Can You Let Things Go?

[bcgal00]

Bwahahahaha! I do love to design and decorate! I'm so grateful for my sis-in-law. She's always thrifting and finds me the happiest little items . . . as well as my mom who goes to estate sales . . . but then again, Amazon is my friend, too!

I shop at amazon a lot too (both the US and the Canadian site). I was shocked to order a glass carafe that came the next day (which I love BTW, it's so pretty). They had it taped with "prime" tape so maybe they are giving us "frequent shoppers" a taste of what amazon prime is like (sucks that we don't get the netflix-like pkg though like the Americans) so I told my hubs last night that I'm going to order prime b/c i love the fast shipping b/c here in Canada it can take forever to get stuff delivered.

 

[Sokee]

What a have a HARD time with is not being able to say "I'm sorry, I'm not able to help with that" I say yes to everything for fear of what someone will think of me if I say "no'. My hubby gets so frustrated with me. I'm working really hard to try and change that with my personality.

 

[gonewiththewind]

I shop at amazon a lot too (both the US and the Canadian site). I was shocked to order a glass carafe that came the next day (which I love BTW, it's so pretty). They had it taped with "prime" tape so maybe they are giving us "frequent shoppers" a taste of what amazon prime is like (sucks that we don't get the netflix-like pkg though like the Americans) so I told my hubs last night that I'm going to order prime b/c i love the fast shipping b/c here in Canada it can take forever to get stuff delivered.

We've been Prime subscribers since they first offered it. I love being able to get things in 2 days!

 

[wombat146]

A few years ago when I worked and was travelling all over the countryside I started saying NO as I realised that when I was actually home I was helping other people and DH just put his foot down one day and asked if we were 'still together' as a couple!! LOL! That was a wake up call for me and made me realise just why I was always tired and worn out. I would get home from a business trip on Friday afternoon, get the groceries done and go home, then race out to hep with whatever I had volunteered for on the Saturday and then come and collapse. Sunday morning was getting laundry done and 8 times out of 10 repacking my bag to head off for work either late Sunday afternoon or early Monday morning. Luckily there were no kids at home then!

Once I started saying no I soon found out who my true friends were and ever since I don't find it hard to say no at all, even now when I am retired. I am doing what I like doing and what makes me happy which in turn makes for a happier person to be around........... ask my DH!!

So yes, sit down and work out what things need to be done, what you like doing, what really needs to be done and then cross the ones that are non-essential of your list and THEN start saying no to taking on any new stuff that you really don't want to be doing. You are the only one with that sort of power over yourself.

 

[lizziej]

Add me to the list! I have only one child and I figured I would have more time the older he got. Nope, and I'm trying to figure out why. I work full-time outside the home, so my time is limited. Thankfully my husband helps me around the house (he's in charge of the dishwasher and makes dinner M-Th - he gets home before me), but sometimes my house is not as clean as I think it should be. My husband keeps telling me, "Liz, you can't do everything. It's okay. You need time to relax." That really helps. Since I used to have a horrible job (I just left that one, and I'm starting a new one in about 2 weeks), I would be spent when I got home.

My advice is to just make yourself say no one time; it will be hard. The next time it will be easier. I think it's hard for SAHMs, too, because some people think, "Oh, you're home all day. You have time." Sheesh. Most SAHMs I know are busy filling in when us WOHMs can't do things, especially driving kids around. I once told my SIL (my brother's wife), "I'm glad I work outside the home. You make me tired listening to all you do."

 

[MrsPeel]

I used to be really good at getting organized to be able to do all I needed, the past few months have been a lot more difficult, as my brain seems to have frozen and my neurological condition keeps getting worse.
I am very frustrated right now as it seems like every time I deal with the last obstacle, another ones comes following.... you know I am not usually one to come moaning, but I'm in the verge of tears right now because of the electricity blowing up (an hour or so ago) and the fuses jumped 3 times, every time we connected it jumped out again (4 times) last time the washing machine (brand new last week bought £300) isn't working.
I was terribly upset because I needed to post my pages and everything was going wrong with the other computer (which has attached the EHD where my pages are) and almost cried when Sarita told me the world wasn;'t going to collpase if I don't post my pages now.... but my little universe does collapse, because that means tomorrow everything will get moved for later...so yes, it is extremely difficult for me to let go, I sometimes am able ...but it hurts ...

 

[cinna]

Carina - I'm assuming fatigue syndrome makes you tire out faster? I can relate a bit as with my thyroid disease I noticed a big difference in my stamina, it's like a switch being turned off, one minute I'm fine and then the next minute a wave of fatigue washes over me and I am ready for bed. These days I can barely keep my eyes open past 10 pm and I used to stay awake until about midnight or 1:00 pm, especially on wkends, but not anymore.

Yes it does, but for me the problem is to actually slow down the pace BEFORE I crash. If I get going with stuff way over my capacity it always backfires. So, so hard to accept that.