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Scrapping with Liz

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So my oldest daughter has a boyfriend (this is all new territory for me!). He hangs out here a lot. I have a few pics of them together. BUT do I include him in my scrapbooks? For privacy issues I suppose I probably should blur out whatever pics I have of him if I post them on-line. What if it doesn't last....will she hate looking at those pages?

My 2nd daughter also has an interest. They aren't dating...neither his parents our us feel like they are ready to date...but they do like each other and he hangs out here.

Ugh. Not sure how I feel about all of this. My hubby and I both do like both of the boys...but still.
 
I've scrapped my son and his current girlfriend - they are going on 2 years now. But there is no guarantee that they will stay together. I guess there is no guarantee anyone will. I figure this is part of his story so I do print the pages in our annual books. There is a page in a book from 2 years ago that had a previous girlfriend, he doesn't seem to mind (or maybe hasn't looked at that book in a while). But again, she was a part of his story so I don't mind the page is included.
 
I'm usually a couple years behind in getting pages done and printed so I could fix it then if needed! HA! My son even wrote a story about his ex not being in the family scrapbooks because his mom took her out! If they had already been printed...well that's ok. It's part of history! Of course I made a scrapbook page with his story!
 
I’ve scrapped both of my girls long term boyfriends in the past. They’re both married with children now but have no problem seeing pages with the guys they took to graduation. Guys they dated for a shorter time never made it into the scrapbooks though.
 
I have my old boyfriends scrapped. It's actually kinda neat to look back on, and it's been cool to the kiddo. He thinks it's cool that I dated other people before dad, somehow that means to his 10-year-old brain that I must really love dad. :giggle
I also have photos of my husband's old girlfriends in our books. They are part of his story.

In contemplation: I have old spouses of my siblings and my husband's siblings, old friends I never talk to, a child who had a name change at 1 (I left the old name before, and used the new name after the adoption), old boyfriends of my siblings, a birthmother and half-siblings, etc. It's all part of our story. I think if it was an abusive situation, I would consider removing it, but it hasn't been at this time. I scrap to keep a history though so someone else's answer will be different than mine.
 
We have 6 children, 4 are married and there would not be any issues with ex’s.... except one, my son was so extremely hurt he even asked his sisters to remove her from their social media. But you never know if that would ever even be an issue for you.
 
My children are older so I ask the new girlfriends if I may include them in my layouts and post on social media.
If they were under age you'd need parental permission I imagine.
For now the new one is in my photos, in my personal album, but not used for CT layouts.
The ex-fiance' has numerous photos in my album from 4 years ago. we loved her and she was part of the family for that while, so she is in. I won't remove her and re-do the layouts, unless DS asked me too.
 
My oldest has an ex-wife and my daughter has an ex-significant other who is my oldest grandson's daddy. Both exes (as well as other more short-lived bf/gf) are in my PL pages from years gone by, but at the time they were a part of the story. I scrapped them quite a bit, and I guess I figure down the road when they inherit my books, if my son and daughter want to get rid of those pages they can, but at the time they were totally relevant and neither were abusive types of situations...that might be a little different. For the most part, and as long as it wasn't traumatic, it's fun to look back on photos with old boyfriends/girlfriends lol.
 
I am a hardcore "it's all part of the story" scrapper so yes, I would absolutely include SOs of my kids especially if they're at the house a lot or the relationship lasts awhile. I wouldn't emphasize the lovey-dovey bits as much with younger kids but anything/anyone after high school is fair game.
 
I have also scrapped pictures of girlfriends who later were not. If they stick around for more than a month, scrap them in your story.

I had a friend who was scrapping photos from 3 years ago when her son was married. He is now divorced. She did the wedding pictures anyway, but instead of a whole album, she only did a couple of double page spreads. She also scrapped mostly the family pictures and very few of the bride & groom. She did not write anything about the divorce, pretending instead that the photos had been scrapped in the year it happened.
 
I agree completely with Jan and Courtney. If not traumatic, include it.
 
I am with @AnneofAlamo who said "avoid the lovey-dovey." Treat it like a friend. Sometimes I put a sticker over a face if I really don't want it. Here's a LO I created about the question.
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This was interesting to read through. Neither of my boys have had any interest in dating yet, so I haven't had to come across this issue, but I think I would include them in the current pictures. Especially the way you scrap @Scrapping with Liz , you scrap each week as it comes, so you're capturing current memories and this is what is current for your family.
 
I don't have any other advice than what has already said, but want to share a kind of funny story. When my sister broke up with the guy she dated before her husband, she literally cut the guy out of several photos in our family album with scissors. So we have all these photos with people-shaped cut-outs.

It would have been much easier to do nowadays with Photoshop (before the page is printed anyway).

Also, on a related note, I have a child who has changed their name, as part of discovering they are genderfluid. They understand that I can't go through all the many scrapbooks and journals I've produced over the first 15 years of their life and change every instance. They avoid instances of the dead name now (got rid of mementos with it, etc) but I'm thinking someday they'll be able to skim over it to be able to enjoy looking at the scrapbook pages.
 
Thanks for the tips. I think I'm leaning the same way. Include it, since it's part of the story. I did ask her permission to include him in our family scrapbook pages and I did let him know he would be in our family scrapbooks. LOL! They both were okay with it. Right now I'm with @AnneofAlamo and keeping it more on the friend level in the scrapbook.

It's a new phase of parenting for me too...so it's all kind of weird right now as we figure things out.
 
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kimingvtx said:
I'm usually a couple years behind in getting pages done and printed so I could fix it then if needed!
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^^ This is me :giggle

If I'm current with scrapping/printing, the ex stays in the book as is. If I'm not current, I keep it just to events where they can't be avoided (prom, school dances, etc. come to mind) and downplay the dating. But even with working current, I always downplay the "love" angle and stick more to the facts of the event, if that makes sense.
 
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