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Should I friend my MIL in FB?

Dalis

Dalis

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Let's say that unfortunately my husband and I don't have very healthy relationships with our mothers. Yep, in other words we both have MOMMY ISSUES. :giggle
I just got a friend request from my MIL #1 (hubby's mom). What do I do? I feel she would be spying on us. <---- told ya' mommy issues everywhere. :dizzy
 
Oh boy...that's a tough one. Unfortunately, if you don't accept she'll probably never forgive you and it might not be worth the hassle. Just remember to come here to vent about life issues with her....not on FB :)
 
Rae,
I tend not to vent over there about her because my hubby's sister is a friend of mine in facebook.
 
You could friend her and then set up a filter that doesn't show her everything. ;) You can be tricky like that. I have a friend I set up that way because while I love him and his wife, he is a bit of a nut job about certain things. So I set it up that he doesn't see things I post. ;)
 
kimberlee,
would she get to see pictures? I think that is what she mostly wants to see. I AM HOPING. You see I used to send her pictures very frequently and then we started having more issues on the phone and stuff. Now, I don't send her anything or call her.
 
yep dalis, i think if i were you, i would just set filters so she can only see what you choose to let her see.
although, no one says you are required to friend her at all. if you're not comfortable with it, then don't. only you can decide if that's a trade off that's worth it for you.
 
RebeccaH said:
yep dalis, i think if i were you, i would just set filters so she can only see what you choose to let her see.
although, no one says you are required to friend her at all. if you're not comfortable with it, then don't. only you can decide if that's a trade off that's worth it for you.
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^^^THIS
 
I had mine on the restricted list for the longest time. The only thing they can see on that is your public updates. But if your SIL isn't on the same list she might find out.
 
i wouldnt add her ha ha but thats just me and if she asked id act innocent and say i havent recieved anything off her lol
 
Unless there were serious issues in the past (abuse, drugs etc. ), I'd give her the benefit of the doubt. Just my two cents.
 
I think you can't avoid it but if you use lists it helps filtering what you want a certain group to see.
I have all my scrap "relations" in one group so that my family don't get all the notifications about scrap all the time for example. So when you post something you can choose which group will see it. If it's "friends" than all your friends will see it, if you choose "scrap" than only your scrap mates will see it. But I'm not sure it works that well for when you look at your FB on iPhone.
 
I agree about giving her restricted access, and for your sake, you might want to take her off your newsfeed, just, ya know, so she doesn't have the potential to drive you crazy.
 
That's the reason why I'm especially well-behaved on facebook... and why I don't tell people from my RL about my twitter and tumblr, where I tend to act out. So I befriend relatives on facebook... and then they just have to deal with what they're reading there.
 
I just realized I still haven't accepted her friendship... LOL!!!
 
Are you sure that friend request didn't get lost in cyberspace ? You know computers and the internet can do very weird things. ;-)
 
I have several people on my restricted list...my daughter in law's mother is one of them. If I want her to see a photo, I tag Shelley in it, and then I know she'll be able to see it. I don't share the grandbaby photos anymore though...if she wants to see them, she'll have to get them from her daughter! I don't need the drama!
 
No way Jose!!!!! I say no because if you do & something happens you may not be able to shake her! Happened to us.
 
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