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my4boys

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I am sorry to do this here but I can't do it on Facebook and I :heartslub it here and value your opinions.

This coming Saturday I am having a family Birthday party for my oldest (19) and my twins (10). I sent out e-mails, texts, facebook invites to everyone over 2 weeks ago and now my SIL in Wisconsin asked me to change the party to Sunday because of the Packer game, seriously the nerve of her to ask me that because of a football game...I think not! Now don't get me wrong, I love football and we will have the game on cause it will be a good one to watch. But here is the kicker, she had her Mother call my husband (her little brother) to have her ask him if we would change the party and got upset with him because she did not think it was such a big deal to change it. Um sorry Mom, all the other people we invited are coming, football game or not! One reason she stated that she did not want to watch the game at my house was because we are so anti-Packer...duh, we live in Chicago. It is a natural rivalry and that will never change.
I am hurt by all of this but the thing that gets me most is that apparently a football game is more important to her than my kids, selfish, selfish girl she is:furious
I am not a selfish person, nor have I ever been. We ask them to come to our house twice a friking year, that is all. We have driven up there to see them all 3 times since Thanksgiving. We did not have to and we did sacrifice a lot in doing so but that is what you do for family, am I wrong?

Ok done, thanks for listening or reading or not reading...either way I just had to get it out :carryon
 
that's so totally UNcool, Christine. i'd be extremely hurt if a dear friend or family member put a sporting event before a life event... especially one of my childrens. ruderuderude.
 
This is coming from a true Niner fan...tell her to just forget about the game, cause NIners are gonna win anyways!!
buy her a crying towel...
that was my snarky side..


I bet the party is gonna rock!!! She will come, and it will be the most awesome party!!

and

a big hug to your hubby for being your support and thinking the same way!! woo hoo on little brother being awesome hubby!! that totally made me happy
 
Oh my - I agree I'd would be very hurt that the game meant more. I'd never ask someone to change a party date. I would make my decision to go or not go. She could simply say - I am sorry we cannot make it. Period. Then it's on her for her decision and not putting it on you. Ugh. So sorry. Hope things work out. I'm sure the party will be wondful.
 
You aren't wrong. I get that football is a big deal to a lot of people, but imo, family comes first. Period. She can still watch the game, and if she's going to get worked up over watching it in a "non-Packers" house she can just cool it.
 
I am with you too! Your SIL = SILLY if you ask me. Silly and immature. Like said by Nicole she should have just said that she was sorry and that they wouldn't be able to make it to your party. Could have even asked if it was okay that THEY would come at a different time or so.
 
Haha! I can totally relate to this, as my family is huge a Bears family, and my sister is SUPER into football. That said, she knows better than to ask me to change my kid's party because of a game. She'd expect the game to be on of course, but she knows better than to ask to move the party. That is so wrong. I'd be super ****ed if I were you.

I frequently have this issue, as my birthday is February 5th, which always coincides with Super Bowl weekend. Ugh.

Stick to your guns!
 
da Bears! (Sorry, couldn't help myself! Thanks SNL)

I agree with you. If a game is that important to them over family......well, maybe someone needs to get their priorities right. (IMHO!) Geez....you can watch the game at the party and who knows....maybe get new fans to help cheer with ya. Hope everything works out for the kids!
 
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I'd be venting too! Yay for hubby supporting you and your family!

Hope they come so the kids are not disappointed, but in my opinion they are the ones missing out if they don't xx
 
NO CHEESE on that birthday party, that will show those cheese-heads to behave! Now fun to the side, that is HORRIBLE. You are in no way wrong, tell those cheese-heads to think what they are asking and saying. THE FREAKING CHEESE NERVE! (Go BEARS!)
 
Wow...some people really have some nerve! That's really awful of her/them to ask that of you. Wow.
 
Don't get up-set. People are who they are and you can't change them. It seems there's one of these in most families lol. Happy Party!!!
 
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yowsers. What would bother me (because I deal with a very passive-aggressive MIL and SIL) is that your SIL had your MIL call your DH. That's so backhanded and sneaky and ANNOYING. It makes me want to say to them "If the game is more important to you than your family's birthday celebrations, then you might as well stay home. We'd hate for your negative attitude to bring down our children's party and make it awkward for the guests who do want to be here."
I can't believe the entitlement she feels about YOUR kids' party and a football game. She has the nerve to say how it's uncool that you hate the Packers in the same breath that she tells you to change the day of the party. But it cuts both ways: she wants to be at home to watch the game because she hates Da Bears more than she loves being with (non-Packers) family. Yikes.
Sorry, like I said I have my own IL issues lol. It's very easy for me to see your side of this. (Well, it should be easy to see your side of this: manners expert Emily Post would agree that your SIL was wrong to ask that. And for such a ridiculous reason.) And I'm not a fan of the Packers of da Bears so I'm not taking sides on that. I'm a Texans fan (and it's a good time to be one rotfl). ;)
 
it all seems so childish and mornic on her part. i would just shrug it off and move on - people like that are best ignored.
 
Ridiculous. I'd just try to not let it upset you - I'd just tell them that I was sorry, but we've already invited a ton of people and they have already made plans to come so you are not changing it. The nerve tho - that is crazy.
 
That is crazy! Just move on with you plans that you have already made. If they come or dont come, either way you will spend a wonderful Birthday party with your little ones :) Enjoy! your birthday party with your kids :)
 
As a Wisconsin resident, I apologize for the entire state. LOL

We don't watch sports at all, so it's amazing we haven't been run out of the state, but I find it annoying that I'm frequently expected to plan things around Packer games... and I live here. So I'm 100% on your side, if that helps. Haha.

I don't get the whole sports fan thing. I love my BravoTV but I'll just tape it and watch it later. LOL
 
I feel your pain. My oldest DD's birthday falls on the same weekend that my DH's brother and his wife play the final baseball tourney of the year so they ALWAYS choose to go to their games and skip the party. Even though I have the party late in the day on the last day of the tourney so that they can make both events, they always skip the birthday party.

The kicker is that my DH's sister and her hubby play on their team but they always come to the party, too. Why one couple can come and the other cannot... It makes my DH mad.

I know that people have their own lives blah blah blah but we gave up countless evenings and weekends to see their son do things when he was little and we never once complained (or skipped to attend something else). Some people just seem to forget that kids are only young once...

And that is my two cents!
 
sweetie you are totally in the right here - fancy asking you to change the day because of a football game .... good grief! Its JUST sport for heaven's sake!! I'm sorry to say but your SIL and MIL are a pair of silly women IMHO.
 
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