Don't discount a camera just because it has video - virtually every dslr out there now comes with video built in. You don't have to use it if you don't want to.
I shot Canon for a little more than two years and then switched to Nikon, which I have been using for the past 3-4 years...both have their pros and cons. People will tell you to try them out to see which feels better in your hand, but with the exception of one camera I've owned, I never felt it first, I just ordered it from the internet. And the one I did try I did because I was switching brands and at the time was more concerned about image quality and features than the feel - I was so fed up with my previous camera that I'd have been happy using a brick if it took photos.
The advantage for you to have a Nikon is that you will most likely be able to use your husband's lenses (assuming he will share).
The one thing I don't like about Nikon is that if you buy a crop body (ie, an entry level body) you will most likely be paired with a DX lens if you buy a kit (camera/lens combo). DX lenses do not work on full frame cameras. You may never move to a full-frame camera so this might not be a concern, but it limits the cameras you can move into without having to purchase an FX version of the same lens. All FX lenses will work on crop or full frame bodies, but you cannot use a DX lens on a full frame camera (you can in that it will mount and it won't damage the camera, but you end up with really wonky vignettes).
My two Nikons are both full frame so I can't help you with the camera line up at all, I honestly don't even know which models are out there right now. But I don't really think you can go wrong with much.....I would probably recommend that if you look at Canon to go one step up from the Rebel line. You will get a considerably better camera for not a lot more money.