, we want you there, but will not go thru what happened before.
I asked do you understand what you have to do? He repeated it all. I said are you going to do it? YES.
okay, I kissed him on the head, said, then prove it, I am going home. 1.5 hours of PURE POWER!
and I left! heels clicking and smiling so hard.
bhahahhhahah
and 20 minutes ago, my son called me. He said, I am ready for school tomorrow mom. I am gonna do this! I again said Prove it by doing it! He sounds so upbeat! I am cheering!
for the record, my son is diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance, IMpulsivity, PTSD, and numerous other letters for behaviors due to the abuse he suffered as a meth child and his birth momma. He has will power, but was refusing to try. He just went into almost a 2 year old rage for the past few months, in an 11 year old body. Horrible. He had a wake up call today! lol
I hope you don't see anger, his "diagnoses" is one that feeds off emotions. So, being very clinical is actually what he needs. He thrives in this.
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I am so proud of you girl and I am praying that everything works out perfectly and your son now gets the care and treatment he needs. It is never easy, but you Momma Bear handled yourself perfectly. I am glad your military training came back up to the forefront and you came out with barrels loaded.. Well done. XO my dear. Positive thoughts for you and your entire family!! XO
You truly are a angel walking on earth!
