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jk703

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Hi Everyone! I need a virtual hug. :( Things are going to get super stressful around here, and I'm already feeling it.

DH works for Verizon and is a part of the union. DH's and another union, approx 36,000 across the East Cost, have been working without a contract since August. A strike is tentatively slated to start tomorrow, 6am. I also know that there are 3 sides to every story - theirs, ours and the truth. I'm not at the discussions, but I just hope for a good outcome.

It will be stressful around my house. DH, just because he isn't going to be working, and not making any money, and me, who handles all the finances, if it goes on a long time. I stress anywhere but at home, cause then it makes DH even more stressed. We are very open and communicate well, but I don't want to put extra stress on him. Plus, I know that if things got terribly bad, we would have our family and friends to support us along the tough time. I'm also trying to keep positive, believe in the positive, and working on back up plans! (The Pollyanna in me!)

Whether you believe in unions or not, we are all entitled to our own opinions, a little positive thoughts for my family would be really appreciated. I know they will make me feel so much better!

Thanks for reading, and letting me de-stress here.
 
Oh, Jenn, I hope everything is resolved quickly with a positive outcome for you all. We've gone through several periods of (very) extended unemployment, so I know how stressful the financial end of that can be. Somehow everything always seems to work out. I'll be thinking of you! (((hugs)))
 
My husband is a contractor who did mainly remodels. We had a very rough couple of years!! I understand the stress and I understand trying to keep it out of the home...I did as well to try to keep my husband from stressing more as well. Thank God for my girlfriends because I needed somewhere to vent and cry and freak out from time to time. This place seems no different...we may all live in your computer but I think you'll find a ton of support here. I've only been around since doing the MOC in January but I love checking in every day - sometimes many times a day - whether I have something to say or not.

Best of luck with everything!! You'll get through it!!
 
Thank you all! It means more than you think. I know others go through hard times, and I know we will. Hearing stories that people have had similar situations and come out ok, helps to keep the positive flowing!
 
My husband's been laid off 3 or 4 times since we've had kids. I know exactly how it is & I have let anger & resentment get to me at times, I'm human. We've gotten through it though. Good luck with everything. All my love.
 
I believe in scrapping the good times, the bad and ugly...cause the bad and ugly become easier over time.
I love this community, because it is a safe place...hugs to you and may you and your family laugh together over this soon!! my hubs :hairpolwas out of work for almost a year, :furiousand I didn't even kill him :bat(but I did think about it) bhwhahah now don't judge...:hide
 
Consider V-hug sent!! Hoping that the leaders at the table (on both sides) can come to an agreement!
 
A few years back my husband's work just closed the doors. They had been having troubles but kept telling everyone that it was all going to be okay. That they weren't going to go out of business. My husband came home on Friday evening, we went out and did our shopping for that payday and got lots of stuff. Including extra food. Came home from shopping and he got a phone call telling him to come in first thing Monday morning and pick up his tools, that the business was closing and he needed to get his things out of there before they officially had the doors shut on them. Well that kind of left us standing there in a panic! And here we had just spent so much money!!

Now, if we had known that earlier, we wouldn't have spent so much on groceries that night. We'd have really cut back. But it turned out that we got enough that when it was added to what we had in our pantry and freezer, it got us thru the six weeks we were off work. Then our income tax checks arrived in time to pay the monthly bills. But we worried and worried for six weeks about getting another job and how we were going to pay the bills. In the end it all turned out good.

So! What I learned...We had prayed and prayed about all of this. I learned that we needed to have more faith that all would be okay. We had prayed that all would be well for us. Then we worried instead of having that faith. I learned that we could have been enjoying that unexpected six week vacation as a family doing fun but no cost things together and loving life...IF we hadn't been so worried! We missed out on some good time together because of our worries. And yes, I also realize that even if your faith is great enough that you don't worry, you do still need to be looking for the solutions or the new job or whatever it is you are needing. You can't just sit there and hope it somehow falls into your lap.

So, I guess my advice would be that you enjoy your time together. Yes, there is the concern as to what will happen, but it really doesn't do any good to let it worry you and get you down. What happens, happens. So try to be positive and enjoy this time you have been given. Really enjoy it! Things will work out and it will eventually be okay again. I have tried to remember the lessons learned from our experience and when my husband just missed a week of work due to illness this past month, I remembered to not worry. I loved that he could stay home and just get well. And now we are working the rest of it out. It's all good so far. :)

Hope this can help you in some way. Hugs! :)
 
I'm sending positive thoughts your way and I'm praying that this gets figured out quickly and positively. HUGS!
 
Thank you all! Very much!

Jan... that is a great reminder. I will tell DH he has to enjoy it while he can! Oddly, that happened to us. Just this weekend, we left a $1200 deposit for 7 weeks camp for the boys this summer. We still have a huge chunk to pay, but knowing what I know now, I would have held off a few weeks. If it goes that long, maybe we can shorten the amount of weeks. Ugh! Murphy's Law. We will wait and see what happens. I will keep positive and try to go with the flow.

We are ok for a time, but I am a worrywart, so I can't help it. Plus, knowing I have family and friends support if things were to unravel beyond my imagination, is in the back of my mind, creating a positive outlook.
 
Sending some big hugs your way and lots of positive thoughts of peace and resolution for you both. Hang in there, hun and come vent away anytime. ((Hugs))
 
You got it! Having endured 3 periods of prolonged unemployment with my husband, I know the unique stressors. Hugs and prayers that it is resolved quickly.
 
A big hug and prayers. It's hard when you handle the money and have to look at "what if's" Hang in there and keep us posted even if it's venting.
 
Sending you hugs. Sounds like a stressful situation but I hope everything gets resolved quickly and easily.
 
(hugs) delivered! My BIL worked for Verizon here in PA . . . and it constantly back and forth. He ended up taking a buy out offer to leave (fortunately my sister has a great job) . . . started his own business and hasn't looked back. It's been good for their marriage too . . . I think both of them were underestimating the amount of stress the uncertainty was causing.

Wishing for the best . . .
 
Sending you lots of hugs, prayers and positive thoughts. I hope that there's a quick resolution and that the stress, both emotional and financial, is as little as possible. Hang in there, friend. xo
 
Thank you all! I appreciate it so much! I'm lucky that DH and I do communicate well, and we are a team! Fingers crossed they work it out well, and on the faster side!
 
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