scrapsandsass
Oh Ricky you're so fine ...
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Do you gently nudge the loved ones in your life? I hate the idea of nagging (although I will do it to Jessica, because #momduties). I really don't ever nag Tim about anything. But today I had to stand my ground and actually nag him about something. Ugh. I hate to sound naggy.
I've been asking, for the last few years, to get a lock on our back gate. We have a garage that is at the back of the property on the alley with a fence/gate that runs at the back of the property. I've always been nervous about weird people going down the alley (because there have been some sketchy people).We have had people come into our yard to steal gas cans that are back by the garage, random tools have gone missing, and our back gate has been open/left open many times in the past. Every time, I ask Tim to put a lock on the gate. It worries me that Kennedy could be out playing and have some stranger come into the yard. So literally years of pleasant asking/suggesting.
Anyway, I came home today to find our garage open. Someone stole things out of our garage, including my bike. There are other things missing as well, but we can't figure out exactly what because the garage is more like a storage space for random things that Tim puts out there. We won't know what else is missing until we think to look for something out there
I was furious. It isn't just the financial loss of a $500 bike that I loved and can't replace or the missing tools or whatnot... it is more the feeling of violation from someone coming into our yard and taking stuff. And then wondering if someone is watching our comings and goings... and that feels totally creepy. I feel totally lucky that it wasn't something worse and I know that many people deal with things that are far more difficult or suffer other crimes or have bigger losses. But it was just one of those stupid things that hits you gives yucky feelings. Just frustrating.
So tonight, Tim went and bought a lock for the back gate. Finally. Yay. #nagwin #smallsecurities
I've been asking, for the last few years, to get a lock on our back gate. We have a garage that is at the back of the property on the alley with a fence/gate that runs at the back of the property. I've always been nervous about weird people going down the alley (because there have been some sketchy people).We have had people come into our yard to steal gas cans that are back by the garage, random tools have gone missing, and our back gate has been open/left open many times in the past. Every time, I ask Tim to put a lock on the gate. It worries me that Kennedy could be out playing and have some stranger come into the yard. So literally years of pleasant asking/suggesting.
Anyway, I came home today to find our garage open. Someone stole things out of our garage, including my bike. There are other things missing as well, but we can't figure out exactly what because the garage is more like a storage space for random things that Tim puts out there. We won't know what else is missing until we think to look for something out there
I was furious. It isn't just the financial loss of a $500 bike that I loved and can't replace or the missing tools or whatnot... it is more the feeling of violation from someone coming into our yard and taking stuff. And then wondering if someone is watching our comings and goings... and that feels totally creepy. I feel totally lucky that it wasn't something worse and I know that many people deal with things that are far more difficult or suffer other crimes or have bigger losses. But it was just one of those stupid things that hits you gives yucky feelings. Just frustrating.
So tonight, Tim went and bought a lock for the back gate. Finally. Yay. #nagwin #smallsecurities
Important things MUST get done.
You must have been furious as well as--if not necessarily scared but at least wary because of that violation of your personal space and your belongings. May I ask, is there a better door, lock, motion sensor light, or something else that you could also put on the garage? Or one of those motion detectors that makes an insanely loud noise if there's movement? If he's finally putting a lock on the gate, perhaps you can get him to increase the garage's security too. 
But I can't always do what I'm asking him to do, so it's frustrating.
There are just a few things that I'm not great with doing and most of the time I will bring it up (repeatedly) and DH will put it off until something happens that makes him realize how important it is, like your gate lock incident. I went out and bought heat tape for our water pipes under the house in Sept or Oct last year and about once a week or so I'd tell him that he really needs to get that put on before the cold weather comes. He didn't. Pipes froze. Then burst. 
Not dangerous at the beginning, annoying maybe but very bad in the long term and it won't necessarily accomplish what you want. So I do my very best not to nag. I'll bring up something once in awhile - casual question, but as it gets more urgent I'll be more pointed. If I can take care of something myself though, I will.
BUT many times, I just end up doing stuff myself because 1- I've asked a million times and 2- because I can. It may not be pretty but it gets done! I fully understand that my short self really SHOULD wait for my tall husband to change lightbulbs (and that I should not put a stool on top of a chair on top of another chair to reach!) But sh*t gets done that way! 
