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So, my high school son has made it to the State Literary Arts Competition today (out of town, of course) and I have to work. We were told it was Tuesday (yesterday) and I was off so could be there, then 2 days ago, we discovered that someone had goofed on the date and it was actually Weds (today). Well, I have a job that does not allow me to "call in" or get a sub. I have to schedule my days off WAY in advance and even then it is difficult. There is no way I could get off from work.

I just sent him off and all of the other kids had parents that were going. I just don't want to adult today. I want to cry. And skip work. And drive to be with my boy. Sorry for the pity party.

ETA: This is not the 1st thing I've missed with my kids, nor will it be the last. And I know I'm not alone. I'm just being pitiful. Sorry.
 
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I completely understand! I have 4 children and have had to miss so many things throughout their school days for some reason or another. But children understand more than we usually think they will.
 
Oh, that totally sucks! I absolutely feel your pain. When I was pregnant with my little one, my daughter (5 at the time) and I had quite a few really sad days because I was so exhausted or sore to go to most of her school events.
Hugs for you.
 
It would have been nice if the person who sent out the date could get it right. What a stinky surprise. :( I hope that you're able to get home at a good time and talk with him about the event, at least!

When I was growing up, I was in the same position as your son. My dad worked in a hospital. He worked every other weekend, period. So he missed basically half of every family holiday while I was growing up: Christmas, Fourth of July, Easter, etc, plus my birthday, his own bday, whatever. I don't think I even asked if he could attend school stuff cuz I figured he'd have to work. I understood that his work schedule was rigid; you (and your son) are bummed, of course, but I bet your son understands you have to work. That doesn't make it easier for you, though. :(
 
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Oh Jen, I'd be wanting to cry and skip work too! If only you could take your work with you! I recently did this myself, but it was my own mistake. It's so hard to balance work and home and be happy sometimes. Some days you wish the world could be more flexible for you! Sending big hugs!
 
oh this is a hard one, and I would want to throw myself on the ground and kick and scream...that darn adult thing stops me !!
I imagine the excitement when he gets home, heck I am betting he is gonna fire up your phone with messages and pictures and tell you in detail all about it...wait its a boy.
it was good, can I have this box of cereal? maybe his response
 
Oh man. That is so hard Jen. I totally get it. I've had to miss things for my kids like this on occassion too and it's just awful when you want to be there so bad, but can't. Hopefully, you'll get some text updates from either your son, or one of the other Moms. that's who I usually can rely on in cases like these.

My boys go to a small parochial school and there are a bunch of us that have boys in the same grades, so when it's basketball season and one mom takes one batch to one game and another mom takes the other batch to a different game... we post scores throughout the game to each other.
 
Sorry. Have a small "naughty" party for all when he gets home.... Ice cream for dinner ? Stay up an hour later and eat sweets on a weekday ???
I am sure he understands though , but it might make you feel better ?
 
Jen, I'm sorry you are missing out on this. Darn work!
 
Aw, friend. I hug you. I'm so sorry you have to miss out on something you were so looking forward to! I know he feels and knows your love and support but I also know it hurts when we can show that the way we want to. :beat
 
Aw, Jen! I'm sad for you. I know that he understands but you probably feel worse because you thought you could go up until 2 days ago. That's such a nasty surprise. Hugs to you!
 
Aw, Jen! I'm so sorry! That sucks when you can't be there when you want to be. And feel free to pity party for awhile.

Drat the person that messed up the date/day of the week. I hope you can find some comfort in being there for a mom who needs help with her baby.
 
It's so hard when we can't be there for everything. Congratulations though on your son making it to a state level competition!!! I'm sure he totally understands you would be there if you could and are with him in spirit.
 
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