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purlz76

purlz76

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1st & foremost, my fb acct is not opened to public. So you are unable to find me.

Early this week, I got a msg from one Caucasian man. He looked decent. So I replied.

We chatted, exchanged some tidbits. But I already got a bad feeling (#1). But still, chatting is fine. Besides, a simple "I'm busy" is able to stop him from messaging me.

He is 51yo, from Ireland, divorced 3yrs ago. In Singapore for business and permanent relocation.

I had asked him several times why he chose Singapore, he didn't answer. This is bad feeling #2.

After 1 chat session, he started using "my dear". Okaaaaaaay.

Just 15mins earlier, he "caught" me on fb. Fine. I'm still alert to chat. So I responded.

In this chat session, he started & ended everything with "my dear". This is not ok. (Bad feeling #3 + he sounded very superficial, iykwim.) So I told him so = not comfortable, not an Asian thingy, only couples use tat endearment. He said he understands & okay.

Then he asked abt my son. Fine. I shared a general fact with him.

Then he said "I will be happy to have him as a son". I was like "wait a min" !!!!! I told him "we're just friends, no more no less."

He replied he knows. Then followed with "I am here for a serious relationship. I need to be happy again".

!!! Whooooaaa !!!! I kept quiet.

Then I just got this from him.
"You are the kind of woman, i being praying for in my life. 3 years ago after my divorce i decided not to have anything to do with any woman in my life again but when i came a your profile and your beautiful picture, i decide to sent you a msg also to have a contact with you"

WHOOOOAAAA !!!! I am so backing away manz !!! I ain't gonna respond. I had just unfriend him. He sounds too desperate and too fishy for my liking. If he tried to contact me again, I'll block him. Or maybe I should block him now?

Yup, he used the words "beautiful picture" when I asked him how he "found" me. Yup, tat is the "bad feeling #1" I mentioned earlier.

Haiz ... and here I was ... thinking my man-luck is coming back.

Well, next time then, Agnes :p
 
Oy! Kinda creepy, huh? It's SO hard to be single, but I can't even imagine how tricky it is now with all of the various ways to meet people online. It's so hard to know what a person is really like that way, but too scary to meet in person until you know them better. He does seem like he was moving too fast though! I hope he isn't some creepy stalker guy and that he really was just taken with you and your beautiful picture. :)
 
Omg! I would absolutely block him, he sounds really creepy. Just like Karen said, hope hes not like some creepy stalker. Keep safe.
 
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Karen said:
Oy! Kinda creepy, huh? It's SO hard to be single, but I can't even imagine how tricky it is now with all of the various ways to meet people online. It's so hard to know what a person is really like that way, but too scary to meet in person until you know them better. He does seem like he was moving too fast though! I hope he isn't some creepy stalker guy and that he really was just taken with you and your beautiful picture. :)
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Yup yup yup !!!! And everyone ard me seems to have the good fortune to meet their partner online. Yet me ... haiz ...

I'm not a social butterfly to begin with. So meeting online seems to be the only way.

But again, I am not THAT lonely. Yet, ie :p

He sounded too superficial & fishy to be really taken by my "beautiful picture" :giggle
 
Block him Agnes and be careful! He is in Sing and might be able to track you apart from FB.
 
I have heard so many dreadful stories to even contemplate the idea of talking to someone I don't know, or none of my friends know online.
Be careful because if it is somneone who cab track FB profiles that are not public....you blocking him wont do if the guy is a nutter.
If you have any info at all on FB, like phone numbers or addresses, or schools you attented, change it, delete it.
Then again, maybe he is a lonely guy...and no harm will come if you tell him in total honesty that you rather not carry one the contact..
Lots of people who look for partners online will have a first impression by a photo....whoever says physical appeareances are not important is lying....I'm not saying it is all but the first thing comes through the eyes and is only natural that one looks for something pleasant to the eyes....and you are a beautiful girl..... but anyway, I would be honest and say you rather not have anymore contact...
sometimes guys will be upset by you blocking them....and it may be worse than just tell him you aren't interested....
 
Cynthia, you are so right in every sense.

The physical look still plays an important role in people-relationships. Cos I too look at that 1st & foremost.

And yes, I did send him a message saying "bye bye" before un-friending him. As for blocking him, I shall wait and see what & how he responds. If he still sound the same, I'll said so then block him.

Nope, I didn't put down any personal information in my fb other than my face. But my photo album is personal enuf for all to see.
 
:)
you will be fine, I reckon he just got attracted to you...spoke a bit and liked the sound of you too so he made a move a bit too fast....but doubt he will be a weirdo....the weridoes, the bad ones, they wont make a move fast....more the oppossite, they will take their time in gaining your trust, getting to know as much as they can...then make the move into the weirdness...
you will be fine :)
you are looking for a relationship?
come to London visit us, I ll introduce you to some of my friends ;)
Hugggzzz
 
Did u block him? That is either creepy, stalkerish or just plain crazy neediness. You don't need or want any of that. Block him and say bye bye. That is sooooo inappropriate behaviour. Good riddance. You are a gorgeous fun gal and will find Mr. Right but its definitely not going to be him.
 
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