I made need an intervention

[Danyale]

Disclaimer: I am a mother of 3 wonderfully amazing kids (30,24,19) and also grandmother - or "Dodo" (like the bird - doe-doe) as my only grand-princess calls me. We only get her about 3 times a year for a week or so visit as her Dad and Mom live out of state.

These 3 things are making me bat crap crazy this week:

1. She ALWAYS seems to be on "break" from her year round school when my creative deadlines are the most insane. These "breaks" have changed the past 3 years, so there is NO WAY for me to carve out time to be truly available with my full attention.

2. This little beautiful, brilliant child (literally as her year round school is for advanced placement students) is currently "baby-talking" this week. She is 8 going on 9 in 2 weeks. She actually said "My needs it" this morning. I rolled my eyes.

I ROLLED my eyes

Is this normal? ::her reverting - not me rolling my eyes:: I have been out of the little girl loop for awhile, maybe I just don't remember.

3. I am pretty sure that the Brave movie is permanently etched in my brain. Words/music and all for the next year or two. I was apparently humming it as I laid in bed last night because my sweet hubby asked me what I was doing. I had no clue. It was all involuntary. I swear

Soooo, any of you with kids or grand-kids this age, please help a sister out.

 

[klee73010]

Does she have friends with new baby siblings, or younger (not necessarily baby) siblings? Could maybe be a thing that's rubbed off. I'd roll my eyes too.

I didn't mind Brave, but have only seen it once. My kids are currently obsessed with Big Hero 6. And I'm preparing for them to be obsessed with "Inside Out" (that's released next week, eeeek!!!!)

 

[Dalis]

I saw that when the kids get new babies in the family or between friends and they get all the attention.

 

[QuiltyMom]

I'd just say something like, I'll talk to the big girl, not the little girl, and only respond when she does. But let her talk that way until she grows out of it. It's a thing they all go through.


And I'd much rather have the Brave songs going through my head at night than the numerous song adaptations made for Ice Dance testing. I work in a rink, and I hear these all the time. I even dream them, or wake up humming them. But I feel worse for the Ice Dance instructors who have to hear those songs way more than me! They must block them out somehow, or go insane.

 

[Danyale]

Does she have friends with new baby siblings, or younger (not necessarily baby) siblings? Could maybe be a thing that's rubbed off. I'd roll my eyes too.

I saw that when the kids get new babies in the family or between friends and they get all the attention.

She is an only child - so maybe that is it (?) She and her Mom have a self-sustaining farm, so her main interaction with kids her age is strictly school age/during school. IDK - I don't want to create worry where I shouldn't, haha!

She is so silly on her visits as it is like her major down time. AHA! Maybe that is it - lots of responsibilities during her home and school life!

I'd just say something like, I'll talk to the big girl, not the little girl, and only respond when she does. But let her talk that way until she grows out of it. It's a thing they all go through.


And I'd much rather have the Brave songs going through my head at night than the numerous song adaptations made for Ice Dance testing. I work in a rink, and I hear these all the time. I even dream them, or wake up humming them. But I feel worse for the Ice Dance instructors who have to hear those songs way more than me! They must block them out somehow, or go insane.

See, I just don't remember our daughter going through it. She certainly did the whole "I am wearing this tutu every single day phase", but not any baby thing. hmmmmm, I guess I will take Brave over may other things I have heard on Disney this week. She doesn't have a tv at home, so she watches some pretty repetitive stuff when she is here as I have a "special list" progammmed in for her in our program - she ca only watch those channels. I do monitor most of it, but sometimes I walk in the room and Disney is showing something I thought would NEVER be there! Craziness!

 

[IntenseMagic]

I have no words of wisdom for you I just wish you well!
Maybe it's just what you said, being silly.
Enjoy your time with her, eye rolls and all

 

[Karen]

I had to giggle at the eyeroll. Lol! I totally would have too! I probably would have followed that up with some snark...

 

[mrspotts]

My oldest went through that stage at about the same age. Hers stemmed from the fact that her and her friends were playing "baby" at recess. One girl would be the mom the others would be the babies. I hated it this stage because it produced the baby talk. I encouraged my daughter to suggest other games for her and her friends to play at recess. I also told her that I would not respond to her if she talked like a baby at home. I reminded her it was a game and that in real life she was not a baby. It took quite awhile to nip that in the bud, but she eventually got over it. I don't think it is uncommon that girls that age go through a phase of playing baby. In fact my younger daughter who is 7 has started playing baby at recess too. Thank goodness the baby talk has not come home though! I wouldn't worry too much about your granddaughter talking like that, but i would definitely explain to her that she can not talk like that to you.

 

[Danyale]

I have no words of wisdom for you I just wish you well!
Maybe it's just what you said, being silly.
Enjoy your time with her, eye rolls and all

Yes, eye rolls and all! I really do love her visits, but this one has been eye opening - she is a pistol!

I had to giggle at the eyeroll. Lol! I totally would have too! I probably would have followed that up with some snark...

I feel as if the eye roll is a perfectly acceptable form of communication now that I have had her little prissy pants here for the week. That followed by the "are you kidding me face" - I am practically a facial barometer for anyone around me, hahahaha!

My oldest went through that stage at about the same age. Hers stemmed from the fact that her and her friends were playing "baby" at recess. One girl would be the mom the others would be the babies. I hated it this stage because it produced the baby talk. I encouraged my daughter to suggest other games for her and her friends to play at recess. I also told her that I would not respond to her if she talked like a baby at home. I reminded her it was a game and that in real life she was not a baby. It took quite awhile to nip that in the bud, but she eventually got over it. I don't think it is uncommon that girls that age go through a phase of playing baby. In fact my younger daughter who is 7 has started playing baby at recess too. Thank goodness the baby talk has not come home though! I wouldn't worry too much about your granddaughter talking like that, but i would definitely explain to her that she can not talk like that to you.

This makes so much sense, and I sorta remember my daughter doing a bit of that as well! I have been feeling out some scenarios talking with her, so I will try this one too.