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melrio

melrio

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I swear, Imma gonna lose it! Geez, the drama in my life sounds like a freakin' long, drawn-out novel that seems like it will never end.

Most here know that I've got one son that returned home late last year due to a his wayward spouse and having a baby by another man. It's been pretty nice around the house since he's found a really nice girl and they are hitting it off just wonderfully. Yesterday, my youngest came knocking on the door and needed a place to go since his wife no longer wants to be married and thinks my son is 'boring'. Really?!?!?! Because he's home every night after working 10-12 hours and trying to catch up on their bills....she thinks he's boring!

So now, I'm trying to get the 3rd bedroom ready for another return to the nest! OMG! Calgon, please take me away!

You may now return to your normal lives. :)
 
I think they always need help of some form or another. I'm happy that you have the space to help him out for a while. My daughter has some friends whose parents WON'T help them and that makes me feel sad.
 
My heart won't let them go anywhere else but I'm thinking that maybe I did some weird drug and its affected their choices in the women they choose to be with. It's almost funny and I would probably bust out laughing so hard I'd pee myself but it just breaks my heart that all 3 of our sons have had 'bad' luck when it comes to choosing wives. I have to admit though....this latest girlfriend of our middle son is really a solid girl and I've heard their conversations and they both want the same things out of life. There. Is. Hope.! :)
 
I'm sorry that they've chosen badly as far as relationships go. But why do they feel that as soon as they don't have a woman to be with, that they can just move home? I value my independence and always have. I haven't lived at my parents' house since I was 17 and wouldn't dream of going back there to live, even if I got divorced in my 20's. I had my own apartment before I got married and would live on my own even if I didn't have a husband. If they have jobs, can they live on their own?
 
Yea....they can but with DS2, he lost everything with a flood about 10 months prior to the split and has 4 little ones that still live at home with their mama. After child support and all the BS (mind you, she had the affair and had baby 5 with another man while still married to my son) my son pays close to $700/month child support for his kids. As for DS3, well......this all just happened last night and from what I heard at lunch from my DIL's mother, there is hope that they will work this out. (Insert a picture of me....on my knees, praying really hard!) The mother thinks that her daughter just was under alot of pressure from her friends and such to tell him to leave. I think it's childish and by that I mean that BOTH of them have had their moments over the past year of pure stupidity on both parts. Trust me, I am by no means not blaming any of my kids since I know how they can be....definitely not perfect. Even so, DS3 wouldn't be at home for more than a couple of weeks (til he got his next paycheck) and he'd be on his own.

Sorry, I really just needed to vent earlier as I was frustrated. Definitely didn't want to put anything on FB. That would just add fuel to fire.
 
Your poor boys. =( I certainly know what it feels like to make the wrong choice when it comes to the opposite sex (I've gone and done it twice. Doh!) But it's tough to go through. I feel for them. And for you! As moms we feel our kids' pain. Especially for your DS2. What a horrible situation for him! It sucks that he has to be the one to pay child support after his wife went and had a baby with another man.

Hang in there Melanie. I'll be thinking about you.:hug
 
Geez. Some chicks. I think there are a lot of perfectly nice ladies out there who can appreciate a man who works hard and comes home at night. There is hope! And sorry for you having to deal with all this!
 
How old are your boys? I was having a conversation with N a while back about how I hope he'll hold off on getting married until he's in his 30s because it's a really sort of a cruel joke to throw two people who don't really even know who they are yet into a lifelong commitment and then just hope that they evolve in the same direction. Not that we have it figured out at 30 yet, either ... but man .. the 20s are a volatile time and then so many of us go and throw a bunch of huge life decisions into the mix - marriage, children, houses, jobs - that we'd only ever really discussed in hypotheticals, if at all. I'm amazed at how many people actually make it through, considering.

Hoping that things turn out to be for the best for all of you, though! Sounds like your boys know who they want to be, so they just have to find women who are compatible with that.
 
Poor boys!! I have to say, after having 3 kids, I'd take boring and predictable any day of the week! Sounds like they definitely found the wrong women for them!! It's nice that they have family that is so close to them though. You are a good mama to let them move in and get a leg up on starting over!
 
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