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Ya this is totally random but I'm bored. If you found out your child was actually switched at birth and not yours, would you want to switch back and get your biological child or would you want to keep the child you have raised so far?:think And no you can't have both LOL
 
hey Tiki...aren't you meant to be scrapping?? *searching for my whip right now*
 
It really depends on the other child. I mean if they were as happy as our family is I couldn't imagine splitting apart two families based only on blood. I could never IMAGINE parting with either one of my children.
 
I couldn't part with one of my children...at any age. But I also couldn't live with knowing that one of my children is living with somebody else and I am missing out on being their mother. Too hard.
 
eryn, i was going to say the same thing. gosh, i would really want to keep both of them. in all honesty, i would pray this other family would be understanding and we could all be an active part of each others lives so we could each know or own children. *sigh* so heart breaking.
 
Quite honestly I can't even imagine what I would do. Just sitting here thinking about it brings a big ol' lump to my throat.
 
very hard question indeed. i think i would opt for making many, many play opportunities for the children to be together. hang out with the other family - at their house - them at mine - ect - - and then yes, eventually tell the children and swap.

i know it would be hard but i've learned through my years of parenting that our physical makeup has alot to do with who we are as a person - there is so much we pass on to our children that doesn't include the 'raising' part.

i mean - look at it this way - you'd have to gear your mind that you were a foster parent for awhile and so was the other parent.

not an easy road for sure but i think doable.
 
I know so hard, I seen this kind of story on the news awhile ago and it really made me think. And periodically since then. I really would want both so thats why i said you cant pick both lol because thats just the easy way. I just can't imagine if I found out. Tyson my youngest just turned 8 months but i don't think it would be any easier on me to "trade" him than my older 2. Yes he would eventually forget me *sob* But I love him and I know him. I really don't think i could trade but then again i know he is my child. So if I knew that someone else is raising my flesh and blood then I might have to because i don't know if I could live with that fact because you want to raise your children, but then how do you give the child you've been raising and loved and know to these people to raise. Ugh I could not imagine having to face this and I know some people do. Heartbreaking.
I am so glad I know my children are mine and i don't have to face it but I still do like to think about all the what if's in life. Trust me I ask my husband a million what if's and would you rather's. He gets annoyed.
 
1girl1boy said:
Quite honestly I can't even imagine what I would do. Just sitting here thinking about it brings a big ol' lump to my throat.
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So true! Thank goodness this happens so rarely. I think the hardest part is having these other people thrusted into your life in such an intimate way. What is that about not being able to pick your family. Well that's what they would instantly be, for better or for worse.
 
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