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mcalleigh

mcalleigh

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So I need to vent. And I cant do it on facebook cud my stupid sister in law will see it. Ha.

So I have a sister in law who could care less if her kids are sick (she cares if THEY are sick but doesn't care if her kids are going to get others sick.) Her daughter who is not quite 2 has now had hand foot and mouth twice. The most recent time being the week before mothers day. Guess who decides that she should be the one to host mothers day dinner? Yup-her. Guess who wants to boycott and not go because she doesn't want her barely 1 year old exposed to hand foot and mouth? Yup-me. But husband says we need to go cuz we need to see his mom on mothers day.

So we go. I am being crazy cautious about what my son is touching and eating etc. Feeling like I did really good at not letting him get exposed to that junk-we left.

Fast forward exactly one week later. My son is acting strange and has a mild fever and wont eat. Same thing for the next two days only getting worse. I thought maybe he could be teething as he showed all the symptoms. Well tonight I was playing with him and saw all these weird blister things on his feet. And on his bum. A quick google search of hand foot and mouth disease and we match. EXACTLY. Grr. I am so MAD!

I was supposed to meet up with said sister in law tomorrow and promptly text her letting her know we probably shouldn't get together because my son has hand foot and mouth. Her response: I'm sorry. Its going around. I don't think he would have gotten it here cuz she didn't have it anymore.

Oh I'm sure he didn't get it there. He never leaves our house except to go to grandmas. He stays in his carseat everytime we go to any store cuz I don't want to deal with trying to keep him from licking the nasty cart handle. So yeah. I'm sure his body just decided to get it all on its own.

I think I'm done interacting with her family for quite some time cuz this is not the first time we have gotten sick after seeing them. Oh that's right EVERYTIME we see them we come home with something. Ugh. K. I'm done.

So all you mamma's who have dealt with this-any tips?? And also-how in the world do you sanitize after something like this. Ugh. Thanks for listening...er..reading! :)
 
Ugh, I feel for your son. I had it when I was 16 and I remember how awful it was. It passes in a few days, but the blisters in the mouth make it very painful to eat and drink.

Try to sanitize with something like Lysol wipes or if you prefer the environmental way like I do, microfiber cloths. Wash all the soft stuff well and use the heat cycle on the dryer.

Hope no one else catches it. :(
 
Oh so sorry!!!! Dealing with family can be so hard at times!! I have no suggestions. Sounds like you are doing all you possibly can. Hope the little guy feels better soon.
 
Oh no, that's awful! I can't believe how unconcerned she was about the whole thing.
 
Hand Foot and Mouth has been going around here too and it's scary. I am sorry you are dealing with all this family stuff. Just be confident in what you are doing to help keep your own family safe and don't worry about people, even if they are family.
 
I cannot beleive how out of the loop I am with these things...I've never even heard of this desease! Sounds awful though and I sure hope your little one gets better soon. I am surprised by her lack of sympathy and I wonder what your husband's opinion is now that your little one is sick. I unfotunetly have no advice but I do know that family issues like this can be a total pain!

Hugs
 
oh gosh. such a pain in the tush! (aww, quite literally for the little one?) hope he gets better soon! as for advice, i've never been in this situation, but maybe letting hubby go when kids are sick? they stay away from germs but he can still visit. then capitalize on the times when everyone is healthy so there are no hard feelings when someone is sick. good luck!
 
poor baby, I've had it and it SUCKS! I'd be mad too, I can't stand when people have no regard for others catching their illnesses! I ALWAYS call to cancel and/or warn people if we are getting together and the kids have so much as a cold! The other day I had a family come in and ask what the best thing would be to treat their daughter for her chicken pox. Not so bad, until I realize, the poor little girl is standing RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME! OH EM GEE people, take your sick kid HOME!!! and keep her there!!!! Like, do they not know how many little babies and frail old people I have in that drugstore on a daily basis, not to mention, oh, ME???? So yeah, I feel your pain and frustration!!!
 
Awww poor sweetie! I so hope he's feeling better soon soon soon!

Family can be tricky sometimes no? I'm quite like you..I get aggravated by the parents who don't seem to be diligent about the sharing of germs. Sad truth is, it will happen in all kinds of circles. I've experienced it with kids who are clearly sick showing up at Sunday School, and oodles of times at school itself. It can be sooo frustrating. So I'd be upset too. But I think you did all you could do in trying to prevent and you did right by the family to be a part of the Mother's Day activities. So sorry the end result was the HFM though. :( Boo to that!

I like Heather's suggestion..it's a win-win. DH can visit with the family if their kids are sick so he can spend time with them and you and your son can stay away from the germs. And then you can avoid getting to that place of feeling resentful because your sweetheart gets sick from shared germs. Because I know that's an icky feeling. Especially when it's family. And then you can soak up the healthy times, like Heather says.
 
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To clarify, my husband didnt want to go either, but my husband is so to speak the favorite. We dont hear the end of it if we dont show up, we hear about it for months it seems. :(

Thankfully, he seems to be on the uphill side of things, and has FINALLY started sleeping through the night again and actually eating. Thank heavens!

Last night my husband said to me: "Lets just stay away from family things for the next few months. I am done dealing with a sick baby." Hahaha! I couldn't agree more!!

I just get irritated, because said sister in law is the only one who doesn't care about spreading illness. All the rest of us either stay home or cancel the gathering if there is no way to get around not spreading things. No one likes having a sick kid, so its not hard to relate? Ugh. Some people just dont get it I guess. :)

Thanks for all the ideas! :)
 
I'm so sorry you're going through this! Interesting timing-- I was just reading about HFM disease yesterday because it's going around our kindergarten classes as we speak. It's highly contagious, apparently so there was probably no chance of preventing it from transferring to your son at her house. Good for you for trying to advocate for your son's health! Maybe you can use this as an example the next time you would like to stay home for health reasons. (p.s it's nice to have a place to vent where she can't see it, huh?) Take care.
 
I am so sorry :( My in-laws (except for my fil) are total idiots so I feel your pain on in-law issues. Hope your son feels better soon (((HUGS)))
 
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